When you feel alone...

[StrawberryPez]

When you feel like noone cares. When you feel sad. When you feel like the sun won't rise tomorrow. When you feel like your life will never get better. When you feel you've made bad decisions your whole life. When you're starting to think you'll never smile again....

What do you do to make yourself stop feeling? How do you make it all go away?


yes this is my cry for help...

 

[Ms_Lilith]

*hugs*

I sleep. I paint, write poetry. Lately, I've felt very similarly, and none of those things work. Sleep at least dulls it until the next day, and you have the opportunity for nice dreams...

homework keeps me busy.

Go out and meet people. Have a deep conversation with that person who's trying for your attention.

I dunno.

When you figure it out, tell me.

 

[AardRiven]

Well I go to a bar and shoot some pool, which I'm good at, and have few drinks maybe. It makes me feel better for the moment at least.

But, I suggest a hug. A sincere one that doesnt lead to sex, from a friend. A real friend. To show somebody does care. However that I dont get as I moved to Montreal from Toronto and I dont know anybody I could really call a friend yet. Unfortunatelly, I havent found any permanent solutions. Tough it out I guess.

 

[Rhys]

You can't make yourself stop feeling although you can try. I used to drown myself in scotch or tequila but I found thats like putting a bandaid on an incision. The best thing you can do is be nice to yourself. Its okay if you don't want to get out of bed. Stay there and hide under the quilts for as long as you can. When you finally do feel like it, make a list of the good things in your life. Make a list of the things and people that you like. It may be a really short list, but its a start. Post that list where you can see it because this is the beginning. Each day try to add to it.

and if you need a listener, you can pm me

 

[glamorilla]

loud music and dance.

 

[superlittlegirl]

Dancing is definitely the best cure for the blues.

Masturbation also helps.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

When you feel like noone cares. When you feel sad. When you feel like the sun won't rise tomorrow. When you feel like your life will never get better. When you feel you've made bad decisions your whole life. When you're starting to think you'll never smile again....

What do you do to make yourself stop feeling? How do you make it all go away?


yes this is my cry for help...

I was going through the exact sme sort of feelings 12 hours ago...and really for most of my life. You don't need to stop feeling, but maybe you do need a little perspective. I don't want to get all sappy here, and the cliches suck pretty bad. All I can really offer is the idea that it is ok to feel sad and lonely, but there really is all kinds of beauty and truth in life, if you slow down and look for it. Sniff flowers, treat yourself to your favorite snack, go to the pet store and play with furry animals, do something to remind yourself that there is more to life than the bad stuff.
I find myself doing incredible childish things, which seems to help alot. It is hard to maintain sadness when you are blowing bubbles, playing with Silly Putty, or trying to learn how to juggle frogs.

 

[Minkey Boodle]

I can't honestly say that I ever feel that way. I suppose I'm in a permanent state of nutty, but for those rare moments when I feel like poo, I watch come cartoons and I'm good.

 

[Rhys]

Frog juggling...I'll have to remember that! It sounds a lot like herding cats...

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

All I meant was something that is so completely devoid of a goal or purpose, and so extremely silly, that there is no way you can take it, or yourself, seriously.

 

[teddybear4play]

When you feel like noone cares. When you feel sad. When you feel like the sun won't rise tomorrow. When you feel like your life will never get better. When you feel you've made bad decisions your whole life. When you're starting to think you'll never smile again....

What do you do to make yourself stop feeling? How do you make it all go away?


yes this is my cry for help...

I do something that I can pour my emotions into and is cathartic, be it writing poetry or beating the shit out of a punching bag. It's only temporary, but it helps.

I honestly won't give up on you.

TB4p

 

[Purrde Flower]

What do you do to make yourself stop feeling? How do you make it all go away?

I cry. I cry a lot and I really hate to cry. Where I grew up crying is a weakeness you can't afford to show. After I have my cry I make a plan. Then I kick myself in the ass everyday to keep to the plan.

You can't ever make the hurt just go away. it's impossible. But you can heal it to where you won't feel it as often. Over time you will forget.. It will still be there because that pain is an important part of life. You learn from it. You rebuild. And you move on. Memories are all you will have left.

 

[plasticman33]

With time the pain fades, it never goes away totally, but it will fade. I wish I knew a quick solution, but I don't think there is one!

 

[CoolidgEffect]

I agree with Glam and SLG.

Loud music and get your body in motion!

 

[Rambrat]

I focus on something that I love...

I take a walk in the woods...
I visit a museum...
I take a deep breath...

I tell myself that someone else will care...


dancing...dancing sounds good...as long as I don't have to wave my arms in the air...

 

[intrigued]

As others stated, its okay to feel it, I think its even important to allow yourself to feel it. Theres no hurry, and no point in hurrying.
This doesn't have to be a bad thing, its a chance to do a little thinking..there is a bigger reason you feel all of these things. Often it's because others have expressed disappointment in you, or a lack of understanding of you. Sometimes its having expectations of ourselves that for whatever reason, we have yet to meet. Sometimes its because someone has hurt us deeply, and the impact shakes us to our core.
No matter what it is, you have a really good chance right now to do some reevaluating. When you do, you'll need to be really honest with yourself and accept that you'll have to be on stronger ground to change anything, and when you decide you're ready, take baby steps.
You'll also have to realize that only you can make you happy, and only you have a clue as to what makes you happy. It's your responsibility and your RIGHT to determine this, no one elses.

Then comes the hard part...placing imaginary walls between you and the people/situations that drain you and chip away at your happiness and state of mind. You need to find a place inside in which you believe "no more, this is all they get of me" and stick to it. In the end, we are alone, and we have to take care of what is inside us. No one else can do it like we can.

Until then, go easy on yourself. Let go of as much garbage inside you as you can, that is one of the very best things you can ever do for yourself. Take time, find comfort, and believe that you will see a better day, because you will.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Dreyer's turtle ice cream.... works wonders for my outlook.

 

[DarkAngel]

When I feel alone...

I am alone.. The only time I am not is when my cat is sleeping with me..

 

[Calamity Jane]

Re: Re: When you feel alone...

I find myself doing incredible childish things, which seems to help alot. It is hard to maintain sadness when you are blowing bubbles, playing with Silly Putty, or trying to learn how to juggle frogs.

If possible, borrow a friends kid and do thsoe things with them. There's nothing like watchin a small child learn to juggle frogs.

 

[Prince Romeo]

You left out one of the most important parts of your question. The "because" part.

When you feel like noone cares because.......
When you feel sad because........


If it's:

When you feel sad because your pet fish died, then I'd say wait a few days then go get a new fish.

If it's:

When you feel sad because your mate left, then I'd say wait a month, then go get a new mate.


Everything goes in cycles. There will be good days for all of us and bad. No matter who you are, no matter how much money or fame you have. The earth has a cycle, the sun, the moon. Its the way things work. Fortunately though, human beings can make willful choices that affect their "path". Choose the things you know will bring you happiness. You own this, no one esle.