Why Do Certain Men Cheat?

[TN_Vixen]

This can apply to heterosexual relationships or homosexual relationships.

Choose the answer that applies to you.

 

[Marxist]

All men cheat. Some get caught.

 

[glamorilla]

It's not expected in a real relationship...

but you didn't have an M/M~men are pigs choice.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

I have this married friend and he has been cheating on his wife since they got married.

I asked him why get married if he was going to cheat, he simply said that after years of being married he needs a change... he looked at me and said :


" I enjoy eating steak but I don't want to eat steak all my life ... some times I feel like eating chicken "...


He compares his marriage/cheating ways to steak ... go figure.



But I am sure not all men cheat.

 

[Cheyenne]

Damn it- you forgot "other" again! But you remembered to give yoyotwat his own answer so that almost makes up for it.l

I believe some "cheating" is with the spouse's consent.

 

[TN_Vixen]

technically, though, if the spouse consents, it really isn't "cheating" is it?

 

[Sillyman]

Generally, there can be a significant temptation to cheat if:

1) The husband and wife are growing apart

2) The other woman makes him feel more special, handsome virile, whatever than his wife does.

3) He falls in love with someone outside the relationship. Unfortunately it does happen that someone will fall in love with multiple people.

4) It turns on his wife.

5) A very attractive woman iniatites an offer for sex.

6) He gets his jollies from cheating and finds the thrill or humiliation sexually exciting.

7) Cheating reassures him of his own desirability

8) He wishes to hurt his spouse emotionally

 

[Private Vasquez]

They all cheat. Buncha cheating, lying bastards.

 

[glamorilla]

Men.

They should just be clubbed over the head.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Generally, there can be a significant temptation to cheat if:

1) The husband and wife are growing apart

2) The other woman makes him feel more special, handsome virile, whatever than his wife does.

3) He falls in love with someone outside the relationship. Unfortunately it does happen that someone will fall in love with multiple people.

That is so true ...

 

[Cheyenne]

technically, though, if the spouse consents, it really isn't "cheating" is it?

Depends on your definition of cheating, I guess.

 

[TN_Vixen]

Men.

They should just be clubbed over the head.

there you go. In a nutshell glam. You're my hero.

 

[mistressastra]

Mine wanted some sort of validation his own ego couldn't give him.

BTW women are just as apt to cheat so you guys out there, don't feel so secure. You want her, you're gonna have to work to keep her.

 

[QuickDuck]

They all cheat. Buncha cheating, lying bastards.

close... i would be more inclined to go with "lying, cheating, stealing, bastards".

Not all of them, but many.

 

[michaelmt1]

What a bitchy little thread.

Not all men cheat I dont care what you say. My first marriage fell apart many years ago and the last year of it was a living hell. I had ample opprotunities (well a couple) to cheat on my wife. My position was that as long as we were sharing a bed i would not get into that sort of betrayal because that is what cheating is.

When you cheat on your partner you betray every thing on which you relationship is built I dont care what you say. You can flirt, you can window shop It doesnt matter where you get your appetite so long as you eat at home.

Some men and probably most men in reality do not cheat they like i put a lot of importace on trust and value their relationship more than a casual fuck.

Call me old fashioned or what ever you will but love means commitment to your partner no matter what the sexual make up of the relationship M/M M/F F/F love doesnot judge this aspect.

If you fall out of love then end the relationship do not pretend this are ok till you find something better once you lie to your self and your partner like that it will get easier and easier.

Should you want to fuck every thing that has a pulse then do get into a relationship by condoms visit your doctor regularly and enjoy your lonly life.

This is one male who will never ever cheat so dont type cast all male please.



Mike

 

[mistressastra]

Hey Mike, I for one don't see all men as cheaters, I have just not been one of the fortunate ones to find a decent man who says he loves me and means it. The harshest thing is when you give your all to a man who repays you with shit. It nearly turned me into a using bitch myself. Luckily my mind and heart prevail and I still am a nice person, but when it comes to trust, fuck that. I won't do that again. Trust, earn it, mister!

 

[Guest]

none of the above

Couldn't vote, as you really didn't have my answer. I think some men (and women for that matter) cheat because they are insecure about who they are, and "getting a lay" makes them feel good for the moment.

Moon

 

[mistressastra]

You're right Moon, butwhat I don't get is how 30 minutes (or less) of sex can make up for months, years, of being cared for and loved by someone? Geezus it's just sex!

 

[MechaBlade]

All men cheat. Some get caught.

I don't cheat. Funny thing. You'd think I'd get more women.

 

[Svedish_Chef]

Men.

They should just be clubbed over the head.

The problem is, if you do that, you just take em back home and maul em.

 

[Nitsuj]

Not all men cheat. I never have.

 

[Northern Lights]

Obviously, all men don't cheat. I'll have been married 25 years this August and I've never cheated. Sure, like Jimmy Carter said, I've lusted in my heart, but I've never cheated.

The first 5 years, I didn't cheat because I was 100% fulfilled and hardly knew other women existed.

I think that feeling would have continued for quite some time, but then my wife cheated on me and I experienced the incredible hurt and loss of trust. We got past it together and now the hurt is gone, but the trust has never been the same. You know, that feeling of total trust when you can't imagine your lover breaking?

So now, I don't cheat because I've experienced how it feels to be the one cheated on and it's just not in me to inflict that kind of pain on loved ones. That doesn't mean I don't lust to jump the bones of a lady I find sexy.

You know what else? It's also damn flattering to be approached by a lady and politely explain that it's not going to happen.....at least not until I get home and dream what might have been.

 

[Northern Lights]

Oh, I forgot to say why men *do* cheat. I think it's for the same reason women cheat: because they are not having their needs fulfilled by their partner.

And not just sexual needs - it can be lack of conversation, lack of all the little things lovers do (just holding hands, looking at each other without saying anything, snuggling, unexpected gift, doing things for them because you want to, saying "I love you" before she/he says "I love you", listening to her/him to yak-yak-yak about things you have absolutely no interest in except they are important to her/him), being apart too much.

I saw the movie "Unfaithful" last night. The wife cheated because it was some excitement in her boring, suburban housewife day and her hubby wasn't attentive enough to her needs. I wouldn't recommend the movie, unless you just have to see what horrible things can come of cheating.

 

[Private Vasquez]

yeah huh, and they steal things too. The punks. The lot of 'em!

 

[MobyPlay]

I have yet to cheat on any woman who I have had a relationship with ... its not in me to be so cruel to a woman.


Was this question only directed towards married men or all men in general ?!


Anyways I have yet to cheat.