When you get angry at someone..

[Guest]

do you immediately respond to them?
Do you let yourself cool off and then talk to them?
Do you just brush it off and ignore them?

 

[intrigued]

It depends on who it is. If its my parents, it is immediately buried, you will have to pull teeth to get it out of me. If its my SO, he is going to hear it immediately.

It really depends on lots of things.

Edited because friends anger me the least. I've seen it all and nothing of the games people play really suprises or hurts anymore.

 

[eagleyez]

I do Yoga and try to shed the anger.

It doesnt always work. But you gotta try....

 

[juicylips]

Morning, jp.

I bite my tongue...a lot.

 

[Star of Penumbra]

It depends on who it is. I once told my gym teacher, very loudly, "Fuck you" because he kept threatening to fail me because I didn't have the right kind of shoes.

My parents haven't done anything to make me angry lately, so I don't really remember how I react.

 

[Guest]

When I was younger... I wouldn't hold anything back. Once my temper flared...my mouth wouldn't close.

Now, I try to cool off and think of an alternative way to handle it. But i admit that lately I want to go off on people for the smallest things.

 

[doctor_insanus]

I'll take option number three.

If someone is trying to make me mad... they're not really worth the energy I'd expend in being mad at them.

Or something...

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

...I let them have it with both barrels...teach you to piss me off!

 

[Guest]

morning jl
I bite my tongue too much. I have this whole 'don't want to hurt people's feelings' kind of thing going on here.


yoga...never really tried it. Might have to look into that.

 

[Lost Cause]

Depends...

1. Do you immediately respond to them?

A. If there's no physical threat, I pass on any further action if I can't throw 'em through a window.

2. Do you let yourself cool off and then talk to them?

A. If they provoked me on purpose, I avoid them to prevent further friction to avoid going to jail. I usually don't talk to them again.


3. Do you just brush it off and ignore them?

A. Strangers I ignore.
If it's family or close friends, I take it as advice, to be used or forgotten.

 

[Gusty Wind]

do you immediately respond to them?
Do you let yourself cool off and then talk to them?
Do you just brush it off and ignore them?

I do all at once..

that's why I am gusty ``

what A Mess i grt in to somrtimes.... lol```

 

[Dillinger]

do you immediately respond to them?

That is certainly the temptation - "in real life" especially - but it is seldom the best course either for either of you. Not much progress is ever made in anger. Online there should be no reason to respond in anger - but we do as well...

Do you let yourself cool off and then talk to them?

This is the way I think it should be - especially if its someone you care about. Often we say things in anger that we regret later. For supposedly "rational" beings we can be quite irrational when our emotions take over.

Do you just brush it off and ignore them?

This is an option if you're angry at someone who isn't important to you. Especially an option if the person in question is someone you really have no respect for. And even more especially an option if its online where it should be very easy to ignore the assholes. But sometimes (in real life) there are people you don't much care for but who you can't avoid - maybe someone you work with - or whatever - and then option too is probabably still the best choice - cool off and be rational. Always try and take the high road, as difficult as it might be.

 

[bknight2602]

do you immediately respond to them?
Do you let yourself cool off and then talk to them?
Do you just brush it off and ignore them?

Depends on the situation really. If the juices are flowing immediate response, but if it is just am important occurrence then let it go.

 

[ozraven]

do you immediately respond to them?
Do you let yourself cool off and then talk to them?
Do you just brush it off and ignore them?

I either explode, or go very quiet........

Very quiet is much worse......