Ok, im only 20 years old, and i've been dating this girl for 4 months now. We really love eachother alot, care about eachother, wanna spend our lives together sorta thing. The point is that were really much in love. We have great sex, sometimes. The problem is that i go limp sometimes. This doesnt happen at the time tho. Sometimes we'll just be having sex, and all of a sudden i go limp inside of her. Or if we try to change positions, i go limp really fast. We try to do other stuff to make it go back up, but sometimes theres just no luck, so we just give up. This is really bothering me, and its never happened to me before in the past. She thinks its cause im not turned on by her, but thats not true at all. She turns me on alot! I have no idea what could be wrong with me. Another thing is that sometimes we could be having sex for a long time, and i still wont cum. Its kind of a hassle, cause she'll already have had like 8 orgasms, and is feeling sore. So i just stop. But then she feels sad that i didnt cum. So is there something i could do, is there anything wrong with me? There has to be something wrong with a person that goes limp during sex.
Why do i go limp??
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huskie
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At your age it should be a concern.
First: has you diet changed (i.e. gone from heathy foods to lots of junk food)? What type of vitamens or medication (if any) do you take? What type of work do you do (if your work is both stressfull and very physicaly demanding, this could be a factor)? How much sleep do you get??
You should answer these questions first, before you go to the dr.
First: has you diet changed (i.e. gone from heathy foods to lots of junk food)? What type of vitamens or medication (if any) do you take? What type of work do you do (if your work is both stressfull and very physicaly demanding, this could be a factor)? How much sleep do you get??
You should answer these questions first, before you go to the dr.
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Huskie is right, at your age this could be symptomatic of a larger problem, and you should talk to your doctor. I know that's embarrassing, but so's what is hapening to you now, right?
One other possible cause is too much caffeine. Do you drink a lot of coffee or cola? Caffine constricts the blood vessels, making it harder to keep or maintain an erection.
One other possible cause is too much caffeine. Do you drink a lot of coffee or cola? Caffine constricts the blood vessels, making it harder to keep or maintain an erection.
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Well i am on medication. I started taking zoloft about a week ago. And my eating is normal i guess. But i have been eating alot of fast food lately. My sleeping pattern is really screwed up tho. Since im unemployed right now, and have been for the past 6 months, I usually go to sleep around 5 or 6 in the morning, and wake up around 2 or 3 in the afternoon. And no, I dont ever drink coffee, i hate coffee, so i dont really have any caffiene in my body. I dont even drink soda that much. Goin to the doctor about this is kinda embarassing, so hopefully theirs some other solution to solving this problem. But if nothing helps, then the doctor it is.
Well i am on medication. I started taking zoloft about a week ago. And my eating is normal i guess. But i have been eating alot of fast food lately. My sleeping pattern is really screwed up tho. Since im unemployed right now, and have been for the past 6 months, I usually go to sleep around 5 or 6 in the morning, and wake up around 2 or 3 in the afternoon. And no, I dont ever drink coffee, i hate coffee, so i dont really have any caffiene in my body. I dont even drink soda that much. Goin to the doctor about this is kinda embarassing, so hopefully theirs some other solution to solving this problem. But if nothing helps, then the doctor it is.
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First change your sleeping habits. Your medication could be a nig factor to your problem?? Ask the Dr. that proscribed it. Next, get some exersise and start taking some regular daily vitamens for men. If your stressed some about finding a job, not sleeping well and taking this medication then ya that could be it. After you have done the above, and if things don't improve then go see a Dr. Don't worry one damn bit about being embarrassed. This is extreemly important and the Dr. are very used to it and should understand how important it is to you and all guys.
Why do you think Viagra was such a big hit? not that YOU need that BUT going limp is a big concern and not to be taken lightly by any one man or woman.
Why do you think Viagra was such a big hit? not that YOU need that BUT going limp is a big concern and not to be taken lightly by any one man or woman.
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I'd suspect...
I'd suspect the Zoloft, first. Many, many antidepressants have pronounced effects on your ability to feel desire or to get aroused, or both. Are you on this as a result of depression due to unemployment?
Unemployment sucks, but one of the ways to both get through the unemployment--and to get things moving for yourself as well--is to stick to a "normal" schedule. If you're going to bed at 5 or 6AM and not getting up until 2 or 3PM every day, then you're gonna have much harder time finding a job, if nothing else. Fucked up sleep patterns go right along with depression, and if you can fight them you'll find you've helped the depression too, many times.
Trust me on this one. I was unemployed for 6-8 months once in the past, and I already had a wife and 3 very small children. It's a really tough thing to go through and effects all sorts of things in your life, including your sex drive and reactions. It does make you depressed, although, for the most part, it's situational depression, not chronic. Hang in there, and if you can get things moving in your life, you'll probably pull out of this just fine.
And talk to your doc, regardless. if it's none of the above things causing your problem, you need to know what *is* causing it, right away.
I'd suspect the Zoloft, first. Many, many antidepressants have pronounced effects on your ability to feel desire or to get aroused, or both. Are you on this as a result of depression due to unemployment?
Unemployment sucks, but one of the ways to both get through the unemployment--and to get things moving for yourself as well--is to stick to a "normal" schedule. If you're going to bed at 5 or 6AM and not getting up until 2 or 3PM every day, then you're gonna have much harder time finding a job, if nothing else. Fucked up sleep patterns go right along with depression, and if you can fight them you'll find you've helped the depression too, many times.
Trust me on this one. I was unemployed for 6-8 months once in the past, and I already had a wife and 3 very small children. It's a really tough thing to go through and effects all sorts of things in your life, including your sex drive and reactions. It does make you depressed, although, for the most part, it's situational depression, not chronic. Hang in there, and if you can get things moving in your life, you'll probably pull out of this just fine.
And talk to your doc, regardless. if it's none of the above things causing your problem, you need to know what *is* causing it, right away.
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Zoloft as well as MANY anti-depressant medications are well known for their sexual side-effects. See your doctor, explain exactly what is happening and I imagine a change to a similar medication could help. There are alot of similar re-uptake inhibators that are equally effective and may or may not have the same side-effects.
Make an appt. sooner better than later. All of those medications require time in your system to become effective so the sooner you get it changed the sooner you can get on track.
Good luck, and in the meantime continue to reassure your girlfriend that IT ISN'T HER. Women can be pretty insecure at times...hell cant we all?? So keep letting her know how you feel, and take this opportunity to practice taking care of her needs. <wink wink nudge nudge> She'll thank you for it.
Make an appt. sooner better than later. All of those medications require time in your system to become effective so the sooner you get it changed the sooner you can get on track.
Good luck, and in the meantime continue to reassure your girlfriend that IT ISN'T HER. Women can be pretty insecure at times...hell cant we all?? So keep letting her know how you feel, and take this opportunity to practice taking care of her needs. <wink wink nudge nudge> She'll thank you for it.
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Not to take your thread or anything but i have a sim problem.
Im 18 and my problem is when me and my girlfriend try to have sex i cant cum. However if she gives me a blowjob or handjob i have no problem cuming. Also one day at home i did a test with myself cause i thought it could be the condoms. I tried masturbating with a condom on and i did it for about 30min and not once did i feel even close to cuming. I took the condom off and let me dick get soft again. Then i got it hard again and masturbated without a condom. 3 minutes latter i cum. Im on no medication, eat healthy and over all im very fit.
you guys have any ideas? i would love to fix this problem so i could have sex with her and be able to finish.
Im 18 and my problem is when me and my girlfriend try to have sex i cant cum. However if she gives me a blowjob or handjob i have no problem cuming. Also one day at home i did a test with myself cause i thought it could be the condoms. I tried masturbating with a condom on and i did it for about 30min and not once did i feel even close to cuming. I took the condom off and let me dick get soft again. Then i got it hard again and masturbated without a condom. 3 minutes latter i cum. Im on no medication, eat healthy and over all im very fit.
you guys have any ideas? i would love to fix this problem so i could have sex with her and be able to finish.
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Basically what everyone has said...
Zoloft can, and does have sexual side-effects in many people. I'm an RN, and deal with this medication fairly frequently. Besides the med., the stress, and even the depression itself also frequently cause sexual dysfunction. From what you're saying here about the current goings-on in your life...I can conclude one of two things....
Either:
1. You have not been on the Zoloft long enough to reach a constant therapeutic blood-level. Improvement/decreased depression symptoms will usually be seen after @2 weeks.
Or:
2. The Zoloft isn't working for you.
If you haven't been taking the Zoloft for AT LEAST 2 weeks, be patient and bear with it. The improvement of depression symptoms may have a cascade effect that could improve your over-all situation (Maybe the Zoloft isn't the real key factor in your problem).
If you've been on the Zoloft for 2 weeks or more, and neither you nor anyone around you can note a significant improvement, then it's time to talk to the doc about a new med.
If you're one of the lucky ones these days who's doctor will still sit with you and discuss what's going on rather than herding you in-and-out in 5 minutes or less, you should get the same info there. Unfortunately there are too many physicians these days who are over-loaded with patients, and will take the quick-and-easy route of changing the medication without first delving deeper into the situation. If you start medication hopping now, you may find that the same or possibly other side-effects occur with the next med...and the next. Some other anti-depressants frequently take as much as a month before significant desired effects are seen.
In the meantime, focus on the overall intimacy with your partner, reassure her that this problem is temporary, and not a reflection on her. Offer other ways to continue the physical relationship, and remind her that it still feels good to have your penis stimmulated, erection or not.
Zoloft can, and does have sexual side-effects in many people. I'm an RN, and deal with this medication fairly frequently. Besides the med., the stress, and even the depression itself also frequently cause sexual dysfunction. From what you're saying here about the current goings-on in your life...I can conclude one of two things....
Either:
1. You have not been on the Zoloft long enough to reach a constant therapeutic blood-level. Improvement/decreased depression symptoms will usually be seen after @2 weeks.
Or:
2. The Zoloft isn't working for you.
If you haven't been taking the Zoloft for AT LEAST 2 weeks, be patient and bear with it. The improvement of depression symptoms may have a cascade effect that could improve your over-all situation (Maybe the Zoloft isn't the real key factor in your problem).
If you've been on the Zoloft for 2 weeks or more, and neither you nor anyone around you can note a significant improvement, then it's time to talk to the doc about a new med.
If you're one of the lucky ones these days who's doctor will still sit with you and discuss what's going on rather than herding you in-and-out in 5 minutes or less, you should get the same info there. Unfortunately there are too many physicians these days who are over-loaded with patients, and will take the quick-and-easy route of changing the medication without first delving deeper into the situation. If you start medication hopping now, you may find that the same or possibly other side-effects occur with the next med...and the next. Some other anti-depressants frequently take as much as a month before significant desired effects are seen.
In the meantime, focus on the overall intimacy with your partner, reassure her that this problem is temporary, and not a reflection on her. Offer other ways to continue the physical relationship, and remind her that it still feels good to have your penis stimmulated, erection or not.
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To the unregistered user...
The ultra-sensitive condoms may help, but also look at your masturbatory practices.....
frequent, or 'rough' masturbation could have a desensitizing effect. Cutting down on the frequency, and/or the intensity of masturbation could help. Though stimmulation of the penis during intercourse feels great, men do generally receive more stimmulation from oral sex or hand-jobs. If you suspect that desensitation may be a factor, try altering your self-pleasuring practices - using lubrication and gentler stimmulation, or even masturbatory abstinance until you are able to reach orgasm more easily with less stimulus.
The ultra-sensitive condoms may help, but also look at your masturbatory practices.....
frequent, or 'rough' masturbation could have a desensitizing effect. Cutting down on the frequency, and/or the intensity of masturbation could help. Though stimmulation of the penis during intercourse feels great, men do generally receive more stimmulation from oral sex or hand-jobs. If you suspect that desensitation may be a factor, try altering your self-pleasuring practices - using lubrication and gentler stimmulation, or even masturbatory abstinance until you are able to reach orgasm more easily with less stimulus.
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Yes, 99% it is the meds you are taking -- side effect, but definitely see the Dr, whats the best thing you could do??? find out it is nothing serious!
Yes, 99% it is the meds you are taking -- side effect, but definitely see the Dr, whats the best thing you could do??? find out it is nothing serious!
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