Why wont he call back?

[Lalah]

I met a nice guy and we were really getting along very well, we spent some time calling each others chatting on the phone hitting it off. We next went out a couple of times, and then finally had sex. It seemed like we both of us had a good time but then I never heard from him again.

I know; not a new story. I understand he probably just wanted to use me for sex, but first time sex is just a warm up as we get to know each others sexually, I haven't started gotten kinky yet. If you're going to use me at least stick around long enough for the full package before running off.

Now some of you may say he may be in a relationship, but if he managed to find the time and means to have multiple phone conversations and a couple of dates, he should be able to find time for some more sex if he wanted.

I'm so pissed off.

 

[LadyAria]

I met a nice guy and we were really getting along very well, we spent some time calling each others chatting on the phone hitting it off. We next went out a couple of times, and then finally had sex. It seemed like we both of us had a good time but then I never heard from him again.

I know; not a new story. I understand he probably just wanted to use me for sex, but first time sex is just a warm up as we get to know each others sexually, I haven't started gotten kinky yet. If you're going to use me at least stick around long enough for the full package before running off.

Now some of you may say he may be in a relationship, but if he managed to find the time and means to have multiple phone conversations and a couple of dates, he should be able to find time for some more sex if he wanted.

I'm so pissed off.

The chase was the most interesting thing about you.

 

[Lalah]

The chase was the most interesting thing about you.

If he really think that it's because he has not yet experienced all I'm willing to do in bed.

 

[LadyAria]

If he really think that it's because he has not yet experienced all I'm willing to do in bed.

No, I don't think that is it. Your pussy could crush coal into diamonds and certain types of people will not care. It is all the chase - the adventure of the hunt. Once you "got" them, they are no longer interesting because your eye is on a new prize.

 

[Lalah]

I get the chase angle, but if you always run away so soon you'll never get to experience real, customized sex that goes far deeper than a first date sex session does.

Edit: That's what get to me. Not that's he'd leave after catching his prey, but that he'd leave before even playing with it. You know; have sex two-three times, see what kind of prey you caught before going after the next one.

 

[LadyAria]

I get the chase angle, but if you always run away so soon you'll never get to experience real, customized sex that goes far deeper than a first date sex session does.

Some people do not want custom sex. They want "new" pussy. The excitement factor outweighs potential gymnastic.

It's about an ego stroke.

Busting a nut just is a bonus.

 

[Lalah]

Poor them, if only they knew what they were missing by not staying around an extra day or two. It's not like they can't hunt just because they're already sleeping with someone.

 

[evanslily]

Maybe you were just too good for him--and he knew it...



There'll be someone better along soon, someone who deserves you

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Well, you really dont know what happened. You're likely right, but you dont know.

 

[stickwork]

It sucks.
Best thing - actually is to get the heck away from a phone - cell, home, all. Do stuff you wouldn't dare do - play golf.
Anything other than waiting for a call.

Eventually some person that calls you endlessly, as you're about to sink a putt - will be him.

And you'll turn off the phone.

 

[MagicaPractica]

Well, you really dont know what happened. You're likely right, but you dont know.

And that's the worst part usually, never knowing.


*hugs* for you Lalah. Get pissed and move on.

 

[OhMissScarlett]

Sweetie, as the book title goes, he just wasn't that into you. I agree with the above poster about "the chase". Some people are willing to put a lot of effort into hooking up once and then it's either not their thing or they don't want to get into a relationship, so they bail. As one who used to be this sort of person, I can say that I've not called people back even when the sex was amazing, for fear of getting into a relationship with someone who wasn't my cup of tea. Do yourself a favor and be unavailable if he does happen to call back for a booty call.

 

[Guest]

And that's the worst part usually, never knowing.


*hugs* for you Lalah. Get pissed and move on.

Maybe he got hit by a bus.

(Don't mind me, I"m hung over.)

 

[impressive]

Some people do not want custom sex. They want "new" pussy. The excitement factor outweighs potential gymnastic.

It's about an ego stroke.

Busting a nut just is a bonus.

Yup. *nods*

 

[TheeGoatPig]

I did it backwards. I told her to call me after we bumped into each other in a casino in Vegas (she never did), then when we saw each other back to our normal lives we had sex, then I took her out on a date.

 

[christabelll]

I'm sorry Lalah - no matter how long we are at this thing - life -
it just plain sucks when the no call after sex happens.
And yer absolutely right - once does not a full experience make.
The first time is "do we spark enough for us both to get off...." the second is "the spark is great" now for some technique
Then wow thats some technqiue - lets have some real finesse and so on and so forth
It still sucks...and it still pisses you off to no end...
I'm sorry.

 

[christabelll]

Maybe he got hit by a bus.

(Don't mind me, I"m hung over.)

Awwww - ((((SARAH))))

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

MAGICA PRACTICA

Yep, maybe his mom died.

The problem is we assume all kinds of insults and slights, get angry and resentful, and run our mouths to our friends....who reinforce our indignity rather than calm us.

 

[jomar]

Too bad for both of you. Maybe you should just get freaky right off the bat - could be more fun for you.

 

[MistressViolet]

Unfortunately you will probably never know why he didn't or won't call back.

Unfair yes to leave it unfinished but sometimes people just can't deal with the
entire package as you call it. In fact most people end up being weak in that regard. Not much you can do about it as you cannot control what other people's actions are. All you can control is your own actions/reactions.

Get it out of your system because if he didn't/won't come back it is truly his own loss. You will find someone that won't be that stupid at some point. Not everyone out there is into not being able to deal and disappointing others so the best thing to do is get on with your life and finding someone that can hang with you. You don't owe him anything nor does he you really at this point so thank your lucky stars you found out early enough that he can't deal well.

Good luck!

 

[SimpleGifts]

Unfair yes to leave it unfinished but sometimes people just can't deal with the
entire package as you call it. In fact most people end up being weak in that regard. Not much you can do about it as you cannot control what other people's actions are. All you can control is your own actions/reactions.

I quite agree. Unless he WAS hit by a bus, if he were a decent type, he could probably find time for a phone call. Since he didn't call, we can reasonably presume that he is CHOOSING not to call.

As to why that is, there are several potential reasons. One of the more likely is that, as you say, he can't deal with the "entire package." I would extend that to say that he probably has never EXPERIENCED "the entire package" with ANYONE, so he is probably unaware that it can get any better than the momentary adrenaline rush of pursuing someone and persuading her to hop into the sack.

I used to get angry about such people, but nowadays, I think I mostly pity them.

SG

 

[Quiet_Cool]

Unfortunately you will probably never know why he didn't or won't call back.

Oh? You won't?

Guess what? I didn't call because I didn't realize she was a freak.

Now that I'm aware... (hmmm, where's my cell phone?)

Q_C

 

[NoJo]

Wow, Lalah's been around even longer than me. I think Hendrix was still alive when she joined Lit.

 

[logophile]

A song about this very thing...

Hey Eugene do you remember me?
I'm that chick you danced with two times through the Rufus album Friday night at that party
On Avenue "A"
Where your skinhead friend passed out for several hours on the bathroom floor
And you told me
You weren't that drunk, and that I was your favorite Salsa dancer you had ever come across in New York city

Eugene
Eugene
Eugene
I said hello
Eugene
Are you there Eugene

Hey Eugene, then we kissed once we lugged your friend into the elevator and went to write my number on a soggy paper towel
And the car went down
And when we were finished making out we noticed that your skinhead friend was gone. Long gone.
And you looked into my bloodshot eyes and said is it too soon if I call you Sunday

Eugene
Eugene
Eugene
I said hello, Eugene
Are you there, Eugene

I said hello (hello), Eugene (Eugene)
Eugene (Eugene)
Eugene (oh yeah)

I said hello (hello), Eugene
Are you there, Eugene (tell me are you there)

I said hello (hello), Eugene (Eugene)
Eugene (Eugene)
Eugene (tell me oh)

I said hello (hello), Eugene (Eugene)
Does any of this ring a bell Eugene?

 

[Guest]

Hey Eugene do you remember me?
I'm that chick you danced with two times through the Rufus album Friday night at that party
On Avenue "A"
Where your skinhead friend passed out for several hours on the bathroom floor
And you told me
You weren't that drunk, and that I was your favorite Salsa dancer you had ever come across in New York city

Eugene
Eugene
Eugene
I said hello
Eugene
Are you there Eugene

Hey Eugene, then we kissed once we lugged your friend into the elevator and went to write my number on a soggy paper towel
And the car went down
And when we were finished making out we noticed that your skinhead friend was gone. Long gone.
And you looked into my bloodshot eyes and said is it too soon if I call you Sunday

Eugene
Eugene
Eugene
I said hello, Eugene
Are you there, Eugene

I said hello (hello), Eugene (Eugene)
Eugene (Eugene)
Eugene (oh yeah)

I said hello (hello), Eugene
Are you there, Eugene (tell me are you there)

I said hello (hello), Eugene (Eugene)
Eugene (Eugene)
Eugene (tell me oh)

I said hello (hello), Eugene (Eugene)
Does any of this ring a bell Eugene?

Logo!

How you doing, beautiful?