why i am slowly going off women

[pabloback]

too many times in recent weeks i have had women arrange dates with me , either to meet up for a drink or a coffee , only to either cancel or not turn up at all , one even went to the trouble of walking all round a carpark to find my vehicle and putting a note on my windscreen to ask me to meet up , only to cry off at at the last minute.
this is not a one off and has become a regular occurance in the past few weeks
why do people do this ?
none of these
if you dont want to do something why suggest it in the first place ?
if no means no , why cant yes mean yes?

 

[bluntforcemama]

I agree... women just aren't what they used to be. *sighs forlornly*

 

[Cheyenne]

I guess that means you aren't getting married to someone from the board, huh?

 

[KillerMuffin]

In regards to marriage, I believe pablo was, oh what's the expression... "having us on."

Blah, who needs them hussies? Find a real woman and she won't beggar off because she's too terrified to be with a man instead of her cat. (For our international members: Please note that this is a statement meant for blanket support of pabloblack and is indictive of his attraction and sensuality in the incomprehensible language: American hick.)

 

[luv2tvl69]

pabloback

Personally if that is the type of person they are (rude and inconsiderate) you should be lucky they didnt show up. I can understand being nervous, but to just not show up shows lack of character. To cancel is atleast polite, but if you dont think you can do something then dont initiate it.

I apologize to you on behalf of these rude women....we are not all so callous and inconsiderate. Please dont think so.

My personal message to these women....Do you like it when a man stands you up? Then dont do it to men!

 

[nasty]

I just hope, when you slowly go off them, you don't pull a musle. That would HURT!!!!!!!!

 

[Eve_of_destruction]

too many times in recent weeks i have had women arrange dates with me , either to meet up for a drink or a coffee , only to either cancel or not turn up at all , one even went to the trouble of walking all round a carpark to find my vehicle and putting a note on my windscreen to ask me to meet up , only to cry off at at the last minute.
this is not a one off and has become a regular occurance in the past few weeks
why do people do this ?
none of these
if you dont want to do something why suggest it in the first place ?
if no means no , why cant yes mean yes?

Pablo, it's been my experience that men do this to women all the time. Maybe some pissed off women are getting revenge on the male of the species, and you happen to be their target? I dunno, but it's happened to me with men for the past 3 weekends. I'm almost considering monogamy, at least when my husband's home he's accessable

But let's not talk about that, let's talk about your avatar. I MISS THE OLD ONE! That was one hip, sexy, way-cool cat, man! I loved watching his moves! (sniffs) Please bring him back!

 

[Mensa]

You, too?

I've been getting off on women for years.

 

[nasty]

SHEECH MENSA!!!!!

He said going off, not, getting off. Pay attention, please.

 

[GuyJD]

I agree with you, Pabloback. I'll let you in on something that I once discussed with Siren.
I have a friend who does the same thing. We've been friends for close to a year and she used to work at a coffee shop around the corner from my apartment. We, basically, became friends when I lost my last job. We helped build each others' self esteem over the year.
But if seems like when I call her, she "pretends" to not be home. Once, I called her, her Mom answered the phone and put my friend on. My friend suddenly pretended to not hear anything on her end of the phone. When I called on another phone, she did the same old trick. So I gave up on her and allowed her to "keep her space".
My opinion? If women don't want to speak to someone on the phone,
1) Why bother giving out the phone number?
2) Why not come out and be honest. Just ask that they don't call anymore. I would respect them more that way.

 

[Mensa]

Re: SHEECH MENSA!!!!!

He said going off, not, getting off. Pay attention, please.

Sorry, I was tense, but it past.

 

[cymbidia]

1. Some women, like some men, get off on being the object of a chase. They don't want to be caught, they only want to be wanted, to be chased. If you suspect this about someone you're trying to get closer to, tell them forthrightly about your suspicions (so they can maybe grow) and then get out and get away.

2. Some women/men are too insecure to hold down any kinda real or meaningful relationship and are not holding you at arm's length deliberately but from ignorance about how to be intimate with someone else. Again, an honest talk with them about your concerns might help clear the air.

3. Some people *honestly* think they're doing you some big favor by not telling you right out that they aren't interested in you. They think they're somehow sparing your feelings and they might be horrified to find out that the avoidance tactics are actually causing you more consternation than an the truth would. Again, just ask them if they are avoiding you. Give examples of why you might think that. Don't be angry, be puzzled. Be one who is thoughtful and wants to be open about areas of possible misunderstanding.

I'm sure there are more reasons why people act in such a dishonorable way, i just can't think of them at the moment. However, if you feel passed by or ignored or avoided, ask the other person if your suspicions are true. Ask them for thier truth, and then be prepared for what you *don't* want to hear.

Knowing the truth is better than not knowing and wondering. Everything works out, one way or the other, if you just talk it out instead of worrying.

 

[pabloback]

this is all good advice and thanks to you all
p..

 

[Harbinger]

On an encouraging note:

The exact same kind of thing was happening to me rather often with a series of women (not overlapping, thank you very much) I was seeing over the past couple of years. I started to think it was me. A mere two weeks after finally giving up in frustration on the latest one, my self esteem in question, a wonderful woman who had taken an interest in me asks me out. You know what? She is intelligent, confident, beautiful and emotionally stable and mature. And no games. Things are great between us, and every day is better. And that's all it took to make me realize that someone else's rude self-centered behavior is not my responsibility.

Wait for what you deserve.

 

[Nicole]

Now I feel badly about yesterday

I'm sorry.

(Don't panic he knows what I'm talking about ... and No we didn't arrange to meet, bit hard being half a world away)

I hope things get better, I'm here should you need me.

 

[pabloback]

nicole

wasnt aimed at or meant for you , dont have any worries abotu that ;-)