Why Can't You Get Over Him/Her?

[juicylips]

Yea...I know. You've tried everything. You deleted the emails, tore up the pics, started dating other people...but still ......late at night before you drift off to sleep....he is the one that invades your thoughts...your feelings.


Sigh. Will it ever end? Do you think the connection will ever be truly broken?

Tell me if you are struggling with this or have had this happen.

What did you do to get over a relationship that had ended, but your feelings hadn't.

JL

 

[penguindance]

 

[juicylips]

HERE I AM (JUST WHEN I THOUGHT I WAS OVER YOU)


Here I am playing with those memories again
And just when I thought time had set me free
Those thoughts of you keep taunting me

Holding you, a feeling I never outgrew
Though each and every part of me has tried
Only you can fill that space inside

So there's no sense pretending
My heart it's not mending


Just when I thought I was over you
And just when I thought I could stand on my own
Oh baby those memories come crashing through
And I just can't go on without you

On my own I've tried to make the best of it alone
I've done everything I can to ease the pain
But only you can stop the rain

I just can't live without you
I miss everything about you

 

[1hotjob]

I still think about a few people even though it's 15 years later. Sometimes memory sucks.

Hey JL, how are ya?

 

[penguindance]

 

[juicylips]

I still think about a few people even though it's 15 years later. Sometimes memory sucks.

Hey JL, how are ya?

*Tackles.....Pins....Sitting on top of you*

OMG...

I've missed you....can't you tell?

JL

 

[Rambrat]

What did you do to get over a relationship that had ended, but your feelings hadn't.

JL

Focused on the memories that reminded me that I am better off without her...and then focused more on the current relationship.

Still...there are times when I shake my head and think...it could have been great...had she kept her freakin' mouth shut!!!

 

[1hotjob]

*Tackles.....Pins....Sitting on top of you*

Anyway you want it, is fine by me!

 

[Georgia Girl]

"I Miss My Friend" by Darryl Worley (


I miss the look of surrender in your eyes
The way your soft brown hair would fall
I miss the power of your kiss when we made love
Oh, but baby, most of all
I miss my friend

Chorus

The one my heart and soul confided in
The one I felt the safest with
The one who knew just what to say
To make me laugh again
And let the light back in
I miss my friend


I miss the colors that you brought into my life
Your golden smile, those blue-green eyes
And I miss your gentle voice
In lonely times like now
Sayin' it'll be alright
I miss my friend

(Repeat Chorus)

I miss those times
I miss those nights
I even miss our silly fights
The makin' up
The mornin' talks
And those late afternoon walks
I miss my friend

(Repeat Chorus)

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This really says it all for me. We still talk sometimes but its hard for both of us, WA and GA are just so far apart.

Dawn

 

[juicylips]

Dawn,
Those were just heart melting lyrics and sooooo true. Thanks for sharing them.

JL

 

[Kasha]

It seems though that with memory ...things get fuzzy. People seem nicer than they really were... more interesting... more attractive. Whatever... absence as they say makes the heart grow fonder. This may be true...but if you ended a relationship...There was a reason. Sometimes the reason becomes as fuzzy as the memories. So, you will either get over it with time and go on and find someone new to occupy that place in your heart and mind. Or.. you will go back and see if the reality is as good as the memory.

 

[Rex1960]

Yea...I know. You've tried everything. You deleted the emails, tore up the pics, started dating other people...but still ......late at night before you drift off to sleep....he is the one that invades your thoughts...your feelings.
Sigh. Will it ever end? Do you think the connection will ever be truly broken?
Tell me if you are struggling with this or have had this happen.
What did you do to get over a relationship that had ended, but your feelings hadn't.
JL

Well... Nothing easier than getting over her...
That's what I figured out in my life. Take my last experience as an example:
We had the greatest sex and she was/is a breathtaking beauty, but our realtionship didn't work out well, we split and we were stable enough to just walk our ways.
Ok - I had some nice memories of a perfect body and sex sex sex...
But hey - i am smart and clever, educated, good looking and took my chances whenever they appeared.
So it was/is pretty easy to forget her.

..... Every second weekend, when I pick up our lil daughter...
i have these memories when i have to see her mom, when i have to look at her breathtaking body and her lovely eyes.
......Every time I see our daughter smile I see her moms face ...

I'll never ever be able to forget her... but i just don't care... because the memories are great... nothing to complain.

Rex

 

[plasticman33]

Yea...I know. You've tried everything. You deleted the emails, tore up the pics, started dating other people...but still ......late at night before you drift off to sleep....he is the one that invades your thoughts...your feelings.


Sigh. Will it ever end? Do you think the connection will ever be truly broken?

Tell me if you are struggling with this or have had this happen.

What did you do to get over a relationship that had ended, but your feelings hadn't.

JL

Well, if it hasn't been obvious, I will admit to suffering from it. It is getting easier though thanks to some really supportive friends, that I've found here at lit.

 

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[Gord]

They sat it takes half the time you were together to get over someone -

So if you were together 10 years - give yourself 5 .

I think we underestimate the effect a long term break up actualy has on us it is like getting a limb taken off.

You can move on and even have another partner, but there is always that nagging memory - what ifs and buts etc.

 

[juicylips]

Hi Juicy

I think that if you really truly love someone then you always carry a little piece of them with you, no matter how badly things ended.

Time dulls pain and loss, I think, but memories... they're yours to keep, like it or not

Feel better, sweets. Or else, come stay with me and I'll make you feel real good

You know me so well and I know you can tell where my mind is at. I should just clean my fucking pm box totally out...delete my yahoo offline messages...some emails...audios...but I can't. Not yet. How long does it take for "time" to kick in?

Come stay with me, hold my hand...make me tea. Help me make a clean break.

Miss you, chickie.
JL

 

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[juicylips]

Don't delete your stuff, sweets, you'll maybe regret a little ways down the track.

Store them away for a while and when you're feeling a little stronger and a little better, you may want to read them all over again. Then decide whether to keep them or not. I still have all my old love letters, even though I felt like ripping some of them up when times were tough. Now, very occasionally, I look on them fondly and smile

Can't help you on the time factor. You know, some people you just never get over *hugs* But, it does get better. Really, it does. Cry, cry and then cry some more. And talk about it, and play music and go for walks and wallow in the bath and just be good to yourself. It all helps.

I wish I were closer, my friend

Thank you.

You always know just what to say.

Love you...
JL

 

[cutie pie]

I was just having this conversation with a friend of mine. She received an email and was ready to jump in the car. Fortunately, she didn't. I think we all have one person that we just never truly get over, even though a relationship would never work out. It's OK to have wistful moments, as long as one can keep things in perspective.

Time heals all wounds, or so they say.

 

[Rambrat]

Time heals all wounds, or so they say.

sounds like good advice when there's no one by your side...

 

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[Rambrat]

How odd this should appear today...

While I was off trying to see the eclipse last evening, I came across an old friend (well, not really) that had fucked the man that I thought to be my soulmate. I found that I was still furious with her.

That was 14 years ago! I thought I was completely over him and her...

Did you kick her ass?

 

[Bluesboy2]

My sig is about her

My soulmate. Long story. Suffice to say she died in 1986. I still love her and always will.

 

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[Lovepotion69]

It always takes me at least half a year to get over someone. But, the feelings and intensity differs per relationship.

As you already know Juicy, the last one was the longest, so I assume it will take the longest time for it to heal too.

I don't delete emails. I don't even throw away print outs. I just can't make myself because that would mean throwing away a part of my life, and I don't want to forget. I just want to go on.

I do believe that there will always be at least one person that cross your path that you will have a harder time to get over. I do not believe in forgetting, but I believe in getting on with my life. Unfortunately that may take a while at times.

Many here mention that they focus on why there was a breakup, and the reasons the relationship didn't last. Yes, that usually helps, but have you ever considered that there are breakups that have nothing to do with the person involved?

How does one get over a breakup that involved 3rd/4th parties?

/LP