why would he say this?

[kevin2657]

Love it

seen that before, object of harassment does not complain someone else does and the harasser is on the street. Caution at the office is a virtue. Someone told me once. Never get your meat where you make your bread,I keep that in mind

Very nice "never get your meat where you make your bread" That is the Quote of the day!!

 

[comtec2005]

I would think it looks like he took his shot and missed. Sounds like it will probably end there with no harm done...

 

[rcfstl]

Very nice "never get your meat where you make your bread" That is the Quote of the day!!

Violated that rule once okay twice ended up with an ex wife out of the deal

 

[Minnesota_Guy]

I cannot fathom why a guy would ever think its OK to say something like that to a woman.

Where is the respect in that?
There is obviously no respect for the woman in that situation.
Does the guy have any respect for himself?
I don't know how the hell a guy like that can sleep at night.
I guess I'm too old fashoned...

 

[rcfstl]

I agree Minnesota,
There is being playful with someone you know out of work and think is receptive and then there is just plane ass hole

 

[brioche]

If I were you, I would tell him personally that you found his remarks insulting, overly suggestive and unacceptable in the workplace. In future, you would appreciate it if he refrained from making such remarks. Whether or not you consider that sexual harassment you need to show him that a) you won't take that shit and b) he can't talk like that without repercussions.

Also, if you wanted to lay the groundwork for a sexual harassment suit you would put that in writing and document his behaviour. But you probably don't.

How did he know? Well, didn't you say it? It's always the quiet ones.
brioche

 

[Minnesota_Guy]

If I were you, I would tell him personally that you found his remarks insulting, overly suggestive and unacceptable in the workplace. In future, you would appreciate it if he refrained from making such remarks. Whether or not you consider that sexual harassment you need to show him that a) you won't take that shit and b) he can't talk like that without repercussions.

Also, if you wanted to lay the groundwork for a sexual harassment suit you would put that in writing and document his behaviour. But you probably don't.

How did he know? Well, didn't you say it? It's always the quiet ones.
brioche

ABSOLUTELY!!!

Or you could just say "Keep dreaming shitball!"

 

[Minnesota_Guy]

I agree Minnesota,
There is being playful with someone you know out of work and think is receptive and then there is just plane ass hole

Well said.

So there you go Sinnamongyrl...You can be as nasty as you want at home but you shouldn't have to put up with it from some shallow co-worker.

 

[wtf????]

ok,,,so a few days ago,,, abunch of us at work were just fucking off and talking.One of the men(USED to be one of my office mangers,,but works at a diff location now) kept looking at me.SO i am like"NICK,,is there something wrong?",,he says nooo,,,,no,,,nothing its ok.well after a few minutes,,,almost everyone cleared the room to go back to work.I am still standing there because i was printing a report.Then he goes"ya know,,, i will just bet you are a freak in the bedroom""men can tell ya know..and ill just bet you are smokin'.....you must fuck your husband sideways///".....ok,,now,,,WHY did he say this?was that just an awful try at a pickup line,,or do you think he can tell?.......GUYS,,can you tell if a woman is a freak or not?

nope, just a lame ass pick up line.

 

[sinnamongyrl]

good,,thanks,,so no one at work knows my"secret self?" hahahhah

 

[ewopper]

ok,,,so a few days ago,,, abunch of us at work were just fucking off and talking.One of the men(USED to be one of my office mangers,,but works at a diff location now) kept looking at me.SO i am like"NICK,,is there something wrong?",,he says nooo,,,,no,,,nothing its ok.well after a few minutes,,,almost everyone cleared the room to go back to work.I am still standing there because i was printing a report.Then he goes"ya know,,, i will just bet you are a freak in the bedroom""men can tell ya know..and ill just bet you are smokin'.....you must fuck your husband sideways///".....ok,,now,,,WHY did he say this?was that just an awful try at a pickup line,,or do you think he can tell?.......GUYS,,can you tell if a woman is a freak or not?

Ithink he was fishing, it seems he got your interest piqued so he accomplished part of his agenda lol.

 

[Nj_Spanish_23]

i think he might have been a bit improper, but unless you are a believer in coincidences (sp) he might've just saw the freak in you. I think you should've answered in a confident manner, i hate it when women try to act shall we say "puritan" for no reason.

 

[wtf????]

good,,thanks,,so no one at work knows my"secret self?" hahahhah

I want to know your "secret self" you naughty girl.

 

[LibraStud]

good vibrations

As a person grows older and wiser, you learn to categorize certain
individuals and their daily actions, especially two individuals in a tête-à-tête. I worked for a VERY LARGE Fortune 500 company. I saw thousands of men and women go about their daily office activities.

Here are a few categories:

Women who are having a difficult time in their private lives.

Women who could care less about men.

Women who are planning their daughter’s 2007 wedding.

Women who have large egos.

Women who want and need attention on a regular basis.

Women who want and need sex on a regular basis.

There are many more.

God gave us two eyes, two ears, and only one mouth for a reason. Just sit back and observe. It does not take a genius to make correct assumptions about various individuals. You and I give off all kinds of vibes. My guess, sinn, is that you enjoy sex and you enjoy giving off sexual good vibrations. You are a wonderfully naughty girl. Nothing wrong with that, except that an office environment and your private residence are two entirely different venues. Exercise caution would be my unsolicited advice.

 

[sinnamongyrl]

thanks sweetie,I appreciate the advice,I do know that however I am fully aware of how sexual i am and I make it an effort to "watch it" at work.I am leaving this job anyway(i am being treated VERY VERY badly by currnet office manager)...and have no desire to climb their shitty ass ladder,,I also have never and will never use sex to get ahead,,I know you did not accuse me of it,,,,,,,I just wanted to add that,I love sex...all kinds of sex and i think it just to profound to do somethng as ASS as use it.It could be my looks....people assume a lot aboput me beacuse of the way i look.I dress very professionly,,its just everrything else.BUT i told my mom,,,well sort of...cuz no one knows the real me like my mom...and she said i was just one of those women that sent off this vibe and that i was a flirt.....mmm.....never ever saw myself that way....(i high school i got biggest flirt,,but i thought that was a bit of a joke.......).....i just dont like the thought of my having to squelch an inate part of my being,,,,,sighhhh,,,,,sorry for babbling,,,iam feeling alll weird today...just ignore me....

 

[LibraStud]

thanks sweetie,I appreciate the advice,I do know that however I am fully aware of how sexual i am and I make it an effort to "watch it" at work.I am leaving this job anyway(i am being treated VERY VERY badly by currnet office manager)...and have no desire to climb their shitty ass ladder,,I also have never and will never use sex to get ahead,,I know you did not accuse me of it,,,,,,,I just wanted to add that,I love sex...all kinds of sex and i think it just to profound to do somethng as ASS as use it.It could be my looks....people assume a lot aboput me beacuse of the way i look.I dress very professionly,,its just everrything else.BUT i told my mom,,,well sort of...cuz no one knows the real me like my mom...and she said i was just one of those women that sent off this vibe and that i was a flirt.....mmm.....never ever saw myself that way....(i high school i got biggest flirt,,but i thought that was a bit of a joke.......).....i just dont like the thought of my having to squelch an inate part of my being,,,,,sighhhh,,,,,sorry for babbling,,,iam feeling alll weird today...just ignore me....

You wrote: "never ever saw myself that way....(i high school i got biggest flirt,,but i thought that was a bit of a joke.......)....."

Your high school classmates had you pegged, LOL, see. It is tough to accept the ways others see us. But many times it is true. For example, most people see me as a laid back, quiet individual (I have been told this many times by genuine friends) but they are unaware of the effect that my medicine has on me. I really am very outgoing and gregarious.

I grew up under the tutelage of dedicated private instructors. They taught two things – responsibility and discipline. I am lucky enough to have stood on their shoulders. Unfortunately today’s high school educational system does not, for many reasons, stress discipline and responsibility. Thus we have individuals who don’t see the need to “hold back” on any of their desires. This includes sex, drugs, harassment, groping in the hallways, talking in class, talking back to their instructors, fighting on school buses, etc., etc., you get the picture. That is why I teach at the university level so I do not have to deal with “mommy and daddy’s” problem children. When “they” have to pay big $$$ for their schooling, all of the tomfoolery goes away. Imagine that.

Now I am the one rambling. Have a sexy great day.

 

[kevin2657]

thanks sweetie,I appreciate the advice,I do know that however I am fully aware of how sexual i am and I make it an effort to "watch it" at work.I am leaving this job anyway(i am being treated VERY VERY badly by currnet office manager)...and have no desire to climb their shitty ass ladder,,I also have never and will never use sex to get ahead,,I know you did not accuse me of it,,,,,,,I just wanted to add that,I love sex...all kinds of sex and i think it just to profound to do somethng as ASS as use it.It could be my looks....people assume a lot aboput me beacuse of the way i look.I dress very professionly,,its just everrything else.BUT i told my mom,,,well sort of...cuz no one knows the real me like my mom...and she said i was just one of those women that sent off this vibe and that i was a flirt.....mmm.....never ever saw myself that way....(i high school i got biggest flirt,,but i thought that was a bit of a joke.......).....i just dont like the thought of my having to squelch an inate part of my being,,,,,sighhhh,,,,,sorry for babbling,,,iam feeling alll weird today...just ignore me....

Sounds like you give off this vibe as well.... Good luck with the job hunting thing it's tough out there..

 

[sinnamongyrl]

ok,,i think you all are rightGuess i should just act more prissy like the other bags where i work,,,NOT being snarky to you,,you guys are just trying to help.just wish things were different sometimes ya know?anyway,,thanks!!!!!OH and LIBRASTUD..you are a prof?I did not know that,,what do you teach?

 

[LibraStud]

ok,,i think you all are rightGuess i should just act more prissy like the other bags where i work,,,NOT being snarky to you,,you guys are just trying to help.just wish things were different sometimes ya know?anyway,,thanks!!!!!OH and LIBRASTUD..you are a prof?I did not know that,,what do you teach?

I am not quite sure what "prissy" means to you. I think it is just a matter of learning the difference between meat and potatoes (or bread). LOL.

One of my "hobbies" is instructing. I love it. I teach part time. Math. Economics. Investing. Advanced computer courses. Wherever they want me at the time.
I taught a group of 40 entry level algebra students recently. 8 of them never had high school algebra. We started on chapter 3. The chairman made up the mid-term and the final. All passed with a “C” or better. THAT was a lot of fun for me.

 

[sinnamongyrl]

very interesting hobby,I am just awful at all math .....i am dyslexic so maybe thats why..lol.....

 

[LibraStud]

very interesting hobby,I am just awful at all math .....i am dyslexic so maybe thats why..lol.....

I work with dyslexic people almost every day.

My observation – they are usually extremely intelligent and well-liked individuals.
So, consider this “handicap” a "blessing" of sort.

 

[sinnamongyrl]

my last algebra professor made fun of me and made me cry,,,,i dropped out the next day,,,now I am back,,,, I am STILL afraid of those damn math courses,,,,,,,,,fuck why do i have to be such a ditz with that?

 

[LibraStud]

my last algebra professor made fun of me and made me cry,,,,i dropped out the next day,,,now I am back,,,, I am STILL afraid of those damn math courses,,,,,,,,,fuck why do i have to be such a ditz with that?

no reason for me to jam up this thread with notes to you. I will PM you my response on the secret of learning/teaching math. Hopefully you will not mind.

 

[Warmslide]

my last algebra professor made fun of me and made me cry,,,,i dropped out the next day,,,now I am back,,,, I am STILL afraid of those damn math courses,,,,,,,,,fuck why do i have to be such a ditz with that?

You have one big advantage...you are very selfaware and in tune with yourself...not a ditz at all...(most ditzes are not aware enough to describe themselves that way!)
My thought on the co-worker.....asshole...that type of comment is never appropriate....unless you are really good friends with them and have a history of teasing like that...the quiet ones are usually the scary ones...

 

[sinnamongyrl]

we did get off the OP huh?well its my thread anyway,,so i can hijack it,,lol,,,,,NO feel free to PM me.....