Where should I go from here....

[kls82883]

I dating this girl in highschool. I was totallt infatuated with her. We broke up my freshman year of college. I totally killed me for that whole year. Lots and Lots of depression. This past August we got back together. Soon, I started not to feel in love with her. I tried to break it off 3 times but she would flip out and chug a bottle of vodka in 30 mins. or something. I was scared for her so I went back. I strated to concentrate on us and make things better but she backed off. My therapist says that my low self esteem and the fact that I think everyone looks at me differently is b/c ofher ending it on me the first time. I know I'm very good looking. I've only been with really hot girls through out my life. I'm attractive and ripped with a hell of a body. Anyways, I just cant get the balls up to approach women anymore for fear of rejection and making an ass out of my self. I see good looking women looking at me all the time but I can never approach them and when I do I freeze up and act like a total weirdo. I just needs some advice on getting back into the swing of meeting new people and approaching women I'm attracted to. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

 

[firefighter02]

I would suggest taking a left turn at Albuqurque.....

I have a real issue here...You note that you have, according to your therapist, "low self-esteem", yet in the next line talk about how you have only dated "hot chicks" and you are attrative, ripped with a hell of a body. WHAT??

Ok..first...(appology for going off)...Perhaps the problem isn't with your low self-esteem at all. It may be a case of the fact that you seem shallow and I am guessing if the girl you talked about in your post are any indication of the women you have dated, were probably hot, but needy, self-centered and fed your ego.

Tone down the self love, and get to know someone for who you are and who they are, not on the need for looks and what feeds your ego and perhaps you might have a start at a real relationship.

End of Rant.
FF

 

[kls82883]

the reason I said that about myself is b/c people tell me I have those qualities but yet, most of the time I feel I dont. When I notice a girl is interested in me i get to nervous for fear of rejection to approach her. Personally, I feel as if I'm not that great and wonder why any woman would want me sometimes. I've never had a self esteem problem until after she broke up with me. That break up really hurt me and ever since then I've just wondered if any other women would want me. I mean, why would they considering the girl that told me she was my soul mate would break my heart not only once but twice. Sorry if I confused. I totally agree with what you said. The girl was self-centered and needed ego boosts but when someone wears to you that your the man they want to spend of their life with it really hurts when they break up with you instead of trying to work trivial differences. Now, I cant even approach women anymore. I cant do it. Thats my problem. And no, I dont try to flaunt my body or looks for women. I want to fall in love with someone on a deeper more personal level.