Why I Love Being A Switch

[Netzach]

I'm glad I did. The times anyone posts anything that's vaguely hot for me I better move fast.

See, I don't get most people. Wanting me to shove my fingers or whatnot in your ass is *requisite* for sexual respect. It says "I ain't no lightweight."

And for the umpteen fucking times I have to read how "I could never respect a submissive/bottom man blah blah blah blah" I'm perfectly content with that.

 

[BiBunny]

I'm glad I did. The times anyone posts anything that's vaguely hot for me I better move fast.

See, I don't get most people. Wanting me to shove my fingers or whatnot in your ass is *requisite* for sexual respect. It says "I ain't no lightweight."

And for the umpteen fucking times I have to read how "I could never respect a submissive/bottom man blah blah blah blah" I'm perfectly content with that.

Yep, I agree.

I got four fingers in his ass today. Next time, I'm fisting him. (Not that that was all the fun we had today, but still.)

I admit to swinging more to the sub side, but I like that I can be that flexible, with both of them. It saves that whole headache of trying to find yet another partner who'll get it. In spite of what people might think, there really aren't a whole bunch of folks who can deal with the kinda things I'm into, so it's nice that they make it easy for me.

I could never be with anyone who wouldn't switch for me, at least on occasion.

 

[Netzach]

Yep, I agree.

I got four fingers in his ass today. Next time, I'm fisting him. (Not that that was all the fun we had today, but still.)

I admit to swinging more to the sub side, but I like that I can be that flexible, with both of them. It saves that whole headache of trying to find yet another partner who'll get it. In spite of what people might think, there really aren't a whole bunch of folks who can deal with the kinda things I'm into, so it's nice that they make it easy for me.

I could never be with anyone who wouldn't switch for me, at least on occasion.

He's the tightest fucking thing I've ever seen. He almost breaks two fingers. Can you tell I'm feeling irritated with the degree of *challenge*?

I'm pondering whether hypnosis can do wonders here.

M on the other hand....

 

[BiBunny]

He's the tightest fucking thing I've ever seen. He almost breaks two fingers. Can you tell I'm feeling irritated with the degree of *challenge*?

I'm pondering whether hypnosis can do wonders here.

M on the other hand....

Dude, B.'s normally that way, too. For some reason today, though, it was like he just swallowed everything i shoved up there. Weird.

He kept looking at me wide-eyed and saying, "It didn't even hurt."

I was like, "Yeah, dork, I told you if you had someone do it right, it wouldn't."

 

[Netzach]

I'm envious to some degree of that kind of fluidity with multiple people. I'm too uptight about life for that. I think I intentionally stacked the deck with bottom's bottoms because I can only cope with shifting control with one person. I do not like being outnumbered.

I do remember once he managed to get M into as much of a henchman brain that he's capable of. I got tied down and photographed. This was vexing.

 

[Netzach]

Dude, B.'s normally that way, too. For some reason today, though, it was like he just swallowed everything i shoved up there. Weird.

He kept looking at me wide-eyed and saying, "It didn't even hurt."

I was like, "Yeah, dork, I told you if you had someone do it right, it wouldn't."

THAT is hot.

Super fucking hot.

 

[BiBunny]

THAT is hot.

Super fucking hot.

That means a lot coming from you.

 

[the captians wench]

Yes. It's fabulous, too.





Thank you, ITW. I really appreciate that!

I understand that most people here are MDom/femsubs (and that includes me to some extent), but I'd have liked to talk a little more about how awesome the experience was.

If I'd have posted "Master sent me a text message and then gave me an e-spanking," then I'm sure I'd have had tons of enthusiastic comments.

Meh. I think you have to add in a pic of a skinny chick cause this never gets me much attention. *giggles*

Then again, I come out of my "e-spankings" with bruses.

In a BDSM forum of all place, what constitutes a "regular" relationship? It could be nigh anything, couldn't it.

OMG why does it even fucking matter?

Must be. (I was hoping you'd come along.)



Mmm...hotness.



Yep, I can relate to this totally. I think I'm just stupid in love and in lust with the man and can go anyway he wants me to go.

I envy this fluidity, and it frustrates Jounar to no end that my mind has him in a catagory and I can't put certain activities that I enjoy into his catagory.

"Why do you have to fucking define everything?"

I'm getting better at letting go and just enjoying him in all of the ways that I can, but some times I just get stuck in "you dom me sub" mode and I can't do anything that even remotely feels like me having power over him.

He's the tightest fucking thing I've ever seen. He almost breaks two fingers. Can you tell I'm feeling irritated with the degree of *challenge*?

I'm pondering whether hypnosis can do wonders here.

M on the other hand....

hehehe this gave me an interesting mental picture.

 

[BiBunny]

I got double-fisted today, for the first time ever. Yay!

 

[nh23]

I got double-fisted today, for the first time ever. Yay!

Pictures!!!

 

[BiBunny]

Anything for you, pretty girl.

My cunt, Mistress's hands inside me, Master holding me open for Kitty to take the picture.

 

[nh23]

Anything for you, pretty girl.

My cunt, Mistress's hands inside me, Master holding me open for Kitty to take the picture.

That's fucking fantastic. I am so jealous. I can't even get one fist in, about four fingers before my pelvis starts cracking.

 

[Corylea]

Congratulations on your double fisting; that sounds yummy!

A lot of monopole people don't believe that switches are for real. When I top, I often find myself thinking, "I've just been kidding myself about having a bottom side; I'm really a top," and when I bottom, I often find myself thinking, "I've just been kidding myself about having a top side; I'm really a bottom." I conclude that I'm really, really a switch. Really, really.

A lot of switches seem to like to have defined roles, where they bottom to A and top B and never, ever top A and bottom to B. For me, it's just the reverse. I can have relationships that go in a single direction if that's what the other person needs, but if it's all up to me, we're switching!

The only person I've ever known who was as switchy as I am was P, and at times when it wasn't clear that one of us was in a more toppish mood and the other in a more bottomish mood, we'd play a little game. I'd grab his nipples, he'd grab mine, and we'd pinch and pull until somebody went under. Sometimes one of us would go under, then bounce up, then the other one would go under, then bounce back up, and we'd go back and forth this way until things settled in one direction.

Every once in awhile, they didn't settle, though, and we'd have a fairly extensive mutual-topping scene. We were doing our little decide-who's-top-tonight game at a party, and a confused onlooker asked, "Who's topping this scene, anyway?" Without consulting each other -- and also without missing a beat -- we simultaneously answered, "We are!"

We often confused the hell out of people, but it worked for us. God, I miss him.


My current girlfriend, R, and I are both polyamorous, and we both play with other people. When we get together, sometimes one of us is just in a clearly toppish or clearly bottomish mood, but we're both switchy enough that usually both of us could go either way. The last time we played, she said, "Who did you bottom to last?" I said, "Hmm. I guess that would be that time with you, at X's party, four or five months ago. Who did you bottom to last?" She said, "That would be Y, last week. I think it's your turn." Add being bisexual to being a switch to being polyamorous, and things can get awfully complicated. Or was that awfully satisfying?