Why does this happen????

[shynsexy]

Hey yall, I was wondering i anyone could answer this question for me. Why is it that almost everytime I have sex with my special someone he "hits and runs"? It's not like its just about sex with us---well mostly it is, but we care about eachother and go out night : We had great, mindblowing sex, go to sleep, he wakes me up we go at it again and then says " hope you can get back to sleep."He then proceeds to smoke a cig, get dressed and leave. And its like 5 am! I know he just lives downstairs but it hurts me but I dont know how to tell him without seeming "clingy" . Its not even like I ask him to cuddle

Is it like this for anyone else out there Any feedback would be appreciated. Thanks---

shynsexy

 

[Ishmael]

shynsexy

Hey yall, I was wondering i anyone could answer this question for me. Why is it that almost everytime I have sex with my special someone he "hits and runs"? It's not like its just about sex with us---well mostly it is, but we care about eachother and go out night : We had great, mindblowing sex, go to sleep, he wakes me up we go at it again and then says " hope you can get back to sleep."He then proceeds to smoke a cig, get dressed and leave. And its like 5 am! I know he just lives downstairs but it hurts me but I dont know how to tell him without seeming "clingy" . Its not even like I ask him to cuddle

Is it like this for anyone else out there Any feedback would be appreciated. Thanks---

shynsexy

The reasons could be many. I think that it's time that you and your S/O sit down and have a long talk on the subject. If you're comfortable enough with each other, you should be able to discuss this. When you're done, you'll know.

So many times we avoid discussing a subject because we don't want to know the answers.

Ishmael

 

[shynsexy]

Ishmael

Thanks for the fast response. I think I may have to have that talk, but like I said, I dont want to seem clingy or posessive....

 

[Ishmael]

What you are

Don't worry about what you may seem. You both have to deal with what you are. Better to find out now rather than later.

If there is any misunderstanding, it will only get worse with time. If there isn't, you'll both be a lot more comfortable with each other.

Ishmael

 

[shynsexy]

Thanks again. I feel alot better and am looking forward to talking with him in a little while.

Any1 else have any opinions?

 

[freescorfr]

Do you get the same feeling of being abandoned at other times, Shynsexy,or just after good sex?

Like if he goes away for a while.

 

[LukkyKnight]

Clingy would be never letting him go.

Wishing he would stay, inviting him to in plain language some of those times, shouldn't upset him unless he's got issues.

 

[perks]

a possibility might be that he really doesn't sleep when he's with you. Or, he might not sleep well, at least.

Y'all might be having sex, and then you sleep, and he tries to sleep but wakes up every so often. By the time 3:30- 4:00 am roll around, he figures you've slept enough and y'all can have sex again. You have sex, and then he's beat. He knows he'll never be able to sleep, not well enough to be coherent and functioning anyway, so he gives you a quick kiss and runs downstairs to hit the hay.


May I suggest you talk to him about it? It's obviously a big deal to you. He's probably not even aware that it has been bugging you.

 

[Wave_Rider]

Hey yall, I was wondering i anyone could answer this question for me. Why is it that almost everytime I have sex with my special someone he "hits and runs"? It's not like its just about sex with us---well mostly it is, but we care about eachother and go out night : We had great, mindblowing sex, go to sleep, he wakes me up we go at it again and then says " hope you can get back to sleep."He then proceeds to smoke a cig, get dressed and leave. And its like 5 am! I know he just lives downstairs but it hurts me but I dont know how to tell him without seeming "clingy" . Its not even like I ask him to cuddle

Is it like this for anyone else out there Any feedback would be appreciated. Thanks---

shynsexy

Why would it even enter your mind to ASK him to cuddle? Shouldn't he desire to envelope you in his arms---before, after, indoors or out; whether or not you have just had sex, are not going to have sex?

Hard to judge, and far be it for me to be the one to do it, but I sense a total lack of both communication and intimacy in your relationship.

For this to bother you enough to even "ask"........don't you think its time to discuss this with him? One suggestion, DON'T pick the bedroom as the room to talk to him about it...........

Smiles,

 

[shynsexy]

Thanks to everyone

who responded to this issue. We talked about it, and of course he didnt even know it bothered me... and as for the reason he gave me....ugh! LOL he had to use the restroom....how funny the way women think so oposite from men. Thanks again yall.. and for the person who commented about cuddling---- I dont like cuddling, so i never make a big deal about it if someone deoesnt want to do it. If they do, I dont push them away or anything.