Why do some women think...

[The Squid King]

...that they can get any guy into bed.

Example:

I have a date with this girl, she is not my type, but she is my style of girl. I pick her up in the big black Bimmer. She smells wonderful. I have no particular plans for the evening, so we do what she wants. We go out to dinner at a wonderful little italian place on third street. We go to a few bars and finish our evening at a nightclub. I pay for just about everything. (I try to be a gentlemen.) We get back in the car to figure out what to do next, and when we get in she doesn't smell that good anymore. All that dancing mixed with alchohol made her a little ripe, which is a huge turn-off for me. So I offer to take her back to her apartment. She accepts, we go there, and she invites me in. I graciously decline the invitation, and go home, happy.

The next day our mutual friend calls,(The one who set this whole thing up) and asks if I'm gay or prude or something. She is quite upset. She was saying that the girl I went out with through herself at me and I said no and bolted out of there. I calmed her down and said it was nothing like that. (I didn't want to tell her the real reason)

I mean where do these girls get off, thinking that I'm just going to jump at the first piece of ass that comes down the pipe. (Edited as an inappropriate dislpay of anger)

 

[metal_minx]

uhh, i dont think that...quite the opposite in fact

 

[Angel]

I mean where do these girls get off, thinking that I'm just going to jump at the first piece of ass that comes down the pipe. Fuck that, I'll cut a bitch off like O.J.

Relax.

You don't know what she was feeling.

Maybe she read your signals wrong.
Maybe she's had experiences that have taught her thats what a man expects from a date.
Maybe turning her down was an ego blow.

There are a multitude of reasons she invited you in and then wigged out when you declined.

 

[alexandraaah]

I've often wondered the exact same thing about men.

Additionally, perhaps it was the fact that, throughout the evening, you appeared interested in her, then "rejected" her.

She probably had certain expectations of you based on how you seemed to be acting.

Just one thought.

The last line of your post is disconcerting.

 

[metal_minx]

[B Fuck that, I'll cut a bitch off like O.J. [/B]

just make sure she doesnt come back to cut that thing off like lorena

 

[J.B.]

...that they can get any guy into bed.

I don't.
Look not all girls are the same just like all guys aren't either. I could say the same thing you're saying now about men, but I don't. You can't expect people to react the same way on every situation.

 

[metal_minx]

maybe you should just tell her to getsome lady speedstick or something

 

[J.B.]

just make sure she doesnt come back to cut that thing off like lorena

LMAO!

 

[bluespoke]

..I'll cut a bitch off like O.J.

We're supposed to take seriously someone who finishes his post with the above?

I'd say the girl had a lucky escape!

 

[metal_minx]

i say he's an idiot for missing the chance to shower with her...thats what i would have done, if the guy i was with was all sweaty and smelly i would offer to shower with him...hmm thats a damn fine idea if i do say so myself

 

[J.B.]

i say he's an idiot for missing the chance to shower with her...thats what i would have done, if the guy i was with was all sweaty and smelly i would offer to shower with him...hmm thats a damn fine idea if i do say so myself

Right on.
I was wondering when you'd get to this one metal. Highly entertaining thread I must say.

 

[estevie]

Re: Re: Why do some women think...

We're supposed to take seriously someone who finishes his post with the above?

I'd say the girl had a lucky escape!

Ditto!

 

[The Squid King]

There is significantly more to that story. The worst part of all this is that I would have liked to go out with her again, I was not going to hold it, (her not being fresh after being out all evening) against her. However, the actions that stemmed from it were unacceptable. Any person who has to speak poison about another to rationalise, why that person didn't fuck them, can keep walking in my book.

That last line is a reflection of the anger I feel about this whole situation.

I thought, I was doing everything right.

Women, I'd live without them. If they weren't so damn fun.

Thank you for your responses. They were insightful, the ones that didn't focus on the last seven words, anyway.

 

[bluespoke]

There is significantly more to that story. The worst part of all this is that I would have liked to go out with her again, I was not going to hold it, (her not being fresh after being out all evening) against her. However, the actions that stemmed from it were unacceptable. Any person who has to speak poison about another to rationalise, why that person didn't fuck them, can keep walking in my book.

That last line is a reflection of the anger I feel about this whole situation.

I thought, I was doing everything right.

Women, I'd live without them. If they weren't so damn fun.

Thank you for your responses. They were insightful, the ones that didn't focus on the last seven words, anyway.

We can only focus on what you write.

 

[The Squid King]

We can only focus on what you write.

Forgive me, I was getting angry all over again as I was writing that, but you're right. I will be more careful in the future.

 

[Rex1960]

...that they can get any guy into bed.
Example:... I have a date with this girl, she is not my type, but she is my style of girl. I pick her up in the big black Bimmer. She smells wonderful. I have no particular plans for the evening, so we do what she wants.

I'd consider that a concept. Doing what she wants appears like a part of your plan. Maybe she thought that way and this 'causes expectations...

We go out to dinner at a wonderful little italian place on third street. We go to a few bars and finish our evening at a nightclub. I pay for just about everything. (I try to be a gentlemen.)

nice concept again... same effect on her as mentioned above maybe.

We get back in the car to figure out what to do next, and when we get in she doesn't smell that good anymore. All that dancing mixed with alchohol made her a little ripe, which is a huge turn-off for me. So I offer to take her back to her apartment. She accepts, we go there, and she invites me in. I graciously decline the invitation, and go home, happy.

Your own expectations of nicely smelling girls ? She doesn't fulfill your picture of your kinda girl. Not her fault I guess...

The next day our mutual friend calls,(The one who set this whole thing up) and asks if I'm gay or prude or something. She is quite upset. She was saying that the girl I went out with through herself at me and I said no and bolted out of there. I calmed her down and said it was nothing like that. (I didn't want to tell her the real reason)

Why not ? Why don't you just tell the truth ? you expected someone different and she wasn't your type.

I mean where do these girls get off, thinking that I'm just going to jump at the first piece of ass that comes down the pipe. Fuck that, I'll cut a bitch off like O.J.

Wrong question and wrong conclusion I'd like to say.
The questions are
#1 - why do you dated that not-your-type-girl ?
#2 - did you really have no plan or any expectations ?
#3 - why is it that you're not telling the truth to yourself ?

I guess if she were your type, smelling nicely after dancing and alcohol, you would have fucked her just because. So who's the bitch ?

Not meant to offend you.... just my thoughts...

Rex

 

[Reverie]

Re: Re: Why do some women think...

I guess if she were your type, smelling nicely after dancing and alcohol, you would have fucked her just because. So who's the bitch ?

Not meant to offend you.... just my thoughts...

Rex [/B]

Wow, someone beleives in being blunt !

 

[Reverie]

To throw my two cents in...

I don't think anyone has a right to expect sex after a date, regardless of what kind of signals are being passed back and forth.

Trashing someone after a date is also uncool. As my Grandma always says, if you can't say something nice, say nothing at all.

Also, does the girl have no pride? I don't think I'd be whinning to my friend that I THREW myself at a guy and he practically ran away screaming, but hey, THAT'S JUST ME.

 

[VeryBadGirl]

Squid - were you not insinuating that you might have fucked her that night if she hadn't smelled bad to you? If this had happened, then wouldn't it be true that you WOULD fuck the first girl that came down the pipe?

Your post said it was the mutual friend that was upset, not your date. According to your post, your date only said she threw herself at you and you bolted. Did your friend actually say your date was upset? What was the "poison?"

 

[The Squid King]

Re: Re: Why do some women think...

The questions are
#1 - why do you dated that not-your-type-girl ?
#2 - did you really have no plan or any expectations ?
#3 - why is it that you're not telling the truth to yourself ?

I guess if she were your type, smelling nicely after dancing and alcohol, you would have fucked her just because. So who's the bitch ?

Not meant to offend you.... just my thoughts...

Rex

The answers are:

#1 She was not my type but she was close. Plus our mutual friend applied a little pressure, and I knew I would have a good time.

#2 My plan was to enjoy the evening, which I did. Mission accomplished.

#3 That is a recurring issue in my life, that's roots lie a lot deeper than this one incident.

Your conclusion is probably right. The only difference is that if all those variations had occured as stipulated but she didn't invite me to her apartment I would not have been upset about it.

Again, thank you for your insight.

 

[Rex1960]

Re: Re: Re: Why do some women think...

The answers are:
#1 She was not my type but she was close. Plus our mutual friend applied a little pressure, and I knew I would have a good time.
#2 My plan was to enjoy the evening, which I did. Mission accomplished.
#3 That is a recurring issue in my life, that's roots lie a lot deeper than this one incident.
Your conclusion is probably right. The only difference is that if all those variations had occured as stipulated but she didn't invite me to her apartment I would not have been upset about it.
Again, thank you for your insight.

you're welcome...

just wanted to point out you shouldn't blame it on other persons but yourself... and definately not on ALL girls

what's your plan now with that mutual friend ?
with that date ?
with that situation ?
what's your plan to overcome this recurring issue ?

Not that I really wanted to know, but ask yourself. And I don't mind you telling it here and outloud.

Rex

edited to take "ALL GIRLS" back - you said "some" - sorry

 

[Skibum]

I'd like to take a shot at answering your original question.

Some women think they can get any guy into bed because most of us (guys that is) will jump at the chance for sex, regardless of who it is offering. All their lives women are fending off unwanted tries to get them into bed, so it stands to reason that if she wants to honor you with an offer of a little sex, you will be as eager (nay, more eager) as she is.

Get over it. Consider yourself honored that she thought enough of you to want you to go to bed with her, and lay off the anger.

 

[Cara_f_32]

...that they can get any guy into bed.

Hey ladies wouldn't that be nice?

*calling* Hey you into bed! (pause)
Why? (pause)
Cuz i said so! (pause)

Sorry about your poor date. Don't let friends of friends get involved...want to date her again date her.....if you aren't interested move on.

Cara

 

[The Squid King]

Did your friend actually say your date was upset? What was the "poison?"

Yes, she actually did say she was upset. We(the girl who set us up) are friends, but we may not be for long. In the interest of keeping certain things private, I'm not going to get into details. Lets just say there is a lot of he said, she said going on, that has nothing to do with me and of which I don't participate in, but it has cost me...

 

[VeryBadGirl]

Yes, she actually did say she was upset. We(the girl who set us up) are friends, but we may not be for long. In the interest of keeping certain things private, I'm not going to get into details. Lets just say there is a lot of he said, she said going on, that has nothing to do with me and of which I don't participate in, but it has cost me...

Oh, ok - Like I always tell my husband, I'm so glad I'm not "out there" anymore. While there's plenty of shit to put up with in a marriage, at least I know what HIS deal is.