CuriousCat89
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I have some pretty extensive experience with lit relationships. I have been very lucky - dare I say, spoiled! I have noticed some trends with my time back here that I thought I would share so men looking for women - serious women, not bots of OF pages - can have some real world advice from someone who has had a few successful lit encounters including in person.
1) Be original and authentic. When you send the same message to every possibly-female litster, we can tell. What made you want to send her a message? What interests you about her? Tell her about yourself, what you're genuinely looking for, and what non-sexual stuff about you makes you interesting and worth talking to.
2) Be worth talking to. Your one word replies don't keep us interested (the same goes for us, I know).
3) Take a hint. If we don't reply, don't come back over and over again.
4) Be aware of your post history. If your post history reads like a creep, we'll think you're a creep. If we think your posts are funny and creative, you're probably funny and creative.
5) Be available. When you message for a week or two, and there's some mutual interest or rapport, but you log off for a week without letting her know, what is she supposed to think? Share your level of communication ability, and consider moving to a non-lit app for more accurately timed chatting. Every relationship I've had on lit had blossomed much more off-lit. RIP Skype, but there are many other options that help you retain your privacy.
6) Be self aware. If you start talking and have that rapport, don't keep posting creepy drooling posts all over lit. She sees your bread crumbs. If you only want fun and flirting, be clear about that and if you're on the same page, great. Too many people do not communicate clearly what their own preferences are for their time on lit.
7) Be honest. There are ways to be honest and protect privacy as well.
I hope this helps some people understand why they're not getting the traction they're seeking on here.
Good luck!
1) Be original and authentic. When you send the same message to every possibly-female litster, we can tell. What made you want to send her a message? What interests you about her? Tell her about yourself, what you're genuinely looking for, and what non-sexual stuff about you makes you interesting and worth talking to.
2) Be worth talking to. Your one word replies don't keep us interested (the same goes for us, I know).
3) Take a hint. If we don't reply, don't come back over and over again.
4) Be aware of your post history. If your post history reads like a creep, we'll think you're a creep. If we think your posts are funny and creative, you're probably funny and creative.
5) Be available. When you message for a week or two, and there's some mutual interest or rapport, but you log off for a week without letting her know, what is she supposed to think? Share your level of communication ability, and consider moving to a non-lit app for more accurately timed chatting. Every relationship I've had on lit had blossomed much more off-lit. RIP Skype, but there are many other options that help you retain your privacy.
6) Be self aware. If you start talking and have that rapport, don't keep posting creepy drooling posts all over lit. She sees your bread crumbs. If you only want fun and flirting, be clear about that and if you're on the same page, great. Too many people do not communicate clearly what their own preferences are for their time on lit.
7) Be honest. There are ways to be honest and protect privacy as well.
I hope this helps some people understand why they're not getting the traction they're seeking on here.
Good luck!
