where do i go from here...

[littlev]

when i was 18 i had a big interest in the BDSM scene. i started reading and gathering lots of info, and i also began chatting in BDSM chat rooms. i'd always had sub tendencies, and at that point was quite comfortable with that part of myself.
at 19 i had one IRL relationship with a wonderful man who only sometimes acted as my Dominant partner. to keep a long story short we parted ways within about a year and a half.

i've had a couple of vanilla relationships since with men i loved, but for one reason or another had to part ways with. usually they were lacking that Dominant personality and confidence.

BUT- for over the past 3 years i have been living with one man who i absolutely love dearly... we have role played off and on, (more off than on although he really seems to enjoy it) and he is truly the only person on the face of this earth who i have shared my innermost thoughts, feelings, and fantasies with. he does have Dominant tendancies... but i want.... more..?

i am very usure of this part of myself now... i guess i would ask Y/you all what i should do next... i am not sure if he would even WANT to go further with this, although i try my best to submit myself as much as i can.... i try so hard to take care of his needs even before he asks... he doesn't seem interested in the lifestyle. should i just keep to fantasies at this point? he does know of my interest in the lifestyle... that's why we roleplay sometimes... because of me LOL...

any thoughts?

littlev

 

[Justina123]

My thought is. tell him just what you said here. Or let him read it when you are not right there, so he can consider it, and then talk.

There are many possibilities, depending on how he reacts, but the first step is to talk, in my opinion.

- justina

 

[Sex & Diamonds]

Open and honest communication is the only way. Once you share your feelings/desires, hopefully he will do the same. But remember, he might not share the same wants and desires. Be prepared.

 

[Limbhugger]

My OWN experience has been that there is a lot of misunderstanding out there about D/s. Far too much influence from cheesy porn and slap-stick comedy jokes.

Wife has always been my Domme even before she realized it. Reading this and other boards has helped her A LOT. Broke down the stereotypes and exposed her to truths about this life.

Of course we also have very intimate and honest discussions about all of this. And we have them with our clothes on.

No one can be what they are not. But I think having objective knowledge can decidedly influence a person's perception (and quite possibly acceptance) of D/s.

We are on our journey now and I hope we never reach the destination.

Hugger

 

[A Desert Rose]

where do you go from here?

Check mapquest.com.




(Hope you have a sense of humor.... I'm just being funny.)

 

[littlev]

"Check mapquest.com."

yeah, like they ever give directions that get you where you WANT to go.... LOL

last time i tried mapquest i had to stop three times to get directions and with mapquest i was about 5 miles off... LOL