Why do peoplecontinually try to tell someone they can get them to do what they want?

[lorddragonwolf]

when they have been told several times they are already collered by a dom.

Yes i am a dom and my pet has been told several times by someone hear that he can and will have her. It is a shame that this person cant get the hint. You would think that this so called dom would have backed off after she told him she was collared.

This person is a lurker and as of a few days ago still had no posts. I will be nice and not post hios name yet but if he continues i think i will dedicate a tread with his name to it.

 

[sunfox]

Okay, I can see why you'd be annoyed by it, and it is rude, but what does it matter in the grand scheme of things if this guy is delusional? I'm sure your pet is capable of telling him to bugger off. If he persists in sending unwanted PMs, she can just report him and be done with it.

 

[WriterDom]

This person is a lurker and as of a few days ago still had no posts. I will be nice and not post hios name yet but if he continues i think i will dedicate a tread with his name to it.

Private messages can be deleted without opening. If he is making these statements publicly, you should respond, but outing him might only encourage him. And give him the satisfaction of knowing he is getting under your skin. He'll find somewhere else to play if you and her just ignore it.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Hopefully you both have not given this person your address or other personal information. I would suggest just ignoring the whole thing and if these messages are unwanted, deleting them without opening. If you go to the trouble to open PM's knowing they have come from someone you don't have anything you wish to share with, they are going to take some sort of comfort and encouragement from it that their attentions are appereciated and perhaps welcomed no matter what other messages are being returned.

Catalina

 

[rosco rathbone]

OK ok I'll stop.

Sheesh.

 

[dolf]

this is what the iggy button was invented for...but oddly enough i can never iggy freaky stalker types either. just to damn curious as to what they'll say next.

 

[sunfox]

OK ok I'll stop.

Sheesh.

Now I'm jealous.. you never stalk me, rosco!

 

[Miss Diva]

OK ok I'll stop.

Sheesh.

Hey Where have you and your posse been lately. You never visit me at night any more

 

[rosco rathbone]

Hey Where have you and your posse been lately. You never visit me at night any more

I got two words for you: "dysphoric mania".


The computer was watching me.

 

[graceanne]

I got two words for you: "dysphoric mania".


The computer was watching me.

Actually it was big brother, watching you through the computer.

 

[Aeroil]

lol, I think it would be kinda cool if a domme was stalking me lol. 'course if it was a dom then that's just creepy. hahaha

 

[FungiUg]

This happens in life. It's not a BDSM thing, it's more endemic than that. People don't respect other people's relationships -- they're just out there for what they want for themselves.

It's annoying, but just put the low life on ignore and move on. Life's too short to worry over silly crap like that.

 

[lorddragonwolf]

Okay, I can see why you'd be annoyed by it, and it is rude, but what does it matter in the grand scheme of things if this guy is delusional? I'm sure your pet is capable of telling him to bugger off. If he persists in sending unwanted PMs, she can just report him and be done with it.

she finally ignored him but he acts like a stalker and not the funny type

 

[lorddragonwolf]

OK ok I'll stop.

Sheesh.

nope wrong stalker.

 

[lorddragonwolf]

ty for the advice .

 

[sunfox]

she finally ignored him but he acts like a stalker and not the funny type

He was getting attention.. that's what they all want. I've had a few of those myself. Stick to the ignore, don't answer anything he does, and he'll get bored and move on.

It's irritating, though. Believe me, I know.

 

[FungiUg]

It's funny, but "stalking" is a bit of a laugh -- until it actually happens. Then it's freaky, annoying and scary.

The best advice I can give is if someone doesn't understand the word "no" then get out of there asap. In Lit, that means use the ignore feature, and if necessary, forward messages to the moderators.

 

[snowy ciara]

and if necessary, the relevant law enforcement types. Hopefully, it won't come to that, but if it did, you need to adopt a take no prisoners sort of attitude. End it as quickly and decisively as possible.

 

[ControlMe]

He has been put on ignore.I can only play with abortions gone wrong for so long before I get rather bored with them




*humps Dragon's leg*

 

[h_i_s]

Why do peoplecontinually try to tell someone they can get them to do what they want?

i guess they truely hope that if they do, they may even actually believe it themselves (even if no one else will)?

i know exactly of what you speak of here. Both here and at collarme. com, my profile clearly states that i am collared REAL TIME, and am NOT looking. my private messages have been plagued by wannabe DOMs stating that they are bigger, badder and better than my Master and therefore i should leave Him, kneel down, kiss thier trollish toes and thank them from 'rescuing' me so that i may accept their collar as a replacement to His. It says a whole lot about a 'so called' DOM when they take their own honor and integrity and toss it to the wind so casually. When another's relationship is given sooooo little respect i'm willing to bet it can only serve as a clear warning for how little they would value their own relationsip and/or submissive.

Do yourself a favor, and make use of the delete and/or ignore/block feature. These types can not be educated, or reformed and it is a waste of energy, time and bandwith to even reply.

¸,ø¤º°sinn0cent°º¤ø,¸ proudly owned by, and devoted to INSIDEYOURMIND

 

[catalina_francisco]

As annoying as getting an unwanted email or PM may be, I have difficulty understanding why it becomes such a big and troublesome issue online unless you have given them your personal address and real name. We place ads, we make posts, we get PM's.....it is in the receiver's control to say thanks but no thanks, or just delete if unwanted and/or rude. I have ads from before meeting Master on a couple of sites that just won't accept deleting them....personally I recognise these people do not always know I am taken (and most express they realise perhaps I am upfront but thought they would check), so I reply and explain the situation politely. It has only once led to further unwanted contact, and once that began, I just deleted than blocked any correpondence from them there after. I think it needs to be recognised, if you go public you can expect you might encounter some unwanted attantion (if it were that easy to just attract the right person only there would not be so many looking so long ) and that is partially your responsibility. You don't have to follow by giving out personal information, that is your choice, you don't have to keep opening their correspondence, that is also your responsibility.

Catalina