Why She Blew You Off

[TonyG]

According to MAXIM female readers, the following reasons are why after what you thought was a great date and a couple of follow up phone calls she has lost interest.

#1 - You wore the wrong shoes/socks/watch/etc
#2 - You were too honest (telling about breakups, your bad temper, etc)
#3 - You failed to put on any moves
#4 - You were completely self absorbed
#5 - She sobered up
#6 - A jealous friend gave you the thunbs down
#7 - You have been scooped by another guy

Ladies, any to add or any comments?

 

[Fleshmachine]

I don't know about any of the others but #7 has happend to me a couple of times.

I guess that is the danger of playing on both sides of the fence.

 

[TonyG]

Or not checking the playing field out properly to begin with.

 

[TonyG]

Oh come on ladies, I am sure you can shed some light on this topic?

 

[morninggirl5]

Definitely don't want to hear all about your ex on a date... makes us think you'd rather be with her anyway.

 

[Tabby432]

We would never have sex with you.. so why bother?

You were stupid.

 

[TinaG13]

Hmmmmmmm,

Well, I'm not a very good judge on this topic because I've never blown anyone off until they've treated me like a piece of shit. I guess you could say I've got a pretty good tolerence level. But there is only so much shit you can take...lol And when I've had enough, I'm outta there!

 

[Sensua]

#1 - You wore the wrong shoes/socks/watch/etc
#2 - You were too honest (telling about breakups, your bad temper, etc)
#3 - You failed to put on any moves
#4 - You were completely self absorbed
#5 - She sobered up
#6 - A jealous friend gave you the thunbs down
#7 - You have been scooped by another guy

#1 too superficial...if this is the type of woman you go for than get better socks.
#2 women don't want honestly on the first date...they want flattery (and dessert!)
#3 no good night kiss? He must not like me....
#4 did you notice she left the table with a nose bleed?
#5 was she drunk when you picked her up? Perhaps you should find someone else to date...
#6 most friendships out last most dates...
#7 if he got #1-6 right...of course we'd dump you for the more likely catch...

 

[willfulbrat]

I'll admit to blowing guys off for all of the above reasons at one time or another. At the risk of seeming shallow, the shoe thing is the quickest turn-off. When a date shows up dressed nicely, but with white athletic shoes -- ewww! Instant turn-off!

 

[Renegade]

We would never have sex with you.. so why bother?

You were stupid.

Damn. No wonder I never get laid. lol

 

[LadyDarcy]

He has no life

The biggest turnoff for me is a guy that has no real interests, no passions. When the entire conversation has dealt with his work, every sitcom for the past 5 yrs, and family problems, it will probably be the last date.

I need a guy with intelligence and who does not come off like he is waiting for some girl to make his life worthwhile. I have no desire to be responsible for someone else's happiness, nor to be smothered. I want a partner, not a dependent. I have a life. I would like to find someone to share it with and who will add to it. I would like to share theirs - not be theirs.

 

[TonyG]

Very good and honest comments ladies, thank you.

 

[Sensua]

Re: He has no life

The biggest turnoff for me is a guy that has no real interests, no passions. When the entire conversation has dealt with his work, every sitcom for the past 5 yrs, and family problems, it will probably be the last date.

I need a guy with intelligence and who does not come off like he is waiting for some girl to make his life worthwhile. I have no desire to be responsible for someone else's happiness, nor to be smothered. I want a partner, not a dependent. I have a life. I would like to find someone to share it with and who will add to it. I would like to share theirs - not be theirs.

What fabulous insight! I hope all you ladies with doubts can learn from this thoughtful person. LadyDarcy...you most certainly have it together in this area!

 

[TonyG]

My thoughts exactly.