Why do you Follow someone

[JennyCapricorn]

Every once in a while someone with whom I have never or barely interacted with will follow me. Since I only follow people I have already significantly interacted with I’m curious: what makes you click the follow button?

As I said I limit it to people where I already have a rapport. But what pushes your button?

 

[lifeis2short2b]

I'll click follow with someone who I think has similar interest, thoughts or opinions on things.
I do this because sometimes they would take me to a thread I otherwise may ignore.

 

[Krug06424]

Every once in a while someone with whom I have never or barely interacted with will follow me. Since I only follow people I have already significantly interacted with I’m curious: what makes you click the follow button?

As I said I limit it to people where I already have a rapport. But what pushes your button?

I don’t follow many people but it’s those who I either met through my wife here or have had positive interactions with on the Chat pages. It’s never someone I haven’t interacted with.

 

[Annabelle1990]

Every once in a while someone with whom I have never or barely interacted with will follow me. Since I only follow people I have already significantly interacted with I’m curious: what makes you click the follow button?

As I said I limit it to people where I already have a rapport. But what pushes your button?

I have not followed anyone yet, so I am curious too. Maybe I should follow people.

 

[coffeelover5]

For me, if I like their posts on the threads it reminds me to check out their latest thoughts, images and activities

Writing that made me feel like a stalker

 

[liqueur]

Following here is different than on social media. I follow someone if I enjoy reading their comments. It doesn't matter if I know them or not— all that matters is if I think I'd like to see more of what they have to say.

 

[JKL123]

I have not followed anyone yet, so I am curious too. Maybe I should follow people.

Pick Me!! Pick Me!!

 

[hotwords229_A]

Following is weird at first because it feels like stalking. Probably because it basically is, but if I see someone who posts interesting/funny/sexy things, I follow them because that’s the most economical way of “doing Lit”.

Even if I don’t know them that well, but find them interesting, I don’t want to miss what they have to say, think or offer.

I only recently discovered that the “What’s New” —> “Your News Feed” buttons show me what the people I follow are saying and where they’re posting and I can quickly catch up with them and maybe find new and exciting threads that I otherwise missed.

It still feels a little weird because it has that hiding in the bushes, looking through their window feeling, but hey, some people are into that!

 

[liqueur]

It still feels a little weird because it has that hiding in the bushes, looking through their window feeling...

I don't feel that way about it. It's the way the system (such as it is) was designed. I've never quite understood why a person would want to not be followed (unless there is a genuine stalker involved)— after all, what they are saying is public anyway. But there is that option in settings, somewhere, to not allow following.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I don't feel that way about it. It's the way the system (such as it is) was designed. I've never quite understood why a person would want to not be followed (unless there is a genuine stalker involved)— after all, what they are saying is public anyway. But there is that option in settings, somewhere, to not allow following.

So you’re saying I don’t need to hide in the bushes?
You’re no fun!

 

[Noor]

I like them or their posts.

 

[Midnight_Voyager26]

You either know them, or appreciate their posts, content,and/or perspective. It's normal behavior most of the time, and doesn't indicate that someone is a stalker.

I got stalked by a nurse I met years ago, and it was creepy as hell. In the 30 years I have been on sites like this, I have never gotten a stalker. Met some freaks, but no stalkers.

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I only follow 2 people.
I don't want messages from just anyone... Plus, the guys that used to message me did so in secret.. Hiding that they liked ssbbws...

I only allow messages from people I follow.

 

[questquilya]

I only follow 2 people.
I don't want messages from just anyone... Plus, the guys that used to message me did so in secret.. Hiding that they liked ssbbws...

I only allow messages from people I follow.

Why would they hide it? Are they insane?

 

[leftwantingmore]

I don't mind the random follow. The person could be new and looking to find a place to fit in. Maybe they read something I posted on a thread and it caught their attention. What bothers me is the random DM is you have not had interactions with me. Quote me in a thread, have a thread conversation with me first. Then, yeah DM me and we can see what happens.

 

[SirSparky]

I follow people i have had a rapport with or if we have similar interests and might lead me to a new thread I havent seen

 

[cadman7777]

I never followed anyone until I noticed people were following me......then I thought that it makes if someone posts and you like their posts and/or have similar interests

 

[cadman7777]

Following is weird at first because it feels like stalking. Probably because it basically is, but if I see someone who posts interesting/funny/sexy things, I follow them because that’s the most economical way of “doing Lit”.

Even if I don’t know them that well, but find them interesting, I don’t want to miss what they have to say, think or offer.

I only recently discovered that the “What’s New” —> “Your News Feed” buttons show me what the people I follow are saying and where they’re posting and I can quickly catch up with them and maybe find new and exciting threads that I otherwise missed.

It still feels a little weird because it has that hiding in the bushes, looking through their window feeling, but hey, some people are into that!

And now I just learned that as well....thanks

 

[pumper71]

I usually enjoy the time spent with them.

 

[JennyCapricorn]

I'll click follow with someone who I think has similar interest, thoughts or opinions on things.
I do this because sometimes they would take me to a thread I otherwise may ignore.

To be honest the idea of following to get introduced to new threads hadn’t occurred to me. Thank you!

 

[JennyCapricorn]

I don't mind the random follow. The person could be new and looking to find a place to fit in. Maybe they read something I posted on a thread and it caught their attention. What bothers me is the random DM is you have not had interactions with me. Quote me in a thread, have a thread conversation with me first. Then, yeah DM me and we can see what happens.

Left,

Firm agree. If you look at my profile you’ll see my request to talk to me in a public space before sending a PM. It’s amazing how many people ignore that and a good sign that they didn’t read or absorb my profile.

Following is much less obtrusive. It is strange to open up to a lot of activity because a new follow appeared and then liked every post I’ve made in a week, but that’s better than a random PM.

 

[leftwantingmore]

Left,

Firm agree. If you look at my profile you’ll see my request to talk to me in a public space before sending a PM. It’s amazing how many people ignore that and a good sign that they didn’t read or absorb my profile.

Following is much less obtrusive. It is strange to open up to a lot of activity because a new follow appeared and then liked every post I’ve made in a week, but that’s better than a random PM.

I usually ask WHY did you PM me? What do you want? Especially when you have no bio. Your "about" is blank
That usually sends them running but not always. I have had to ignore a few.

 

[lifeis2short2b]

Left,

Firm agree. If you look at my profile you’ll see my request to talk to me in a public space before sending a PM. It’s amazing how many people ignore that and a good sign that they didn’t read or absorb my profile.

Following is much less obtrusive. It is strange to open up to a lot of activity because a new follow appeared and then liked every post I’ve made in a week, but that’s better than a random PM.

I would think reading someone profile would be a part of following someone.
Most guys just follow women either to collect or try to get someone's attention.
I've had better luck with women reaching out to me than the other way around. I think women get so inundated with PM that they don't take many seriously or pass on " average"

 

[JennyCapricorn]

I would think reading someone profile would be a part of following someone.
Most guys just follow women either to collect or try to get someone's attention.
I've had better luck with women reaching out to me than the other way around. I think women get so inundated with PM that they don't take many seriously or pass on " average"

When I first started posting here yes, I was flooded. Now that I’m established (and likely in part because I don’t have the ‘show when I’m on line’ option active) I get far fewer on the forum side. Chat still has plenty.

But yes, I am a lot more selective on who I respond to, but to be honest it’s also my mood of the day. I don’t have an obligation to respond to every man who PMs me.

 

[lifeis2short2b]

When I first started posting here yes, I was flooded. Now that I’m established (and likely in part because I don’t have the ‘show when I’m on line’ option active) I get far fewer on the forum side. Chat still has plenty.

But yes, I am a lot more selective on who I respond to, but to be honest it’s also my mood of the day. I don’t have an obligation to respond to every man who PMs me.

Yeah I get it. Women have way different experiences with this site than guys do.
It seems the aggressive guys are just plowing through the list of women hoping to get "something". And the aggressive women just enjoy teasing the crap out of guys. But that's what makes this site successful. Hope!