When you're hurting, what do YOU do?

[lilminx]

Do you tend to push people away and keep them at a distance, or do you turn to others for consolation?

 

[Monazwx]

Depends, on if I need help or not.
If not, it's my pain, my problem.

 

[ksmybuttons]

I tend to hibernate. Not push people away, but not seek them out, either.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Do you tend to push people away and keep them at a distance, or do you turn to others for consolation?

I push people away. I don't like to share misery.

 

[modest mouse]

I save time and pesky decision making by pushing people away all the time.

 

[Kitte]

I tend to seek out consolation...I find that it helps to just vent a little and then move on to something else...to keep my mind occupied.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

In general - I push away.

I hate nothing more then hearing myself cry when I am hurting.

This I must say...is terrible advice.

 

[JazzManJim]

More often than now, I keep it to myself. I rarely let on that I'm in pain.

As was said earlier - My pain, my problem.

 

[acitore_vuli]

I keep to myself. Unless it's a boo boo, then I like to have someone else kiss it and put a Flintstone band-aid on it.

 

[weed]

Oh, hell....hurt me and I'm after ya. I want answers. I want smiles. I want to get it out in the open and get on with life.

That's when I want to make up.

Reeeaaaallll slow.

 

[calypso_21]

It depends on the person. Poor Mom bears the brunt of much of my pain. Not many others ever really see it. I let it out in bits and pieces. I should just either keep it to myself all together or let it out completely. Bad habit of mine...dealing with my own emotions is not my forte.

 

[Nicki19]

Depends on the problem, depends on the pain...

Some things I keep to myself, others I'm open about. Some people I keep everything from, others I tell almost everything.

Tonight I'm in pain. The solution: Breyers Cookies and Cream ice cream and maybe a good talk with a friend, if I have time.

 

[KillerMuffin]

I pontificate at length on paper.


Then I sell it and make money.

 

[Sillyman]

I find people and convince them to give me money.

 

[Freya]

I hibernate, ignore the phone, hide from my friends.

 

[bknight2602]

I hibernate first until my feelings calm down, then seek peers and discuss what went wrong etc.

 

[islandman]

I hibernate, ignore the phone, hide from my friends.

what she said. I have the ulcers to prove it. well, I did.

 

[Nora]

Depends. The stuff that's really bad I almost don't ever let anyone see or hear until I've got a handle on it for myself.

Petty shit...guys, clothes, hair, makeup, work...that I dump all over anyone who makes the mistake of standing still for 30 seconds.

 

[dragonhearted]

When I am hurting........

First there is shock....I don't say anything at first.......

Second....there is anger....and the need to vent...and lash out in rather inappropriate ways...lol

Third......there is depression......when I cry and cry...wondering..."What is wrong with me? Why do men __________________(fill in the blank)"

Fourth.....there is resignation...what's done is done...no control over it...go on...move on.

 

[Guest]

what she said. I have the ulcers to prove it. well, I did.

Me three. I am improving on leting others in but it's scary for me. I've always been the strong, together one. If I freak out, my loved ones freak out even more so.

 

[Debbie]

I become very quiet.

"When one is troubled
silence is not peace
but words unspoken."

 

[Rambrat]

I talk alot about it if I have an ear...

but mostly I go inside myself and build walls.

 

[Samuari]

It depends on why I'm hurting.

Sometimes it helps to talk to a third party, sometimes it is just one of those things that no one can really fix, and a good cry helps a lot.

Then there are those special people that just by being themselves, put things into perspective.

 

[Shaq]

I deal with it by my lonesome usually considering those around me are often the cause of my woe....

 

[Black_Bird]

Do you tend to push people away and keep them at a distance, or do you turn to others for consolation?

I used to push everyone away when I was in pain, but I then learned how harmful that can truely be.

I tend to discuss my problems with my friends. If I am in a great deal of pain, I also start sleeping more.