When you see your ex-lover flirting...

[*bratcat*]

 

[enjoyingitall]

I feel like I might need to warn of her of all of his not so great qualities..but I don't. She can learn those for herself.

 

[naudiz]

I don't.

Why? Ex means it's over. It's in the past, and it's time to move on. If I still have feelings for the ex, those are mine to deal with, and I prefer to deal with them on my own, since this person is no longer with me.

 

[Wiggles]

I don't have any ex-lovers here. If I did I think I'd be on friendly terms with them. The internet still doesn't seem that real to me.

If I saw one of my ex-bfs around town I'd just say hi. Or maybe ignore them. If my bf was with me I might tell him after we were out of the parking lot. If I was driving, that is.

 

[lickerish]

Nope, I'm happy that they're happy. Just let 'em go, ya know?? To 'mark your territory' puts everyone in a sour mood.

 

[bluntforcemama]

I stay out of it, but secretly hope that the woman he's flirting with knows how fabulous he really is.

 

[Lovepotion69]

I went to my ex's graduation last week. It felt weird watching him talking to his new gf (who happens to be an ex friend/acquaintance of mine). Their faces only inches apart, the intimacy showing. Then later watching them walk hand in hand. I swear I just kept looking at their hands entwined. Strange feeling, no anger, no regret, no sadness, but just ...emptiness.

I didn't try to stake out anything. She knows we used to go out before. She knows how much he meant to me and how much I loved him. No matter how much I might miss him, he's with her, and that's his choice. As long as I see him happy.

Still, I didn't go along for the celebration dinner. It would feel weird being there and watching them together. I didn't want to risk getting sad.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[Chuckus]

Doesn't bother me a bit. Over it, been there and done that........have at it kiddo's.

I mean she is an Ex for a reason...........and I have moved on. Life goes on and so does my love life and so does hers.

 

[roxie]

I have had this happen, and to be honest, it didn't bother me. There was one ex that it did, but then I remembered why we broke up and that's all it took. Of course I did walk away grinning because I was so happy that I left the relationship before it was too late.
I do care about my ex's (what few there are), I hope that they find happiness, and all that they want out of life. Holding them to me because I'm insecure is not fair to them or to myself. I've found that I'm a much better person because of it. And I allow myself to grow that way.

 

[Guest]

 

[*bratcat*]

Re: Re: When you see your ex-lover flirting...

 

[lickerish]

This is my philosophy as well. I don't try to tell them about qualities - either good or bad - unless I am asked. Then I tell the truth.

My theory is the same as Chuckus', they're an 'ex' for a reason.

I would not get involved in my ex's life, and tell their new <insert relationship type> about my ex's qualities.. simply because that's their business. During the course of the relationship, the new person will find out the true colors in due time. The ONLY time I would get involved is if I was absolutely 100% positive that the 'ex' was using her, or was going to hurt her in some way, shape, or form. I don't want to come off as a jealous, petty ex- girlfriend who can't handle rejection.

Otherwise, I'd MMOB.



/$.02

 

[Silverluna]

nope...just want to kill them....and make them suffer....

 

[AusTess]

I'm extremely possesive.
Pathetically so.




Which is why all my ex's are buried in thick bushland,miles and miles from anywhere.

 

[Marxist]

Uhh...Tess, can I speak with you a moment?


Will I ever see that smile?

 

[AusTess]

You can always talk to me,Marxist.


I'd rather you just fuck me,but if ya wanna waste time with chitchat,who am i to argue?


I think you've seen the smile already,i thought about it afterwards.I think i'd already sent it.

 

[MissTaken]

No, generally, I have no need to be territorial with an ex lover.

However, since my ex husb is potentially dangerous, yes, I had a talk with his girlfriend in vague and kind terms about my concern for his anger managment...or lack thereof.

So, if the ex is a douchebag, depending on how altruistic I am feeling, I may talk to his current object of affection.

 

[DevilBoy79]

my X can rott in hades for all i care! saw her not to long ago at the subway station, she got so pissed off it was hillarious, i just went on my way

 

[Aphrodisiac]

with someone else, whether you see them at the grocery store or online at a place like this...do you feel the need to "mark" your territory still? Do you feel that it is necessary to tell the current object of your ex's affections that you have a past history with them? Do you drop little hints about what you shared in the past?

Why?
Why not?

No, I don't find the need to tell his new g/f anything about him.
There is no need to interfere in his new relationship , I would not want to cause any conflict ... besides doing some thing like that is rather childlish.

And, I don't have any negative feelings about any of my exs... if I were to see them in the store we would say hello ... They are good guys...

 

[lisalove]

Never...it's more fun to be flirty & sexy and make them ache for you again.


Well, fun that is until they come banging on your door that night at 3:00 am, drunk & and alternating between aggressive man-handling, and pleading for you to fuck them again.
sigh..men

 

[paganangel]

Never...it's more fun to be flirty & sexy and make them ache for you again.


Well, fun that is until they come banging on your door that night at 3:00 am, drunk & and alternating between aggressive man-handling, and pleading for you to fuck them again.
sigh..men

WOMEN!!!

 

[paganangel]

at this point in my life i'd do nothing, but laugh if i thought it was being done for my benefit. if it hurt, i'd just leave.