Why do you like_______?

[lil_jenni]

Here's my thoughts for this thread. Is there a sexual activity/fetish other people seem to like but you don't understand? Now's your chance to ask what the deal is... and do so respectfully. Just fill in the blank in the title question.

I'll get us started with what I suspect is an easy one. Guys, why do you like handjobs? To me, as the giver, they're boring and a bit of a chore—I'd much rather go down on a guy. And it seems to me guys would like that better too, but I've learned on here that some guys seem to prefer handjobs. If you like handjobs, what is it that appeals to you and makes a handjob something you really enjoy?

 

[CurtGiles46]

I hate the whole one guy/one girl “facial” thing. The jizz rarely lands on a good spot.

The 10-12 man Japanese bukakke on one girl is erotic, but just ONE guy doing it is so boring.

 

[billg1421]

I do like handjobs - for a bit. But i usually end up finishing them myself because no matter how "skilled" another person is at it, I know how to please myself, in thst regard, better than anyone that I've encountered so far.
Now, a combined hand/blow job.....when done right is perfect. So great to be jerked of into her mouth or with just the tip against her tongue.
Also nice to have someone else control the action once in a while.

why do you like piss play?

Is it a degradation or humiliation thing? I've never understood it so would be great to get some hot takes on it.
Thanks.

 

[la_ruche]

why do you like tattoos?

I’m OK with one or two small tattoos and they don’t bother me much (I have one myself).
Body-parts completely covered in tattoos I don’t get and to be honest I find them unattractive and very distracting from what’s about to go down…

 

[live4thebj]

I never self analyzed my fetish with mom and son incest porn; just gets me hot. However stories of other family members when the story written or video is well done gets to me too.

Looking back I was always into mothers. Just back then the term MILF wasn’t around. So makes sense I guess me being into incest porn.

 

[Mr_Blackr0se]

why do you like piss play?

I'm picky about this? I don't like the humiliation part, but watching someone enjoy getting pissed on and/or drinking piss because they enjoy it really turns me on. I love to give myself golden showers and to drink my own piss.

Why do people like rough sex? I'm not talking the occasional slap on the ass, but real rough sex.

 

[la_ruche]

why do you like piss play?

Don’t need the piss drizzling over me but receiving a pair of piss-wet training gear or undies from a partner is something I really like. As adult, most people aren’t trained to piss in the pants and watching your partner pee in their pants the first time is really sexy. When you se the first drips turning the fabric dark, then a moments hesitation before the stream gets going - wow!

 

[Handeguy]

I like hand jobs, but not to completion - there are much more satisfying ways to end, for sure! Hand jobs are a delightful hors d'oeuvres before the main course. Beside the fact that they just feel good, I think it comes down to this for me: I like to masturbate. I find it both arousing and satisfying. When a partner is doing it 'for' me, it's just as good and often better. So, why not? I wouldn't want to try to live on them as the main part of my sexual diet, though.

I'm not into pee play for the degradation aspect. Degradation in general is a huge turn off for me. I find it erotic because it's both taboo and intimate. If someone is willing to share that with me, we're being both vulnerable and extremely intimate, and I find that arousing.

Why do guys like the cuckold thing?

I'm not judging at all. Everyone has different tastes. Variety and diversity makes the world a better and more interesting place and I'm all for anything that doesn't harm anyone else. Just wondering what makes watching another guy with your Significant Other so arousing.

 

[billg1421]

Why do guys like the cuckold thing?

I have fantasized about this a thousand times. My late wife and I used to dirty talk about it during sex and almost explored it on one occassion.
To be honest, I really don't have a solid reason why it turns me on so much. I think it's the tabboo-ness of it, for one. Also, my ultimate cuck situation would be her laying on me and me holding her and carressing her lovingly while she's being pleasured by another person. Then I would be able to truly view and appreciate and focus on the sheer pleasure on her face from the orgasm - which i think in most one on one situations, we lose out on.
Despire all the pillow talk and fantasizing, I can say with a 99% degree of certainty that If it were ever to come down to brass tacks then I wouldn't do it. Ultimately I would be worried that she didn't believe I valued her emough as a person, if that makes sense.

 

[lil_jenni]

Why do people like rough sex? I'm not talking the occasional slap on the ass, but real rough sex.

There is a range of 'rough'. I don't want to be punched or kicked or burned or anything like that, but slapped is good, and I don't mean just my ass. But the slapping is just part of it. I love the loss of control, and someone wanting me so badly that he takes what he wants (and 'he' is essential -- I've never tried rough sex with a female lover, and I don't think it'd be the same for me) and pushes me/punishes me if I don't give it to him. So let's say Hubby and I are playing rough, and he wants me to suck his cock and I refuse. He slaps me or pulls my hair and makes me suck him. But at that point, he wants more so he forces me to take it all and then fucks my face. I feel helpless and ashamed and used, and all that pushes me to as close as I can get to.coming without his cock inside me or his fingers or tongue on my clit. And when he does one of those, I come almost immediately. Especially if he holds me down, forces my legs apart, and takes me as hard as he wants to. That is fucking bliss.

But, and there is a but, part of what let's me let him take control is that I love and trust him, and I know he will never take it too far. In fact, he could take it farther than he ever had before and I would be fine. I wouldn't let any random guy do even a fraction of what I will let Hubby do when it comes to rough sex. And if someone really tried to force me, I'd fight like hell, or at least I hope I would. I didn't when it happened before, but I was different then. I thought I deserved it. I don't think that now. And that's part of it all too for me. Hubby plays because I want to... he doesn't think I deserve to be treated rough. If he did, I wouldn't be with him.

Sorry... Long rambling reply.

 

[Ocean33]

Anything with feet. I just don't get it?

 

[billg1421]

There is a range of 'rough'. I don't want to be punched or kicked or burned or anything like that, but slapped is good, and I don't mean just my ass. But the slapping is just part of it. I love the loss of control, and someone wanting me so badly that he takes what he wants (and 'he' is essential -- I've never tried rough sex with a female lover, and I don't think it'd be the same for me) and pushes me/punishes me if I don't give it to him. So let's say Hubby and I are playing rough, and he wants me to suck his cock and I refuse. He slaps me or pulls my hair and makes me suck him. But at that point, he wants more so he forces me to take it all and then fucks my face. I feel helpless and ashamed and used, and all that pushes me to as close as I can get to.coming without his cock inside me or his fingers or tongue on my clit. And when he does one of those, I come almost immediately. Especially if he holds me down, forces my legs apart, and takes me as hard as he wants to. That is fucking bliss.

But, and there is a but, part of what let's me let him take control is that I love and trust him, and I know he will never take it too far. In fact, he could take it farther than he ever had before and I would be fine. I wouldn't let any random guy do even a fraction of what I will let Hubby do when it comes to rough sex. And if someone really tried to force me, I'd fight like hell, or at least I hope I would. I didn't when it happened before, but I was different then. I thought I deserved it. I don't think that now. And that's part of it all too for me. Hubby plays because I want to... he doesn't think I deserve to be treated rough. If he did, I wouldn't be with him.

Sorry... Long rambling reply.

Dont be. Long,? Yes. Rambling? No because you touched on three key points that allow it to work for you: love, trust and respect. Personally, even if I knew my partner is ok with rough play, I would be hesitant, which I'm sure might cause some conflict. But you and Hubby seem to have a great grasp on it and I have to admire that.
Interesting that you say it woudn't be the same with a female lover. That is a dynamic I've yet to encounter or even consider.
Curious - do the roles ever get reversed and you are the aggressor? Would he be ok with that? I used to try to get my wife to be that way with me but she could never really get into it.

 

[Mr_Blackr0se]

There is a range of 'rough'. I don't want to be punched or kicked or burned or anything like that, but slapped is good, and I don't mean just my ass. But the slapping is just part of it. I love the loss of control, and someone wanting me so badly that he takes what he wants (and 'he' is essential -- I've never tried rough sex with a female lover, and I don't think it'd be the same for me) and pushes me/punishes me if I don't give it to him. So let's say Hubby and I are playing rough, and he wants me to suck his cock and I refuse. He slaps me or pulls my hair and makes me suck him. But at that point, he wants more so he forces me to take it all and then fucks my face. I feel helpless and ashamed and used, and all that pushes me to as close as I can get to.coming without his cock inside me or his fingers or tongue on my clit. And when he does one of those, I come almost immediately. Especially if he holds me down, forces my legs apart, and takes me as hard as he wants to. That is fucking bliss.

But, and there is a but, part of what let's me let him take control is that I love and trust him, and I know he will never take it too far. In fact, he could take it farther than he ever had before and I would be fine. I wouldn't let any random guy do even a fraction of what I will let Hubby do when it comes to rough sex. And if someone really tried to force me, I'd fight like hell, or at least I hope I would. I didn't when it happened before, but I was different then. I thought I deserved it. I don't think that now. And that's part of it all too for me. Hubby plays because I want to... he doesn't think I deserve to be treated rough. If he did, I wouldn't be with him.

Sorry... Long rambling reply.

That was an excellent reply. Not rambling at all. Try reading a HS student's essay and you'll get a new definition of rambling.

 

[DayDreaming2407]

Anything with feet. I just don't get it?

I'm with you on this one. If anyone touches my feet, I'm kicking them. I don't even like foot massages.

 

[HoldYouDown]

Here's my thoughts for this thread. Is there a sexual activity/fetish other people seem to like but you don't understand? Now's your chance to ask what the deal is... and do so respectfully. Just fill in the blank in the title question.

I'll get us started with what I suspect is an easy one. Guys, why do you like handjobs? To me, as the giver, they're boring and a bit of a chore—I'd much rather go down on a guy. And it seems to me guys would like that better too, but I've learned on here that some guys seem to prefer handjobs. If you like handjobs, what is it that appeals to you and makes a handjob something you really enjoy?

I like hand jobs because it's fun to watch a woman play with a cock, especially mine hehe. Her boobs sway as she strokes and the cum shoots everywhere. Whereas with a BJ I usually don't see her, or if I do she's too focused for it to be visually interesting. (Once in a while it is though.) Oral sex is just not my thing. Finally I like handjobs because they are a bit juvenile - I don't mean that in a creepy way, there's just something harmless about them.

 

[lil_jenni]

I like hand jobs because it's fun to watch a woman play with a cock, especially mine hehe. Her boobs sway as she strokes and the cum shoots everywhere. Whereas with a BJ I usually don't see her, or if I do she's too focused for it to be visually interesting. (Once in a while it is though.) Oral sex is just not my thing. Finally I like handjobs because they are a bit juvenile - I don't mean that in a creepy way, there's just something harmless about them.

Thanks for your reply. I get what you're saying about the visuals. One reason I like my Hubby fingering me is that I can see his face, and kiss him, while he pleasures me. On the other hand, he is so good with his tongue that I love him going down on me too. But I'm glad he doesn't share your preference for handjobs—I don't think I'm very good at them, and I get bored.

Out of curiosity, is it just the lack of satisfying visual component that makes you not care for receiving oral, or do you not get much pleasure from the act itself? I've seen other men on here express a lack of pleasure from and/or lack of ability to climax from receiving oral. Is that the case for you?

When I read stuff like that, I always say to myself that's just because they've never had it from me (joking ).

 

[HampshireBoy]

Here's my thoughts for this thread. Is there a sexual activity/fetish other people seem to like but you don't understand? Now's your chance to ask what the deal is... and do so respectfully. Just fill in the blank in the title question.

I'll get us started with what I suspect is an easy one. Guys, why do you like handjobs? To me, as the giver, they're boring and a bit of a chore—I'd much rather go down on a guy. And it seems to me guys would like that better too, but I've learned on here that some guys seem to prefer handjobs. If you like handjobs, what is it that appeals to you and makes a handjob something you really enjoy?

I know that you've had a few answers, however. I love a woman playing with my cock, my wife will often just stroke or play with him, sometimes not as part of any foreplay just she likes to do so. It is a wonderful intimate and loving gesture, same as when I stroke her bum (which she likes) or any other part of her body.

I think I've only had a woman give me a handjob to completion maybe a couple of times, both times we were snuggled up in bed caressing each other and it just happened that the feeling was "right". Again a really nice intimate moment, and I don't think it was a chore. However, normally I would rather a blowjob or go down on them.

I really don't get anything to do with poo, quite happy with anal sex if the lady wants it but what is it with watching that?

 

[BillTheKatt90]

Here's my thoughts for this thread. Is there a sexual activity/fetish other people seem to like but you don't understand? Now's your chance to ask what the deal is... and do so respectfully. Just fill in the blank in the title question.

I'll get us started with what I suspect is an easy one. Guys, why do you like handjobs? To me, as the giver, they're boring and a bit of a chore—I'd much rather go down on a guy. And it seems to me guys would like that better too, but I've learned on here that some guys seem to prefer handjobs. If you like handjobs, what is it that appeals to you and makes a handjob something you really enjoy?

My first handjob happened when I was in college at 19. Mind-melting experience in the dorm shower. She talked dirty in exactly the right way, encouraged me to participate in the banter, controlled the speed and sensation to make it last without being overkill, used the right amount of lube, and just made the whole experience magical. I felt the heavens open above me and the earth move beneath me at climax. I momentarily thought I was in love (I no longer remember her name). It was one of the most amazing sexual experiences I have ever had. If every handjob was even close to that experience, I would put handjobs above blowjobs.

Unfortunately, over the following three decades, I have had maybe one handjob that was respectable (like a 6), and all the rest were terrible. Before I even got married, I had stopped asking for them, and if my wife suggests one (which she generally doesn't anymore) I offer mutual oral instead.


So for me it's: threesomes and multiples.

I don't get it. I love the mutual intense focus and connection of one-on-one sex. I don't find threesome+ porn interesting. I think the extra person is distracting. Plus, being the outsider as a youth, I would worry about jealousies or someone not getting what they want or need out of the experience.

 

[la_ruche]

Recently I had to visit the local hospital for a routine check-up and I have to ask:

Why do you like Doctors’ Exam fantasies?

For sure, the nurses are cute and the doctors are nice but I‘m very far from being sexually attracted in that situation. Much better to ask your partner at home to put on latex-gloves, a face-mask and give you a thorough exam, just sayin’…

 

[davenjenn]

I also iike doctor's exams. It's hardly ever gone anywhere but fantasizing about it is so exciting

 

[la_ruche]

I also iike doctor's exams. It's hardly ever gone anywhere but fantasizing about it is so exciting

Is that in the context of being at the hospital for an appointment that renders into something different or just having a stranger examining you private parts, preferably wearing latex gloves poking and prodding?
I second the latter, and they don’t have to be an M.D. ;-)

 

[davenjenn]

Is that in the context of being at the hospital for an appointment that renders into something different or just having a stranger examining you private parts, preferably wearing latex gloves poking and prodding?
I second the latter, and they don’t have to be an M.D. ;-)

Yes the second definitely. Sometimes my husband comes with me and I swear he gets more excited than I do

 

[la_ruche]

Yes the second definitely. Sometimes my husband comes with me and I swear he gets more excited than I do

Haven’t had a complete stranger examining me doctor-style in sexual context yet, only anal inspections and mutual masturbations in black latex gloves with partners I already knew.
Added “sexual exam by a stranger” to my bucket list.

 

[eroticspank]

Here's my thoughts for this thread. Is there a sexual activity/fetish other people seem to like but you don't understand? Now's your chance to ask what the deal is... and do so respectfully. Just fill in the blank in the title question.

I'll get us started with what I suspect is an easy one. Guys, why do you like handjobs? To me, as the giver, they're boring and a bit of a chore—I'd much rather go down on a guy. And it seems to me guys would like that better too, but I've learned on here that some guys seem to prefer handjobs. If you like handjobs, what is it that appeals to you and makes a handjob something you really enjoy?

Regarding Handjobs, I think it is mainly about control. The woman having full control of my orgasm and when it will happen. That can include lots of foreplay, edging, etc. A big part of that is getting into my head and that is done through talk/teasing. You can't really talk that much during a blowjob. You can get the guy so turned on that he is begging for an orgasm. That is when you take a break and maybe sit on his face so you get some pleasure for a while.

When a man jacks off, he is just thinking about giving himself an orgasm and many men don't do much edging. If you give a woman the job, she typically looks at it differently, and usually involves all kinds of touching, nipples, ass, stomach area, and chest, to name a few. She is not in a hurry because women are usually not in a hurry. A long drawn-out HJ with lots of touching and teasing can be very intense! Some women really enjoy that kind of control, it is a big turn-on.

Still, it has to be something you enjoy. If you get bored doing it, then it is not for you. I would say it is similar to sitting down for a nice gourmet dinner. If you are all excited about trying each course, savoring the tastes, and moving to the next, then it can be a great experience. If you are more about eating to get full and go on to something else, then that is a completely different experience.
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[SubmissiveSnowflake]

Guys: Why do you like to swallow your own cum? Ladies: why do you like to taste yourself? What I don't understand is that when I taste myself it's DURING my solo shenanigans while I'm still in the mood, but if guys swallow theirs it's AFTER they've finished. If you've come and are no longer horny (I assume), what is fun about swallowing it? Good for you if you do it though because you won't be scared of kissing after a blowjob Edit: I'll add the question for both... if only for the potential reassurance