Why do I want to be spanked???

Snowman5933

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I've hung around lit for a while and occasionally drop by this board to see what topics are being discussed. I must say that after reading some of your post I have a huge amount of respect for people in the BDSM community. That said, I would like some help.

Every now and again I get extremely horny (don't we all), but normal fantasies (blowjobs, threesomes, anal), while great, aren't enough to give me the relief I so desperately need. That's when I normally end up searching for spanking content on the internet. I like the over the knee, hand spanking, but what sends me through the roof is watching someone get paddled. I don't like the cane or strap and will click away if I even see it on the screen. I don't know why but it bothers me alot, but I love the paddle.

Growing up I was a normal child, but I never got spanked at home by my parents (they did not believe in this type of punishment), but I got into trouble at school a few times, which resulted in a very unpleasent trip to the office and being paddled. I remember being paddled in the 5th grade (for not turning in an assignment), in the 6th grade (for blowing spit balls....probably deserved that one), and in the 9th grade (for fighting....I won the fight, or so I thought). My high school was very small (their were about 65 students in my class) and you could here it echo throughout the building whenever someone got paddled. I remember my heart would race and I would get very anxious anytime I would hear the sound. I remember my senior year a bunch of girls from my class went on an overnight trip and got caught drinking (these were all the beautiful, popular types....cheerleaders, so on). I was sitting in the hall by my locker which was in eyesight of the principals office when he began calling about a dozen of the finest girls in my class to his office. They formed a line outside in the hall and I could tell they were extremely nervous. One by one they were called inside and given three licks with the paddle. I can remember the flushed looks on their faces as they exited the office. I must have had a hard-on ten miles long that day.

Ok, present day. I have this deep down wish to be spanked (actually paddled by my SO). I would like to make a paddle for the occasion (are there measurements available anywhere), but here's my question, do I just blurt it out, how do I bring it up. And I don't just want to be paddled....I want some type of scenario to play out. Not just will you spank me....ok bend over. Where do I go from here? Someone help?

Snowman
 
Why do you want to be spanked? Who knows? Just go with it. As to how to get your SO to do it, well, you know her better than we do, but there are a whole host of books on the subject. Check the links at the top of the forum (BDSM Library) here for useful info.
 
I must admit, it was not until some years into the "lifestyle" that I had a SO who wanted to spank me. Until that point I had never considered it. I was in the opposite position of having my SO want to spank me, but not being very keen on the idea myself. It took a lot of gentle coaxing and going very gently... it helped he knew what he was doing. I don't think I would have liked being spanked for the first time by a novice... Nope, not at all!

In the end I ended up not fearing the spankings. However, they are not my favorite aspect of living the submissive lifestyle... but that's part of being submissive isn't it? Giving up your will to please somebody else.

If your SO isn't naturally dominant, I would go slow - they might need to be worked into it. However, I suspect, if they don't have too many hangups, they will, ... in the end ..., enjoy it - just like you will.

Just remember, go slow at first... :)

marysa
 
Marysa said:
I must admit, it was not until some years into the "lifestyle" that I had a SO who wanted to spank me. Until that point I had never considered it. I was in the opposite position of having my SO want to spank me, but not being very keen on the idea myself. It took a lot of gentle coaxing and going very gently... it helped he knew what he was doing. I don't think I would have liked being spanked for the first time by a novice... Nope, not at all!

In the end I ended up not fearing the spankings. However, they are not my favorite aspect of living the submissive lifestyle... but that's part of being submissive isn't it? Giving up your will to please somebody else.

If your SO isn't naturally dominant, I would go slow - they might need to be worked into it. However, I suspect, if they don't have too many hangups, they will, ... in the end ..., enjoy it - just like you will.

Just remember, go slow at first... :)

marysa
Thanks for the response,

I've fantasized about spanking my SO, but she is totally not into it. I've been talking to her about spanking me and she's not opposed to the idea. So, how did you start out....playfully or did you delve straight into a fantasy type situation?
 
Snowman5933 said:
Thanks for the response,

I've fantasized about spanking my SO, but she is totally not into it. I've been talking to her about spanking me and she's not opposed to the idea. So, how did you start out....playfully or did you delve straight into a fantasy type situation?


You're most welcome...

my situation was different. I was in a 24/7 submissive relationship and my Sir expected to be able to spank me if he so desired, or, once he realized the internal struggle for me to submit, if he desired a show of submission if I had been disrespectful, or to strong willed at home.

He was very understanding but firm in his resolve and worked me slowly to the point of accepting spankings first with his bare hand then slowly with other more traditional spanking implements. I was never bound during this training period. I was to submit willfully. It was tough... and still can be sometimes.

In my situation, my SO was an older father figure gentlemen and that helped play along in my mind with the spanking. Remember, that for many, spanking brings back unpleasant memories of punishment and embarrassment. If your SO isn't a submissive type, they might view the spankings as a desire for domination on your part ( which it might be ) and they could have real problems with that. If, on the other hand, you make the spanking a purely sexual activity ( my Sir used to get these very, very hard almost painful it seemed erections, and have massive orgasms after a session of spanking me – which was different than normal where orgasms were not his focal point at all ) which it easily can be, well they might be more open to the idea.

Remember, respect, respect and then more respect, and go slowly.

marysa
 
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