Why dont girls like me?

[godspeedless]

I have often wondered, why girls dont seem to like me, i always get so depressed cause the girls i like never like me, im not muscular but im not all skin and bones, the only problem is that im shy to talk to people, and i just never seem to be able to talk to girls when i start liking them.......any suggestions (i know this prolly sounds stupid because most people on this board are experienced or whatever but i get depressed easily and i have always just wanted an answer and a solution). thanks.

 

[Lady_Sam]

I wish I had the answers hun. But it works the other way as well. It's just a matter of patience. Sooner or later you'll meet the one.


And welcome to Lit

 

[Cipher]

Welcome to lit!!
I don't think anyone can answer that question for you..it gets depressing i'm sure..but there will come a time when BAM there u meet the person that is for you. There is someone for everyone!!
Cheer up hun, it's all gonna be okay. Who knows..maybe u'll be a lucky one like a few on here and find ur hunnie here on this site!!
I hope to c u in other postings and i hope u cheer up a bit!!
~*~Cipher~*~

 

[virginleo20]

Just to make a point here
I have a similar problem but im not shy or anthing like that
so im fine with talking to people and interacting with other to begin with...

But what i have noticed over the years is that with women those whom are already involved with others are about 50 time more friendly to guys then the ones whom are not....
And of those whom are not involved with others and are friendly to guys well about 99% of them have behavior models that
incur a greater risk for STD's etc... and usually they them selves do not understand that...
And those things can get quite depressing at times.

Well just a little side thread but just a caution when you decide to come out of your shell and take a serious
go at dating and such.

Anyways there are 6 billion or so people on the palent the is ropably someone out there for you....

 

[virginleo20]

Just to make a point here
I have a similar problem but im not shy or anthing like that
so im fine with talking to people and interacting with other to begin with...

But what i have noticed over the years is that with women those whom are already involved with others are about 50 time more friendly to guys then the ones whom are not....
And of those whom are not involved with others and are friendly to guys well about 99% of them have behavior models that
incur a greater risk for STD's etc... and usually they them selves do not understand that...
And those things can get quite depressing at times.

Well just a little side thread but just a caution when you decide to come out of your shell and take a serious
go at dating and such.

Anyways there are 6 billion or so people on the palent the is ropably someone out there for you....

 

[The Dipsomaniac]

I have often wondered, why girls dont seem to like me, i always get so depressed cause the girls i like never like me, im not muscular but im not all skin and bones, the only problem is that im shy to talk to people, and i just never seem to be able to talk to girls when i start liking them.......any suggestions (i know this prolly sounds stupid because most people on this board are experienced or whatever but i get depressed easily and i have always just wanted an answer and a solution). thanks.

Dont know whether this will be the answer you want or need, but somehow you need to do something to overcome your shyness. Maybe its just a shyness on when you first meet poeple. I have a mate like this. He's fine around my missus, and most of my other mates girlfriends/significant others, but put him with a single potential girl, he just clams up.
Maybe one way around it would be to join some sort of club which is of interest to you, where there may be girls with similar interest. At least then you could initially talk to them about whatever the club interest may be. Hell you may even find some of the girls are initially as shy or more than you, and also wanting some guy to come and talk to them. Theres plenty of fish out there - for guys or girls, you just have to be out there with your line...
Hope thats of some assistance.

DM

 

[MissTaken]

Girls aren't going to like you until you let them know who you are.

Struggling with shyness is difficult, but until you feel confident with who you are and aren't afraid to let other's see "you", people won't be attracted to you.

Walk tall
Believe in yourself

And the rest will fall into place.

 

[The Dipsomaniac]

Girls aren't going to like you until you let them know who you are.

Struggling with shyness is difficult, but until you feel confident with who you are and aren't afraid to let other's see "you", people won't be attracted to you.

Walk tall
Believe in yourself

And the rest will fall into place.

This is so true Mistaken! Great advice. I'm with you most definately on that point. You have to have confidence in yourself. Once people see you are confortable with yourself, they will also be comfortablw with you.

When i was younger, (i'm only a wee lad of 30 now!) i used to go with the motto, that i'm never looking for a girl - just looking for a fun time. And whenever i was out there having fun - a girl would just fall in my lap. Everytime i made a "point" of looking specifically for a girl it never happened...

just my experience.

 

[MissTaken]

It is funny how you stumble upon things when you aren't really looking!

Unfortunately for me, it is usually children's toys or speeding tickets that pop up when least expected!

 

[sexyspank]

I have often wondered, why girls dont seem to like me, i always get so depressed cause the girls i like never like me, im not muscular but im not all skin and bones, the only problem is that im shy to talk to people, and i just never seem to be able to talk to girls when i start liking them.......any suggestions (i know this prolly sounds stupid because most people on this board are experienced or whatever but i get depressed easily and i have always just wanted an answer and a solution). thanks.

Everybody here is not experienced.There a lot of shy people but these boards give them a chance to "open up" to others. It doesn't matter what you look like, most girls fall in love with a person, not a body.
Keep posting here and you'll get to know people and i'm sure there are others that would love someone like you. Be happy




Wendy

 

[boreing me]

me

i am in the same boat as you, i cant seem to find a girl that will look at me either, and i'm not shy, well i didn't use to be i have asked out atleast 100 girls and gotten no every time well actually got laughed at. is that a bad raio i think it is, but i have been told that if you just go be yourself that girls will come in time, but well i don't believe that cause i have been myself for over a year and well no girls have come any closer to being with me then before, so now i just tell them to go f**k themselve they missed out not my problem, so what i am saying it that if you get turned down just keep in mind that if they don't want you then thats there loss there lossing out on probably the best guy they will every have a chance at.

 

[Known as Romeo on Lit]

Girls are funny animals.....

Boy, I thought that was me who wrote that. I feel ya! I don't have any solutons and I to get very depressed. Find something you like to do and put all your time into it, I started lifting weights. Forget about the girls, well thats kind of difficult but, don't be so preoccupied with them. Like I said girls are funny animals, they will start taking notice when you stop. Do whatever you can to act like they are no big deal, within reason. Do not be rude and try to always be polite.

If you want an answer I will just say, They Have Pussies and they know it. I don't think most women have thier sex drive stuck into overdrive, as a man does or at least they seem better at controling it. When ever straight man or aleast most want something you have, even some women, it is easy to pick and choose. I hope the solution help as far as what I said to do, I will tell you if it works.

The one & only,
~Romeo~

 

[ShiningEyes]

I have often wondered, why girls dont seem to like me, i always get so depressed cause the girls i like never like me, im not muscular but im not all skin and bones, the only problem is that im shy to talk to people, and i just never seem to be able to talk to girls when i start liking them.......any suggestions (i know this prolly sounds stupid because most people on this board are experienced or whatever but i get depressed easily and i have always just wanted an answer and a solution). thanks.

Hey there...welcome to Lit! *S* It's hard to answer that question, if anyone can. Just gotta hang in there. She's out there. Untill then, you've got a friend in all of us! *S* There's a lot of women out there that are shy themselves. And some women tend to like the shy ones. Just takes patience and a little effort. It will come to you! As for the depression. I know exactly what your going thru on that one. I've been depressed more than I wanna account for. If you ever wanna chat or talk....pm me! *S* I'm always available. ~hugz~

 

[Zidane]

well lots of girls like me, but only as a friend. I've asked many of them if they considered me BF material, every single one of them said 'no.' Reason: I seem more like a friend than anything else.
I'm tired of being 'just' a friend. -_-

 

[ShiningEyes]

well lots of girls like me, but only as a friend. I've asked many of them if they considered me BF material, every single one of them said 'no.' Reason: I seem more like a friend than anything else.

that's always dreaded for most. *S* but it goes the same way with a lot of women. you gotta remember that. Friends last forever. bf's and gf's come and go. untill you meet tha one for you. i've been single for quite sometime. i have my own reasons for that. for most women it's hard to let their guard down. and for that...most guys or men become friends. it's kinda the same with me. most of the advise you'll get is to have patience. when you meet someone don't push too hard. *S* a friendship can always turn into a lot more. patience is the key to everything.

 

[Bug Eyed Monster]

.

 

[ShiningEyes]

Great advice, Monster!!! ~hugz~

 

[Bug Eyed Monster]

.

 

[ShiningEyes]

P.S. How would you react to the "I am sorry I am shy and you are just so beautiful you make me very nervous. I'll leave you alone now so I don't embarass you." line, think it would work?

Your welcome and thx for the hug! thank you on the sig also!!!!

Hmmmm it might work! I'd prob. blush a bit then invite you to sit or stay a while!

 

[ShiningEyes]

I'm at times a sucker for the shy ones!

 

[boreing me]

just me

well if you are to shy then you will never actually go out and talk to a girl, so you would have to be a little stright forward about it, well enuff to go talk to girls,

(ps. i hate girls) they should all have NO taken from there speach

 

[Bug Eyed Monster]

.

 

[ShiningEyes]

It doesn't take a lot to grab my attention. Tho, I'm not at all easy. I choose my friends(or at least try to) carefully and am even more careful with those I want to date. However, you can never judge a book by it's cover. You don't always know what you are getting! I enjoy giving just about everyone a chance. No matter what is said or done by others. The shy ones usually turn out the best in my opinion! But there are some bad apples. It just takes time and patience. You kinda have to see what unfolds. I used to be a very very shy person. Now I'm only shy when it comes to the first meeting. But. I also tend to be flirty and not realize it. High standards are good sometimes. But then. Sometimes you miss out on the best thing that could have happened because of high standards!

 

[Pinnochio]

I know the feeling big guy, just hang in there.

 

[ShiningEyes]

(ps. i hate girls) they should all have NO taken from there speach

Girls can be immature and Women can be hard to handle at times! We women look for men that can do right by us. *S* Hating us isn't going to help you in your problem! lol And the word no is used in a lot of different situations!