Why do you think you're NOT into BDSM?

[Marquis]

Tell me what you ARE into, and I'll tell you why you're into BDSM.

 

[breakwall]

sheep.

 

[Malachi]

Tell me what you ARE into, and I'll tell you why you're into BDSM.

Kissing and missionary sex, lights off.

 

[Hikari]

I like men to be dom.. nothing extreme.. I just need to be roughed up once in awhile...

 

[Guest]

 

[bisexplicit]

Perhaps because people into "the scene" are a bit extreme and insane.

 

[Marquis]

Kissing and missionary sex, lights off.

So you like to be on top?

 

[ubertroll]

I am an egalitarian in all things. It is the struggle for power, not its achievment, that I seek.

'swhy I dislike BDSM, but love the Grissom/Lady Heather interplay on CSI.

 

[Marquis]

Perhaps because people into "the scene" are a bit extreme and insane.

Look, just because I'm turned on by blood and take a cocktail of brain meds to keep from going ballistic......

what were we talking about again?

 

[FinePhilly]

Perhaps because people into "the scene" are a bit extreme and insane.

Exactly.

Plus, I would absolutely detest the idea of playing any particular "role" in my sex life. I like too much variety all the time.

 

[Marquis]

I am an egalitarian in all things. It is the struggle for power, not its achievment, that I seek.

'swhy I dislike BDSM, but love the Grissom/Lady Heather interplay on CSI.

Not familiar with CSI, but anyone involved in BDSM will tell you that the journey is the destination.

 

[Marquis]

Exactly.

Plus, I would absolutely detest the idea of playing any particular "role" in my sex life. I like too much variety all the time.

Sounds like you enjoy playing the "role" of switch.

 

[BoobsNBrains]

I don't like being categorized...it's too limiting.

 

[bisexplicit]

If your point is, that most people dabble in some BDSM-like sex occasionally, then I agree with you.

If your point is everyone should become slaves or doms, then I think you're crazy.

 

[marshalt]

Cause I like to snuggle...

 

[Dionysian Beast]

I don't like being categorized...it's too limiting.

And it's also just taking things way too seriously. Enjoy it whenever you feel like it. No need to make it into anything bigger than that.

 

[ubertroll]

If your point is, that most people dabble in some BDSM-like sex occasionally, then I agree with you.

I disagree.

I think much of what everyone does sexually shares underlying principles with BDSM's. But that's like saying drinking soda is like drinking urine, because much of their content is similar. That's ridiculous... it's that they're BOTH water based.

 

[Malachi]

So you like to be on top?

We do it on our sides so no one's on top.

 

[Marquis]

We do it on our sides so no one's on top.

lol, you're good.

 

[skeaky]

We are into light bondage. She loves a nice spanking and I love giving one. Not all the time but now and then.

 

[FinePhilly]

Sounds like you enjoy playing the "role" of switch.

I don't play any role and I don't label myself.

That is particularly what I dislike about the BDSM people. Everything is a label and people take stuff to serious extremes. From what I've seen, the whole thing is a lifestyle for people.

It's creepy.

 

[Malachi]

I disagree.

I think much of what everyone does sexually shares underlying principles with BDSM's. But that's like saying drinking soda is like drinking urine, because much of their content is similar. That's ridiculous... it's that they're BOTH water based.

Nice analogy.
I'm not sure it holds water, though. Har, har!
Just kidding.

 

[BoobsNBrains]

And it's also just taking things way too seriously. Enjoy it whenever you feel like it. No need to make it into anything bigger than that.

Bingo. Why slap a label on it? It's sex.

 

[capricious_chic]

I am not into BDSM for a couple of reasons. I feel it is too structured for me w/too many rules and concessions that need to be made. More time is spent on communicating than enjoying. The biggest reason though is that I am very much the sadist and I don't care to indulge that side of me for fear of not being able to reign it back in. If I were ever w/anyone that was completely masochistic I have a very real fear that I would take an unnatural pleasure in hurting them and probably wouldn't stop when I should.

I typically go for men/women that are at my exact same level as far as ego, arrogance and dominance.

I have actually wanted to do a thread about BDSM for awhile but haven't had the time to indulge the thought. Of the people that I know well who are truly into BDSM - they have emotional and mental issues that I find unattractive. I know that it is a small segment of the BDSM community but it does give me pause and wonder if it is a good representation of those that are into BDSM.

 

[bluntforcemama]

I don't play any role and I don't label myself.

That is particularly what I dislike about the BDSM people. Everything is a label and people take stuff to serious extremes. From what I've seen, the whole thing is a lifestyle for people.

Not always, but if you talk to someone like the man-child, you're going to get the wrong idea about BDSM. It's such a wide and varied element that it's almost impossible to pin down, though many would love to tell you differently because everything must fit into a nice neat category of sexual organization or perversions. You would think most of the people who were involved in BDSM would be more open-minded, but I've often found just the opposite.