Gilly Bean
Princess Spanky Pants
- Joined
- Aug 29, 2001
- Posts
- 7,173
Some one asked me the other day where I am now. Most of you know I just had a baby who will only be 3 weeks old in a few days. I am sure most of you have attributed it to this, but that's not entirely the case.
While I do spend more time then ever with the kids, I do still get lots of breaks in which to look over the board, and to post, if I wanted. What I have been seeing lately, has turned me off of the board more times then not, however.
I find myself looking at posts critizizing people, new and old, polls asking why newbies jump right in without lurking first, posts telling people just who to avoid, and why. People are put down at every opertunity, people are jumped on for what is said in the privacy of PM's, Sexual prefrence and fetishes are mocked, and flamed.
When I first got here last summer, I found an easy going bunch of people to talk to. There were instances of all the above, but since I was new, I found it easy to ignore. Now, I look at the first page, and just about every other poster, or thread reminds me of just another headache.
I still log on, every day, in fact. However, I never venture far into the threads, and read very few. More or less, all I do is come here to check a few specific posts, and to check if anything fun is happening. Sometimes I find it, sometimes I don't. I am not leaving, so don't flame me for making another long ass post about why I want to leave. I don't want to leave. I like to be here, I just have not been comfortable with the overall feeling of tension hanging around lately. It will clear up, I know that, but in the mean time, I just choose to not participate as much as possible, because I find it is all to easy to look at a post, and think to myself, What a moron, or, Eww, that's sick. But if I keep thinking that way, what kind of a person does that make me?
Sure, we all have our own prefrences, but what makes any one prefrence better then another's? Nothing does, except our own tastes. I don't expect the person next in line to want the same meal at McDonalds, so why should I expect they want the same thing in bed? Or in politics, or love, or friends.
I guess the reason I am saying this, is because I have had a few ask, and I keep evading the question. There, that's my answer. I just don't fel comfortable here right now.
While I do spend more time then ever with the kids, I do still get lots of breaks in which to look over the board, and to post, if I wanted. What I have been seeing lately, has turned me off of the board more times then not, however.
I find myself looking at posts critizizing people, new and old, polls asking why newbies jump right in without lurking first, posts telling people just who to avoid, and why. People are put down at every opertunity, people are jumped on for what is said in the privacy of PM's, Sexual prefrence and fetishes are mocked, and flamed.
When I first got here last summer, I found an easy going bunch of people to talk to. There were instances of all the above, but since I was new, I found it easy to ignore. Now, I look at the first page, and just about every other poster, or thread reminds me of just another headache.
I still log on, every day, in fact. However, I never venture far into the threads, and read very few. More or less, all I do is come here to check a few specific posts, and to check if anything fun is happening. Sometimes I find it, sometimes I don't. I am not leaving, so don't flame me for making another long ass post about why I want to leave. I don't want to leave. I like to be here, I just have not been comfortable with the overall feeling of tension hanging around lately. It will clear up, I know that, but in the mean time, I just choose to not participate as much as possible, because I find it is all to easy to look at a post, and think to myself, What a moron, or, Eww, that's sick. But if I keep thinking that way, what kind of a person does that make me?
Sure, we all have our own prefrences, but what makes any one prefrence better then another's? Nothing does, except our own tastes. I don't expect the person next in line to want the same meal at McDonalds, so why should I expect they want the same thing in bed? Or in politics, or love, or friends.
I guess the reason I am saying this, is because I have had a few ask, and I keep evading the question. There, that's my answer. I just don't fel comfortable here right now.
