Where do I find her?

[holywagon]

I'm looking for a maid in the living room, a cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom. I had one & lost her. The next one will be my princess.

 

[Eilan]

*grabs popcorn*

What do you bring to the table?

Someone who spends most of her time being your maid and cook may be too tired and/or resentful to be your whore. That probably why you lost the maid/cook/whore you had.

 

[holywagon]

Fit, career, great in the sack, smart & handsome in no particular order. I lost her bc I didn't treat her like my princess. I take full responsibility for that. It will never happen again.

 

[Kurokami]

I'm looking for a maid in the living room, a cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom. I had one & lost her. The next one will be my princess.

Pro tip? When you meet a girl, maybe don't lead in with this line. She'd be liable to take it... badly.

 

[holywagon]

I realize that. Any suggestions on where to find girls like this though or how find another one?

 

[holywagon]

Or how to make the hurt stop?

 

[Kurokami]

No, but now I wish I did have something more substantial to say. I sort of lucked out and stumbled into a relationship, myself. It was entirely unintentional, on my part, despite how well it worked out.

As for pain... Well, that's a personal issue. How you end up dealing with it is going to be a highly specific cure, so I'm loathe to offer any advice for fear of being completely off base. For what it's worth, I do hope you can deal with it and find someone to make you happy, because I hate to see people experiencing turmoil.

 

[holywagon]

Im open to any suggestions really. I can tell u booze does not solve anything.

 

[holywagon]

And it was actually her saying that led me to the quote. She always told me a man that was well fed & well f*cked would never stray. I tried cleaning it up a little & stole it from another quote to be perfectly honest.

 

[sethp]

Speaking from experience. you won't get all of that. As long as she's clean and nice and knows how to cook for herself even if it's just hamburger helper. go for the whore in the bedroom. Trust me.

 

[Treasured]

If that's the way you treated her, you deserved to lose her...Personally after reading a few posts I don't know if you'd ever know hot to treat one like a princess.
JMHO

 

[holywagon]

I do, I assure u. I just abused it. Wanted to be a ladies man instead & she stuck through it all. Now it's too late. I've learned my lesson & willing to repent & do it right next time.

 

[Fmature2play]

I am not sure we need to be or even expect to be treated like a princess. We do however need to be treated as equals. Open the car door and the door to the restaurant and offer us your jacket if we need it and all of that. Appreciated? yes Required? no Better still is to ask our opinion about important matters and treat our friends and family as special as you treat your own. I really don't want to be put onto a pedestal because the spotlight is harsh and it is hard to live up to the requirements that keep one there. I can cook. I can clean. I can also be the biggest whore to ever get on her knees but I will not even consider doing either of the three for anyone - man or woman - that does not treat me as an equal. Good luck and try to smile because it helps.

 

[bailadora]

Fit, career, great in the sack, smart & handsome in no particular order.

And? I've known men who've claimed the same and I can tell you there is no fucking way I'd ever want to be in a relationship with any of them. Too self centered and narcissistic. And honestly? Your OP comes across the same way. It's all about what you want her to do for you. Not what you can do for her.

Start thinking about what areas of your personality would make a woman trust you (or not) with her heart and emotions. Work from there.

 

[Ex Princess]

It's hard to "look" for the right person. I spent many years just dating because I couldn't find the right guy for me. Finally I met a man who does all of the nice little things for me and just thinks I am amazing all over, and I really do think he hung the moon in the sky. Glad I finally met him, but it took a long while!

 

[holywagon]

Hmm. All very good points. I def treated her as an equal. She's the only one who knew all my secrets & I trusted w every aspect of my life and she hers. I unfortunately did not make her feel special enough as I had a bad habit of wandering eyes.

As for what I did for her? Not enough apparently. I believed in everything she did and encouraged her to chase her dreams while supporting her wholeheartedly. I feel I didn't let enough of myself go to let her know much I truly cared. I don't know if that's enough, but let's hope.

 

[satindesire]

This kinda resounds for me. Let me explain why.

I was that, for my ex. I not only worked and earned my own money, but took care of 100% of our domestic duties down to taking out the trash and scrubbing the floors. He never cleaned the house or did a load of laundry ONCE until I moved out.

The house was spotless every day. I cooked for him or ordered takeout if we weren't in a restaurant, 100% of the meals were made by me or someone else.

I worked my ass off in the gym on a near-daily basis and starved myself to stay skinny for him, and spend hundreds (my own money) in the salon getting spray tanned, fake nails and my hair bleached because that's the way he wanted me to look.

I dressed in the clothes he approved of. I worked where he wanted me to work and when he wanted me to work, even only hung out with people he approved of (which wasn't any). I didn't go to college until he okayed it, even though it was MY education that was on the line, and only took the classes he said I could take.

I did the shopping, fetched the mail, and otherwise completely waited on him hand and foot when he was at home.

To top that off, I NEVER refused him sex when he wanted it, in the three years we were together, I NEVER said no to him, even when I was sick. So I was his maid, cook, and whore in the bedroom. I molded and changed myself COMPLETELY to suit his desires.

What did I get in return? A man that neglected and abused me, told me that I was fat (I am 5'9, at the time I weighed 135 pounds) openly and shamelessly cheated on me on a semi-regular basis, pushed me to do sexual things I was not comfortable with, and at the end of the relationship, nearly killed me.

I was in the hospital for a week recovering from the beating, and he visited me once.

I left after that. I swore to myself that if I was going to work THAT hard to spoil my partner that much, I'm going to make sure the person I'm with next time deserves it, and treats me JUST as well.

So...here's the point to this long and extremely sad story.

If you're looking for a woman to treat you like a God, make sure you treat her like a Goddess, because us Goddesses are really tired of being mistreated.

 

[holywagon]

Wow & I thought I was asking for a lot. I'd never lay a hand on her, encouraged her to go to college & often footed the bill for dinner amongst many other expenses. I would however treat her like a goddess if that's what she wanted. I'd do anything to have her back.

 

[oo2b8]

Maybe you battered her heart

Wow & I thought I was asking for a lot. I'd never lay a hand on her, encouraged her to go to college & often footed the bill for dinner amongst many other expenses. I would however treat her like a goddess if that's what she wanted. I'd do anything to have her back.

Problem is when you cheat on your woman you are undermining her as female and telling her that what she does for you sexually and otherwise is nothing special. When a woman makes an effort to please her man the most disrespectful response he can have to that effort is to try to duplicate it with someone else. Treating a woman like a goddess means making sure she knows that to you she is exclusively special, that you will protect her heart, her soul and her body.

 

[holywagon]

Very astute. I know I battered her heart, but we always came back from it. I'm skeptical she'll come back to be honest. We had such a great connection for almost 4 years I can't not try.

 

[NippleMuncher]

So...here's the point to this long and extremely sad story.

If you're looking for a woman to treat you like a God, make sure you treat her like a Goddess, because us Goddesses are really tired of being mistreated.

My story is very similar and my sentiment is exactly the same. This is an issue that both sexes can fall victim to, not just women. It is my goal to find a woman that treats me as well as I strive to treat her. In all modesty, it's the least that we BOTH deserve.

 

[Marguerite01]

That roving dick of yours is completely unacceptable. I don't blame her- personally you wouldn't have a snowball's chance in hell of getting back if it was me.

I agree with most of the comments here. Get yourself an attitude adjustment and think about the woman you are with and how to please her. If you can do this right consistently enough for long enough, you may be lucky enough to finally have someone in your life who actually wants to do all the things you'd like her to do because she wants to reciprocate.

 

[holywagon]

Oh, trust me. It's sinking in. Why would she want to come back? She wouldnt. It's just hard to accept after 4 years of the same pattern.

I've adjusted my attitude, I assure u. I'm done playing. I just want one girl that works for me to share the adventure of life with. I was always focused on the next adventure w the next girl, not the one I had. I've barely eaten or slept in almost a mth. I can't go thru this again

 

[shiny5437]

Oh, trust me. It's sinking in. Why would she want to come back? She wouldnt. It's just hard to accept after 4 years of the same pattern.

To top that off, I NEVER refused him sex when he wanted it, in the three years we were together, I NEVER said no to him, even when I was sick. So I was his maid, cook, and whore in the bedroom. I molded and changed myself COMPLETELY to suit his desires.

Seems like being bit of an arsehole is actually conducive to having a long term relationship. From experience, it looks like many women seem to be attracted to guys who don't treat them with respect.

This then 'rewards' guys to continue behaving disrespectfully. Both parties sharing the responsibility and the blame whilst their lives go to shit.

So yes, holywagon, you may have treated her badly, but she didn't do you (or herself) any favours by not blowing you out sooner. On the positive side, if you keep up the "cook, cleaner, whore" attitude you probably won't have to wait long for another willing victim to start the whole sorry cycle again.

 

[Nasty_Deeds]

I'm looking for a maid in the living room, a cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom. I had one & lost her. The next one will be my princess.

Do you really think if it was that easy to find the woman you describe, all of these jack-offs would be wasting their time here?

And as far as the princess you had, if she didn't stick around, she couldn't have really been that good.