Where do other married guys go to meet guys?

[Samdaniels798]

Over maybe a 10 year period I have ran into two guys that ended up in a similar situation as me. Both had wives that were open to two guys getting together so we had our fun... (Yes, my wife is strangely into watching me with another guy). but I have always struggled to find other guys that lean BI and just want to have occasional fun.

I know Craigslist used to be the place, I believe that is long gone. I have never been a bar guy, maybe that is the best place?

For you other BI guys, how to you meet other like minded guys ?

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

Over maybe a 10 year period I have ran into two guys that ended up in a similar situation as me. Both had wives that were open to two guys getting together so we had our fun... (Yes, my wife is strangely into watching me with another guy). but I have always struggled to find other guys that lean BI and just want to have occasional fun.

I know Craigslist used to be the place, I believe that is long gone. I have never been a bar guy, maybe that is the best place?

For you other BI guys, how to you meet other like minded guys ?

I have always had trouble finding guys who were willing to back up their Bi talk. Matter of fact, I have only ever found two guys willing to back their talk, both were bi and I found them on Craigs.
Even when I was willing to break the ice and give them a blowjob first and still I had no takers.
Apparently I don't FIT, peoples pre-conceived notions of what a cocksucker should look like...this was told to me by a young gay fella who was just looking for some company to smoke with him. I asked him if he sucked cock, he said he did but wasn't very good, I told him I didn't care if he was any good, but I was willing to give him a blowjob to get one from him but he wasn't interested right then.
Then he gave me one of those sideways looks and said, "You don't look like you would suck cock..."

The only thing I can say about your possibility of attracting attention---,

"PERCEPTION IS EVERYTHING..."

 

[nassauguy_2001]

I have always had trouble finding guys who were willing to back up their Bi talk. Matter of fact, I have only ever found two guys willing to back their talk, both were bi and I found them on Craigs.
Even when I was willing to break the ice and give them a blowjob first and still I had no takers.
Apparently I don't FIT, peoples pre-conceived notions of what a cocksucker should look like...this was told to me by a young gay fella who was just looking for some company to smoke with him. I asked him if he sucked cock, he said he did but wasn't very good, I told him I didn't care if he was any good, but I was willing to give him a blowjob to get one from him but he wasn't interested right then.
Then he gave me one of those sideways looks and said, "You don't look like you would suck cock..."

The only thing I can say about your possibility of attracting attention---,

"PERCEPTION IS EVERYTHING..."

Why don't you look like a cocksucker?
Is it because you only have one eye?

 

[PFWilly]

Over maybe a 10 year period I have ran into two guys that ended up in a similar situation as me. Both had wives that were open to two guys getting together so we had our fun... (Yes, my wife is strangely into watching me with another guy). but I have always struggled to find other guys that lean BI and just want to have occasional fun.

I know Craigslist used to be the place, I believe that is long gone. I have never been a bar guy, maybe that is the best place?

For you other BI guys, how to you meet other like minded guys ?

I’ve had some success using Silverdaddies to find local guys with similar interests. When CL was still around I had a lot less success with that source.

Good luck. Or should I say...good suck?

PS. Not all that strange that your wife likes to see two guys going at it. Just saying!

 

[meflash]

I have been on a few adult sites and post pic's and use the chat rooms. Since I started to explore my Bi side after my long time marriage ended, I sucked my first cock (since I was 17 with a friend)from and adult site at 55. Since I can host I have had more requests then I have time for. Now I get a lot of guys that friends I have refer them to me. Its so nice to get a guy that my other friends know and tell me they are good guys. Great to have steady horny friends to enjoy!

 

[shelbakk]

What about Grinder?

 

[bikurinpa]

What about Grinder?

I had tried the grindr and growlr aps, most was immature young college kids looking for only other kids and when i did find someone who seemed interested, they would chat for on e good chat session then they would just go blank and never hear from them again which is a very common game!
Has any one had any luck with a place like to YMCA gym to meet guys who have similar interests? Of coarse cant do anything there, but meet there and make plans to meet again at either his or ur place!

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

Why don't you look like a cocksucker?
Is it because you only have one eye?

you almost funny,
you MUST be one of those funny people---.

 

[nassauguy_2001]

you almost funny,
you MUST be one of those funny people---.

I was being serious.

 

[txfuncouple]

Over maybe a 10 year period I have ran into two guys that ended up in a similar situation as me. Both had wives that were open to two guys getting together so we had our fun... (Yes, my wife is strangely into watching me with another guy). but I have always struggled to find other guys that lean BI and just want to have occasional fun.

I know Craigslist used to be the place, I believe that is long gone. I have never been a bar guy, maybe that is the best place?

For you other BI guys, how to you meet other like minded guys ?

My wife has the same inclinations and likes to watch and gets turned on by M/M oral and more, so I don't think it's strange at all.

You're right about it being slim pickings to find someone in the same boat. Most guys claim they're bi or want mutual oral so they can get their cock sucked, but aren't really into it. Even more rare to find a married bud that has a wife that shares the same desires to watch it happen.

But they're out there. I've known several women that like to watch guys and have seen ads from couples where she's wanting to watch.

Best of luck in your search. We're still on the hunt for a regular friend that checks all the boxes for us, but I think having the patience to find the right one will be good since ultimately we're looking for more than a one time thing.

 

[suckonsimon]

I'm on Fabswingers. The UK branch for me of course but is it international?
I'm principally on there looking for mf couples who want a third - with some success - but meanwhile I have a continuous stream of gay and bi men who are interested in my profile. I've had some amazing sucking from three of them. They are men younger than me who take pleasure in scoring with married men.

 

[sweettalk4u]

Over maybe a 10 year period I have ran into two guys that ended up in a similar situation as me. Both had wives that were open to two guys getting together so we had our fun... (Yes, my wife is strangely into watching me with another guy). but I have always struggled to find other guys that lean BI and just want to have occasional fun.

I know Craigslist used to be the place, I believe that is long gone. I have never been a bar guy, maybe that is the best place?

For you other BI guys, how to you meet other like minded guys ?

Fetlife.com gives you access to local kink groups in your area so you can maybe meet someone but learn a lot more about your sexuality in the process

 

[Mature1197]

Try Adam4Adam. It works well for me.

 

[peter49parker]

Silverdaddies

Silverdaddies is where I have had the most success.
Squirt.org has some good prospects too but never met anyone from there.

 

[jon414]

To My Sweet Sukie!!!

Why not start here? There are some really fantastic people to meet! I know I've met some pretty special people. There's one especially attractive gurl on my mind! Get your flirt on!!!

Sukie's Man I:

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[jon414]

To My Sweet Sukie!!!

Sukie's Man II:

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[jon414]

Muh Sweetie!

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[UnderMyKilt]

For you other BI guys, how to you meet other like minded guys ?

MANY years ago, I was on Out Personals and had a little but of luck, hooking up several times, while I was a member. Back then then the site was a bit clumsy but I assume, like with other similar sites, they have made improvements to their site and it might work better now. (That said, they and parent company Adult Friend Finder have had data breaches so I'm cautious.) Since I live in a rural area, and their site seemed to be more geared to large metro areas, I found it a bit difficult to find dates without some travel.

NOW, I have a "Fan Club" paid membership on Squirt dot org and I think it's worth every penny. While I have some of the same issues I had with similar sites due to my rural locale, I have found more locals (or more reasonably close) with Squirt than with any other. This is also facilitated with their "Target Search" for personals and cruise spots which includes many more "small towns" and even narrows large metro areas down into neighborhoods. (Also by distance from a given zip code.)

Paid members are allowed three usernames/profiles. My small town is listed twice, once in Central CA and once in CA/LA Metro Area (though not really close) so I have one username/profile in each. Still, and for a variety of reasons, I've had much more success in hooking up when I'm traveling than with locals or semi-locals. Small town locals (admittedly including myself) tend to be a bit more cautious when hooking up with each other because it sometimes seems like everyone knows everyone and the risk of being outed is greater.

In regards to travel my third username, and though it contains most of the same information and images as the others, is my "travel profile" and I will change my location on it to reflect my travel destination(s). Locals, and other travelers, in those places will then see my profile when doing a target search for those areas. I then make posts on the Message Boards for those places in which I include my travel dates and noting what I'm looking for. I've used this technique to successfully hook up, in multiple cities, on several long driving trips (including in my RV).

Then....there's the old fashioned way. Find out where the gay/bi scene is in your area and go to those cruisy places, bars, clubs, spas, bathhouses where you might find some like-minded people looking for fun. I would call myself a bit of a twink/bottom/daddy and I dress the part when I'm looking, though mostly while traveling since there is no LGBTQ friendly place within 50 miles of my home. In the last year, and on three separate occasions, I've had three great nights of gay sex while traveling in Las Vegas just because I took a big gulp, swallowed my doubts, and put myself in places and situations where it might be noticed that I was obviously looking.

Above all, you've got to swallow the fear, the doubts, for some of you the embarrassment, and put yourself out there via one means or another. It takes effort, if you do nothing....you get nothing.

 

[kinkybiguy450]

Hi must say women being turned on by 2 men going at it is not strange, lots women my wie knows love to see it. I have found good results finding bi guys eat local adult bookstores and at the adult video booths. Over the years have had great times there and hooked up with its of guys. My wife loves bi 3somes and more so good luck guys

 

[sunshine9]

I also love video booths.

 

[ghandisflipflop]

In the UK we have a site called photo-personals.co.uk where one can meet others of most persuasions (LBGT) The members can also post photos of themselves and "their friends" plus contact details.

Would be surprised if no similar sites exist in the US

 

[wallio]

I have found guys on grinder and growler

 

[bikurinpa]

I have found guys on grinder and growler

The problem with those now is fake and blank profiles. I had both them apps, shit canned them both!

 

[Seafoamzone]

I really dont like the online hookup sites as you never know what you are going to get when you meet. Im not to picky, but if Im not feeling it its not gonna happen. I have 2 cruising places that I go to , one an ABS and another a gay nudist resort, so I go and hope for the best.

 

[chrism50]

Meeting Other Married Men

My best success has always been squirt dot org. Even with a free basic membership you can chat with truly local men. There's even a video chat section.