When things are over

[lilminx]

I hate it when I'm dating someone and things end. Even though I know most of the time that it's for the better, it still bothers me. Things can be bad for weeks, and even then, I feel melancholy when we finally decide to end it. I don't like it that the person is out of my life afterwards.

Does this happen to anyone else?

 

[I'mVan]

yes

hugs and kisses to you

 

[theGatsby]

Well sure, even if you're the one instigating the split, it still hurts, you still miss the good times. There was an attraction there at some point. It's also a part of your life that walks away with that person.

 

[Kitte]

Yes, it does because change is uncomfortable. We also tend to idealize what happened in the relationship rather then seeing it for what it truely was. But, you need time to mourn if not that person, then for the lost hope at this person being the right one.

That is the short answer.

 

[intrigued]

I hate it when I'm dating someone and things end. Even though I know most of the time that it's for the better, it still bothers me. Things can be bad for weeks, and even then, I feel melancholy when we finally decide to end it. I don't like it that the person is out of my life afterwards.

Does this happen to anyone else?

Yes. They not only filled a place in your heart, but they filled a space in your life, and you gave time to them that now you have to fill otherwise. What pains me the most is the feeling that "now I can't talk to them anymore". That bites.

I'm sorry.

 

[Naughty Elf]

For lilminx.

 

[His_kitty]

My memories about how that person upset or hurt me, what an idiot they might have been... pretty much any bad stuff about the relationship grows fuzzy. I tend to remember mostly all the good things about them.

Also what bothers me the most about it ending is that sometimes you've lost a friend, when it's over.

 

[takingchances42]

I usually have mixed feelings. Sadness, loss and regret are a big part of it. I liked and cared for her, or I wouldn't have been dating her. Even if we do stay friends, it will likely be bittersweet for at least a year or so, just because it can't be the same.

I also get a feeling of freedom and relief. After weeks or months of agonizing over it, trying to make the right decision, to handle it tactfully and with respect -- it's done. Maybe its a gender thing, but those mixed feelings of sadness and relief are common with the guys I know.


If this has just happened with you, you have my sympathy and best wishes...

 

[Guest]

So u broke up wit tha half-indian guy?

Hmmm...single again? wow.

 

[Lost Cause]

Doesn't anyone stay friends anymore?

I have good friendships with every female I've been with GF, or wife. Only once did I break it off, and that was to get out of the drug scene. The rest broke up over petty things like choosing someone else to be with besides me. I didn't own any of them, and I don't hate them for their choices outside of me. I'm a good person, and I don't need someone to validate that fact. My exwife still calls me and we talk for hours, laughing and talking about people we knew when we were together. You gotta learn to love them no matter what the cause for your breakup, and you gotta value yourself before you value another.
Let it pass.

 

[Guest]

have u tried online marriage/dating agencies.

check out Canada's bindi ok

 

[nasty1]

Soory your feeling down, Minxy. Yes, I don't like it when things end. But, I know, it's for the best.

 

[lilminx]

I'm not really quite sure what's going on. Things are all kinds of fucked up. I jsut don't like the way I'm feeling about it and him right now.

 

[homerjay]

You'll be fine after time passes. It's always tough at first, especially if it was a longer relationship.
Try doing things to take your mind off the hurt and not dwell on it. Or if you want, pour your heart out in some creative fashion; let all your sadness go.

 

[Jewelz]

I miss the friendship that once was there. I miss the calls and the comfort of them. They do hold a place in your heart and memories especially if they meant a great deal to you.

minxie

 

[Wiggles]

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[nasty1]

My PM is always open to you.

 

[LordLucan74]

I hate it when I'm dating someone and things end. Even though I know most of the time that it's for the better, it still bothers me. Things can be bad for weeks, and even then, I feel melancholy when we finally decide to end it. I don't like it that the person is out of my life afterwards.

Does this happen to anyone else?

Indeed, it happens quite frequently to FOOLS.........

 

[lilminx]

Re: Re: When things are over

Indeed, it happens quite frequently to FOOLS.........

Then it must happen all the time to you.

 

[LordLucan74]

Re: Re: Re: When things are over

Then it must happen all the time to you.

He asked me to write this, so I will:

John is many things, but he is no fool. Maybe you have issues, and not him??

Get your own boyfriend and stop belittling mine....

LORD LUCAN SPEAKS:

Push the fuck off!!

Merry Christmas, Babe!! (or loser)

 

[LordLucan74]

I usually have mixed feelings. Sadness, loss and regret are a big part of it. I liked and cared for her, or I wouldn't have been dating her. Even if we do stay friends, it will likely be bittersweet for at least a year or so, just because it can't be the same.

I also get a feeling of freedom and relief. After weeks or months of agonizing over it, trying to make the right decision, to handle it tactfully and with respect -- it's done. Maybe its a gender thing, but those mixed feelings of sadness and relief are common with the guys I know.


If this has just happened with you, you have my sympathy and best wishes...

What a LOAD OF CRAP!!!!!

 

[lilminx]

What hte fuck are you talking about? You are a schmuck of the lowest order.

 

[Coven911]

Well, having just been given the old "I just want to be friends..." BUT.. through an EMAIL...I can understand that way you are feeling lilminx....

No, it never feels good.

Yes, the pain does stop....sometime...I hope.

 

[Freya]

Lunky what are you doing now? Talking with alternate personalities? And why do you have to be such a dink all the time?

 

[glamorilla]

hopefully the simple fact you don't have to date lucan should perk you right back up.