Why did i become bi?

[Excitabletom]

I have always been bi for as long as I can remember. I loved the sexy shape and feel of women, but also enjoyed the casual enjoyment of swapping blowjobs. Men do it because they want to and want to please the other man. Many women do it because it's expected of them.

Back in school, I dated a lady for almost two years without going all the way. We had a lot of closeness and feelings. I had a male FWB at that time that would suck my cock any any time we could get together. I enjoyed both relationships!

My body craves physical release. My wife gives it with emotion and men give give it just physically (and usually quickly.) I have always liked both men and women and will continue to; although my wife doesn't know nor would she like it. Always bi!

 

[none2_none2]

It's definitely easier-and another difference is that when men suck cock it's because they WANT to, not out of a sense of obligation. Male or female, enthusiasm is the key to a great blowjob. I've had some mediocre blowjobs from women, but I've never gotten a bad BJ from a man. Granted, I've had a lot more blowjobs from women than from men, but I feel like it's a fair generalization from my experiences.

I would have to disagree with you. Enthusiasm of course is nice, but nothing compares to getting to know what the particular man enjoys. Men are not all cut from the same cloth, just like penises are not all the same. You have to figure out what the individual man desires. To be honest in the 40 plus years of having m2m sex, I cannot recall a good BJ. My partner came the closest, but that is because he did his darndest to figure me out. Still even with my partner I couldn't get off that way even before I had ED. Way too many guys think that cock sucking is like an assembly line -- do this, do that, and it will shoot off in 3-15 minutes.

For myself, my balls are way too sensitive, and not in a good way. I don't want them squeezed, tugged, bitten, etc. Second, I cannot stand teeth at all. Saliva is acidic so if you scrape a shaft with teeth, then the acidic saliva can burn your shaft.

Way too many guys think that all that matters is putting the head and a little bit of shaft in your mouth is all you need to do... Imagine fucking where the bottom said ONLY put your head inside. Why have a shaft at all if it isn't going to go inside? A penis is not a clit. It HAS a shaft below the spongy head. Likewise, some cock suckers think they can compensate going down the shaft by using their hands. That isn't a BJ, but a hand job with a mouth covering the head. Now I'm not talking about throat fucking. I can see where that can be horrible for a cock sucker if he isn't uses to that and/or the guy's cock is huge. I'm just average, I could never cause a cocksucker to black out from lack of oxygen because I have cut off his windpipe from getting oxygen.

That is why for me a man with a nice clean hairy ass was so much better than any bj. Blowjobs are best used as foreplay to real penetration. Note, when I fucked, it wasn't like a jack rabbit, but as a journey. The ultimate being if the bottom would cum while I was inside him. Feeling a man's orgasm from inside his ass is the ultimate feeling. While I have a dry mouth which is why kissing isn't always the greatest, a man's mouth is much more natural to kiss then having a guy trying to get you off with his mouth. Now maybe if I could have gone days without getting off would have made one of these less than good BJ's adequate, but I could never go long without getting off. I would have to be awfully sick to go long with getting off.

 

[BiDrew42]

Like everything else, our sexual preferences change over time. When I was very young, I thought I was gay. But I soon realized that I was also attracted to females. Fortunately for me, my first sexual experiences with males and females occurred about the same time. Up until I got married, I would say I was evenly split in my attraction to males and females. When I was 21, I had my first experience with a trans woman and technically became pansexual, although I'm not sure that word even existed at the time. In the approximately two years before I got married, I was having sex with mostly trans escorts, and the occasional male or female. During the early part of my marriage, I fantasized about other women mostly, but did occasionally fantasize about men and trans women. Late in my marriage, I fantasized almost exclusively about trans women. After I was divorced, I went all in on as many sexual experiences as I could. As I have gotten older, I find that I am more attracted to trans women and men for the most part, but occasionally have sex with women. My porn consumption was almost exclusively trans up until about a year ago, and now it tends to be about 50% gay, 25ish% trans, and the rest a mix of everything and anything that catches my fancy.

 

[Escierto]

Like everything else, our sexual preferences change over time. When I was very young, I thought I was gay. But I soon realized that I was also attracted to females. Fortunately for me, my first sexual experiences with males and females occurred about the same time. Up until I got married, I would say I was evenly split in my attraction to males and females. When I was 21, I had my first experience with a trans woman and technically became pansexual, although I'm not sure that word even existed at the time. In the approximately two years before I got married, I was having sex with mostly trans escorts, and the occasional male or female. During the early part of my marriage, I fantasized about other women mostly, but did occasionally fantasize about men and trans women. Late in my marriage, I fantasized almost exclusively about trans women. After I was divorced, I went all in on as many sexual experiences as I could. As I have gotten older, I find that I am more attracted to trans women and men for the most part, but occasionally have sex with women. My porn consumption was almost exclusively trans up until about a year ago, and now it tends to be about 50% gay, 25ish% trans, and the rest a mix of everything and anything that catches my fancy.

That is quite a history!

 

[Blueser916]

I believe it comes with the confidence and DGAF attendant to age. Particularly for older guys (like me), who grew up in a time when “gay stuff” was taboo, a quick ticket to outcast status.

 

[Astroman72]

With me it was very simple: puberty. I remember seeing a softcore porn mag as a teenager in the 70s, I think it was Oui, and it had a layout of a naked couple, kind of artsy and not too explicit. The woman's breasts and hairy pussy immediately excited me--and the guy's thick penis and big, hairy balls instantly had the exact same effect on me. Later, reading Penthouse letters, there would be the occasional gay or bi one. I was like, "wow, guys can enjoy cocks, too! I know I'd love that!"

I've never been very effeminate in any way, I love women, and I never developed any emotional or romantic interest in men. But that powerful, primal desire for the penis has never left me.

 

[tnh_06]

I became bi curious around age 40. I think it is because I love oral sex so much and my wife is just not much into it. She sucks my cock for about 30 seconds then asks me if I liked it. I always tell her yes, but that I would like more. Anyway, my love for oral sex has led me to explore sex with other men. My first time being suck by another man was absolutely incredible!! I posted a story about it previously. I have sucked cocks maybe 4 or 5 times in the past 10 years or so. I want to explore more

This pretty much describes it, but I was in a near-sexless marriage, and I agree with others above, sex is exciting, new is exciting, getting off is fun and guys are easy.

 

[Northwind75]

With me it was very simple: puberty. I remember seeing a softcore porn mag as a teenager in the 70s, I think it was Oui, and it had a layout of a naked couple, kind of artsy and not too explicit. The woman's breasts and hairy pussy immediately excited me--and the guy's thick penis and big, hairy balls instantly had the exact same effect on me. Later, reading Penthouse letters, there would be the occasional gay or bi one. I was like, "wow, guys can enjoy cocks, too! I know I'd love that!"

I've never been very effeminate in any way, I love women, and I never developed any emotional or romantic interest in men. But that powerful, primal desire for the penis has never left me.

I have always enjoyed seeing a bigger cock but was always afraid of the stigma of interaction with men. I finally took the plunge at about 68 years old and now regret not doing it sooner

 

[Abrahamlickin]

Having a good time with either gender knowing we made each other feel good was enough for me. I can enjoy both sexes! Its equally pleasing.

 

[daveincr]

I had couple of experiences with guys in my twenties. I like sex with both sexes and had a couple of mmf threesomes. I'm in my sixties and have been divorced and single for a long time. I'm still open to having a mf relationship, but I have never had any desire to be more than a sex partner with a man. I say I like dicks but not dudes. if the right situation comes along, I will go for it, but not looking for an online hookup with a guy any more than I would with a woman. There's just too much crazy out there. I have been trying to live out fantasies through chat here and on another site with some success, but I don't like the idea of degrading or being degraded.

 

[ShyTink61]

I was about 55 when I developed a sexual,attraction to men. Before that I was totally straight. I have no idea why I changed. I noticed when showering after a workout I started getting excited by the cocks I was seeing. With in about 2 years I was sucking cock.

I have no idea why this happened. I was married, and it was not a sexless marriage. I did not become gay, but I needed cock as much as I needed straight sex. It was not a hormone problem.

I know this has happened to other men. Do you have an explanation? I am content being bi, and have no desire to be straight or gay. Im am curious as to why I changed.

I can totally relate to that, and I was the same age when I really started thinking seriously about what it would be like to have another mans hard cock in my mouth. Now ten years later, I can’t get enough of it. I love sucking cocks.

 

[Swuchro]

I became bi when I was in my 20s. I found that I was a total bottom because;

I enjoy sex

Love sucking cock and knew I was good doing it

Love to be fucked because it gave me the most intense orgasms.

I am more dom with women and daily life and being a sub bottom allowed me to bring balance to my alpha daily life.

 

[MikeBauer]

I had been straight a big part of my life, when things changed when I was 50. I have always been addicted to skimpy G Strings. One day at a remote beach in Greece, I noticed that men were much more interested in watching me wearing strings then women. One guy who was 50 meters away even started to wank.

I searched the Internet for thong forums, most of them were dominated by men. In the course of the time, I got into contact like minded thongers over the internet, also looking at their pics. One moment I didn’t only admire their strings but the butts, at the same time I got a lot of positive reaction about my sexy butt. This evolved, and today, I love to see sexy strings as well as sexy cocks.

Last summer, I spend a day at a clothing-optional gay Ressort, and I had a nude tantra message. These days, I lol be in Berlin, and I plan to have another tantra massage - it goes without saying that I will go to a male masseur.

Mike

 

[Funguy63]

I am like you except I was in my 60's when I became curious

I was always curious. But I was in my 60's when I finally sucked my first cock. Loved it!

 

[Smoothshavendad]

I was always curious. But I was in my 60's when I finally sucked my first cock. Loved it!

Us old guys need naughty fun too!

 

[Phatfeet]

I had been hit on by friends and strangers, but avoided my growing interest until I was conversing with a man on here one night about wife sharing. We had an interest in that, but also so many more things that it really was uncanny. He was like my twin. It was right back and forth private messaging because we were both were so eager to share.

Then he dropped a bombshell on me, he said, “if it slipped out of his wife, and into him, he would be fine with that”. I stopped in my tracks because I was confronted with an interest I tried to deny. I had been homophobic for so long and here it showed me that guys like myself also had interest in this.

It was not overnight that a change occurred, but it truly started with that private message on here so many years ago.

 

[larrycando]

Started this fantasy in my late 30's reading Penthouse magazine. My wife and I would take turns reading stories that interested us. We both hit on MFM threesomes where the other guy was open minded. We had some of those experiences together.

We divorced because I could make as much money as she could spend.

While single, I explored online stuff and had some fun with other guys and guys who wanted to share their wives. Then a few of them suggested to meet just MM because they wanted to do things they wouldn't do with their wife present.

Then I met a woman 15 years younger than me and she expressed interest in other women. I found stories for us to share while fucking which led to a few FMF but mostly her having FF experiences and we discussed them afterwards.

I am PM open.

 

[Toddski]

I was about 55 when I developed a sexual,attraction to men. Before that I was totally straight. I have no idea why I changed. I noticed when showering after a workout I started getting excited by the cocks I was seeing. With in about 2 years I was sucking cock.

I have no idea why this happened. I was married, and it was not a sexless marriage. I did not become gay, but I needed cock as much as I needed straight sex. It was not a hormone problem.

I know this has happened to other men. Do you have an explanation? I am content being bi, and have no desire to be straight or gay. Im am curious as to why I changed.

I was Bi curious for trans and lady boys but as I aged my wife definitely drove me to happy to be bi. Trans women and lady boys want it just as much as a straight man.
Basically most not all old woman are boring lay there, mannequins.

 

[irishblade]

Perceptive. Also I think with age and maturity comes the realisation that you don't need to give a fuck for societal norms or what you grew up with, and just decide what you like for yourself.

For me, anal sex. I was a latecomer.

I’ve always been an early comer

 

[saintcero]

Why bi? ‘Cause straight got boring.

 

[el_uno77]

I would have to disagree with you. Enthusiasm of course is nice, but nothing compares to getting to know what the particular man enjoys. Men are not all cut from the same cloth, just like penises are not all the same. You have to figure out what the individual man desires. To be honest in the 40 plus years of having m2m sex, I cannot recall a good BJ. My partner came the closest, but that is because he did his darndest to figure me out. Still even with my partner I couldn't get off that way even before I had ED. Way too many guys think that cock sucking is like an assembly line -- do this, do that, and it will shoot off in 3-15 minutes.

For myself, my balls are way too sensitive, and not in a good way. I don't want them squeezed, tugged, bitten, etc. Second, I cannot stand teeth at all. Saliva is acidic so if you scrape a shaft with teeth, then the acidic saliva can burn your shaft.

Way too many guys think that all that matters is putting the head and a little bit of shaft in your mouth is all you need to do... Imagine fucking where the bottom said ONLY put your head inside. Why have a shaft at all if it isn't going to go inside? A penis is not a clit. It HAS a shaft below the spongy head. Likewise, some cock suckers think they can compensate going down the shaft by using their hands. That isn't a BJ, but a hand job with a mouth covering the head. Now I'm not talking about throat fucking. I can see where that can be horrible for a cock sucker if he isn't uses to that and/or the guy's cock is huge. I'm just average, I could never cause a cocksucker to black out from lack of oxygen because I have cut off his windpipe from getting oxygen.

That is why for me a man with a nice clean hairy ass was so much better than any bj. Blowjobs are best used as foreplay to real penetration. Note, when I fucked, it wasn't like a jack rabbit, but as a journey. The ultimate being if the bottom would cum while I was inside him. Feeling a man's orgasm from inside his ass is the ultimate feeling. While I have a dry mouth which is why kissing isn't always the greatest, a man's mouth is much more natural to kiss then having a guy trying to get you off with his mouth. Now maybe if I could have gone days without getting off would have made one of these less than good BJ's adequate, but I could never go long without getting off. I would have to be awfully sick to go long with getting off.

hi none2_none2. i love your description. despite you ED i am sure you would make a great lover without all the pressure associated with it. i have a friend who also has ED and we have some wonderful times together just talking and fondling each other. he knows my weak spots and does anything and everything to get me off. it's this enjoyment that i crave with another man. best to you.

 

[KarinSoftly]

I think it was always in me to be bi but my dressing seemed to bring out the desire

 

[honestWithWifie]

When I was younger, I had experimented with friends. We would suck each other's cocks. I (secretly) loved it, but being gay was a definite no-no (I grew up in the south in the 60's & 70's.). I never initiated it, but I never ever said no.

Time passes ... I then had full sex with a man a few decades older than me several times for money. My brain washing about being gay was still too powerful to let me enjoy what could have been an enjoyable experience. Anyhow, getting fucked in the ass by a real cock for the first time when you have all of these brain washed gay ideas was painful literally and mentally. So after this guy finishes inside me, he is determined to get me off with a blow job. I'm just not able to cum. He somehow convinces me to get in the 69 position and suck him. OMFG! I started sucking on that big soft, hairy cock. His musk and scent combined by his now hardening cock growing in my mouth sent me over the edge. I was soon shooting ropes of cum down his throat.

 

[Bisexguy70]

I think I became bi out of necessity. I am in a sexless marriage and decided to try sucking another cock. I didnt want to have an affair with a woman and I was curious so I stepped out of my comfort zone. Im glad I did because i found mutual touch and oral with another man was very gratifying. I just wish I would have become bi much earlier in life but looking back i realize I was probably turned on by cock but too afraid and ashamed based on societies views on same sex

 

[Donniemti24]

I pretty sure I’ve been bi for longer than I think. I was intrigued by cocks for most of my adult life. It wasn’t until I was 50 yrs old that I decided to act on my curiosity and went looking on the old Craigslist. I do truly love women and pussy and I do love a nice hard smooth cock as well. For me there is something about make both men and women cum that is very satisfying for me in fact I do get harder when I’m preforming oral.