Why does it seem that the nice girls like bastards?

[Yoc]

I do honestly think that although that nice girls like nice boys, the majority are attracted to the nasty variety more. Girls have agreed with me.

Case in point: There was this girl at work who had been engaged to this guy for years. She was Miss Respectibility and she wanted marriage, kids, home, etc... They finally broke up because he didn't take any responsibility for himself. There's this other guy at work who is a known womaniser (and treats them pretty shitty as well) and who she couldn't stand.
Then at the Christmas Party, they hooked up. He told me (I quite like him) that she stayed at her place and they shagged the night away and now he stays at her flat though he won't lift a finger to do any of the housework, etc... (something that she used to complain about the other guy).

I just find it all fascinating.

 

[bluntforcemama]

I've never been attracted to bastard men. I think it's because I'm the bastard in the relationship. I attract nice guys. If you're worried about this Miss Respectibility girl, why don't you confront her?

 

[Yoc]

Huh! Huh! Not going down that road.

I have learnt long ago that people will do what they want to do, despite what other people tell them, particularly when it concerns matters of the heart.

I just feel sorry for her, because he is going to hurt her in the end.

I do wonder if the old saying "opposites attract" is actually true?

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

When I worked nightclubs full time I could walk into a room full of women and get nary a look. But after 20 minutes on stage being a wise-ass I'd get smiles and touches on the arm and invitiations to "join us" from women all over the place.

Making people laugh (or dance) from a stage is power. Women like men with power. Same with the Bastard men. It has nothing to do with their assholieness, but with their ability to skate through life and get people to react to them with deference. That's power.

 

[bluntforcemama]

I've got power! This changes everything.

 

[Yoc]

You could be right. Power and confidence. Or put it this way, bastards are usually very confident about themselves and if that's not personal power, then I don't know what is.

Now if I turn the argument onto its head, do nice guys like bitches?

 

[bluntforcemama]

Now if I turn the argument onto its head, do nice guys like bitches?

Yes, I'm the epitome of that answer.

 

[Lancaster]

It's like Satan being attracted to Saddam Hussein instead of Chris in South Park.
There's that element of fiendish immortality that exists within the souls of dangerous men that women are attracted too. I think.

 

[PacificBlue]

It is a power and confidence thing...I've been attracted to some womanizer's before and I knew that's what they were...but I was still attracted...never acted on it though.

 

[Angel]

Yes, I'm the epitome of that answer.

That's my twinkie!

 

[Mischka]

OK, maybe it's the budding lawyer in me, but you need to define "nice" before asserting this theory. Girls that are attracted solely to assholes lack something fundamental in their character or self-esteem, and think they deserve nothing better than such sub-standard treatment. Jehanox, it sounds like your friend has a solid history of searching for such instability in her life. First she's in a long-term relationship with a man that doesn't respect her enough to help out at all, and then she hooks up with a man that she "can't stand"?

 

[Latina]

I think a lot has to do with age and maturity. GIRLS go for exciting men and find they are bums and jerks. WOMEN, who by then have learned by experience, go for the nice guy, home, family...and at least in my case, find they are better, more considerate, and more EXCITING lovers than the jerks they THOUGHT were so hot when they were younger. A man who is not embarrassed to buy you sexy lingerie and loves your kid, who sits down and plans monthly budgets with you, who does laundry without being asked, is a whole lot sexier than the bad boy, but it takes maturity to figure that out.

-- Latina

 

[Sweetlola]

My thoughts...

I half-heartedly disagree. Although I am sometimes a little fiesty, I consider myself a "nice girl" and I have never chased a "bastard". I like an intelligent man... one who might outsmart me, but with a bit of a wild side. It's important to me that a man keep me on my toes... in all aspects of a relationship. Any man who is rude to others or a bit cocky tends to be a HUGE turnoff! I think other "nice girls" would agree.

 

[Mustang Sally]

I just have to share that I just dumped the bastard for the nice guy... (I hope the nice guy doesn't mind my saying so. )

It was hard, but I'm very happy with my decision.

 

[Sweetlola]

I just have to share that I just dumped the bastard for the nice guy... (I hope the nice guy doesn't mind my saying so. )

It was hard, but I'm very happy with my decision.

Good girl! The bastard didn't deserve you!

 

[Lancaster]

I just have to share that I just dumped the bastard for the nice guy... (I hope the nice guy doesn't mind my saying so. )

It was hard, but I'm very happy with my decision.

You know it makes sense.

 

[Dillinger]

You can be confident without being cocky. You can have power and not be a bastard.

You can be a nice guy and still be exciting, confident, self assured and powerful. One does not exclude the other. This applies to women as well...

 

[Latina]

I agree with Sweetlola, the bastard is attractive at first but the good guy turns out the better choice in the long run.

Funny, people here pounce on "impostors" but nobody jumped on Sweetlola because her photo is NOT her. It is supermodel Patricia Ford, my Frank's SECOND favorite brunette (I don't mind, since I'm his MOST favorite). This is his favorite photo of her, and I think mine too (I like looking at beautiful women, and I've had bisexual fantasies about a former female business partner of mine, but not interested in making them reality).

-- Latina

 

[Problem Child]

Did she say it was her? You claimed many photos were of you and Frank that were obviously (and badly) faked.

Whiners aren't as bad as liars, IMHO, but they're close.

Why not shut up about how you've been wrongly accused and stop posting bogus pics, and maybe you will regain a little respect around here.

 

[Desert Amazon]

 

[Desert Amazon]

For nice guys everywhere

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Whittish! Whittish! (Sound of whip cracking).