Why are you with your current partner?

I know this seems like a strange question. But I ask because I realized the other day the only reason my situationship & I are together is because neither of us wants to play the game (aka dating) to find a real relationship.
 
Because we are extremely compatible in many ways, easy and absolutely comfortable in our conversations, and sex is pretty damn amazing. Oh and he makes me feel the safest I've felt in a very long time.
 
Started out as a couple enjoying life together. Work place injury in 2014 changed a lot of her attitude and health. We stayed together hope her health would improve, some what drifting slowly apart.
Diagnosed with cancer 18 months ago, been there to get her to her treatments and watch over her meds and after care. Still here, like room mates, sharing a house, expenses, making the best of it. Her health is on a downward slide,she doesn't do a lot to try to improve it. Not the retirement I wanted.
There's days I wonder why I stay.
Very depressing.
 
I guess the title says it all. Why are you with your current partner?

Because AnnyMouse28 doesn’t live near me. 😉

I have a somewhat complicated friends with benefits situation. I’m with her because of the trust we have in each other and the sexual compatibility. Plus, I have had no success with dating over the past decade. We both satisfy needs that we’re not getting otherwise.
 
We support each other, complement each other’s strengths/weaknesses, let go of shit that doesn’t matter. He’s an amazing step-father to my kids. He’s nice to look at and I want to be with him, spend time with him. He’s smart and funny.
 
Because AnnyMouse28 doesn’t live near me. 😉

I have a somewhat complicated friends with benefits situation. I’m with her because of the trust we have in each other and the sexual compatibility. Plus, I have had no success with dating over the past decade. We both satisfy needs that we’re not getting otherwise.

The bold is exactly what is going on me with me. Neither one of us has any luck in dating (even each other) so instead we just have fun together.
 
She cost quite a bit of money, has a long lasting charge, is always ready when I am and only stops when I am completely satisfied, doesn’t leave the toilet seat up, doesn’t hog the tv remote, doesn’t leave socks and pants all over the place and doesn’t argue with me. Nora, the perfect partner.
 
She cost quite a bit of money, has a long lasting charge, is always ready when I am and only stops when I am completely satisfied, doesn’t leave the toilet seat up, doesn’t hog the tv remote, doesn’t leave socks and pants all over the place and doesn’t argue with me. Nora, the perfect partner.
Nora? I thought it was BOB.
 
She cost quite a bit of money, has a long lasting charge, is always ready when I am and only stops when I am completely satisfied, doesn’t leave the toilet seat up, doesn’t hog the tv remote, doesn’t leave socks and pants all over the place and doesn’t argue with me. Nora, the perfect partner.
Me me me. I am really close on most of these.
 
I know this seems like a strange question. But I ask because I realized the other day the only reason my situationship & I are together is because neither of us wants to play the game (aka dating) to find a real relationship.
Do you need "a relationship" at all?

Just asking because it already sounds like you already don't have a "real" one, depending what you mean by that.
 
In all seriousness, I have had two quite lengthy marriages and I felt trapped in both of them. I now enjoy my freedom and I really don’t want another partner. I am the happiest I have been in a long time. I have been single for nearly five years and I don’t miss having a partner
 
Do you need "a relationship" at all?

Just asking because it already sounds like you already don't have a "real" one, depending what you mean by that.

Nope I don't need a relationship. Not even sure I want one at this point. What I have now is okay. We have fun and enjoy spending time together. But I also get to have time to myself without feeling guilty. And bonus I don't have a need to try to date anyone.
 
The bold is exactly what is going on me with me. Neither one of us has any luck in dating (even each other) so instead we just have fun together.

Can you elaborate on what you mean that you don’t have any luck dating each other with your Situationship?

It actually sounds like it’s working well for both of you. Because it seems like you’re both getting what you want from each other in this relationship.
 
In all seriousness, I have had two quite lengthy marriages and I felt trapped in both of them. I now enjoy my freedom and I really don’t want another partner. I am the happiest I have been in a long time. I have been single for nearly five years and I don’t miss having a partner
I can’t imagine having another marriage or even a long term monogamous relationship. No fucking way.

But I will need tips on cooking for one. 🤣
 
Can you elaborate on what you mean that you don’t have any luck dating each other with your Situationship?

It actually sounds like it’s working well for both of you. Because it seems like you’re both getting what you want from each other in this relationship.

We dated for about 6 months and then ended things because it wasn't a love match. Then a few months later we attempted a strict FWB. He would come over, we'd get naked and then he would head home. I then decided that that wasn't working for me and stopped that. Then several months after that he reached out again and we ended up getting together. From that time on we have seen each other fairly regularly, not just getting naked. But hanging out and doing social things together. Though if either one of us was interested in actually dating and finding "love' it would end. It is a classic situationship, it has all the elements of a "real" relationship except that it isn't.
 
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