when the non-sexual becomes sexual

[yandere]

anyone else experience this?

sometimes when I'm around people and they give me personal attention, i get really aroused.

for example, my boss is a decent looking guy but I'm not interested in him. however, I get an intense rush if he touches my arm or leans over me to look at the computer i'm on, or if i stand really close to him while he shows me how to do something.

sometimes this also happens if a female colleague accidentally rubs her chest on me (i work with a lot of busty ladies), or whispers in my ear or something.

the kind of feeling i get is similar to ASMR but it's definitely also sexual.

 

[pedal_dew]

Oh, yes. I know exactly what you mean. I worked in an insurance agency for the summer, and the training sessions involved another woman, maybe ten years older then me (I'm 21) being very close to me. At first, it seemed a little threatening somehow, but as I began to relax it was exciting. I think I began to enjoy the threatening part of it, which really had no basis. We touched innocently quite a lot, and it was fun. Her tendency to lean over my shoulder and show me things on the keyboard had her face and hair right next to mine. I could smell her, not just her perfume or shampoo, but her natural smell too, especially as the day wore on. Once I no longer needed training (after about two full days), I'd love to find things I hadn't come across before so I could ask her for help.

Also, I have visited my uncle's farm all through my childhood. I loved to help him in the barn and sometimes in the fields. When I go there now, as an adult, I find it doubly exciting to be close to him when he is showing me how to do something...something about those muscular arms, and I love the way he smells...kind of a mixture of feed and hay and male sweat. Don't know why, but it just rouses my sensual nature.

 

[backslash]

I've had this, but I always assumed it was just due to an overly active sex drive.

 

[yandere]

good to know it's not just me, haha!

it's happening a lot with my boss recently. i don't think he's doing it on purpose, but he is a younger guy and probably just doesn't mind standing close to women.

he actually replaced my old boss who left for another position who also did this standing close thing for some reason.

they both wear cologne that lingers in the room after they leave, it is heavenly.

 

[blue80driver]

I sometimes am forced to get around a female co-worker in a small area and always wonder what they mat have going thru their mind when they feel me move behind them.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

yes, this happens. Of course, I think for me anyway, it's still just hormonal related. There's a younger man at work.. And we work together. There are days he.... just... smells.... so.... good...
Sad really.. I've avoided going to his cubicle on occasion because I refuse to be known as the "creepy older woman who molested the younger men"

Lol

 

[yandere]

something else i like: watching men as they are doing something like cleaning, or building something, fixing things, etc.

i just love watching the muscles in their arms move, or watching them touch things with their hands (especially if they have sexy hands). i just instantly thing about their hands touching me and can't stop!

 

[Pandora73]

I've had this, but I always assumed it was just due to an overly active sex drive.

Yep, that pretty much describes me, too.

I often get turned on in non-sexual situations or with people I "shouldn't" (work being the most common example). There's one gentleman that I often encounter in meetings and such who is very... affectionate. Quite honestly, it's really pretty inappropriate in the work place (he's a big hugger, like EVERY time he sees you), but I like it. He's attractive, in my opinion, so I look forward to bumping into him and getting a hug. He's married... but I've often wondered if he's nailed any women at work, given his penchant for pretty overt flirting.

 

[BongoGal]

I've found myself getting very turned on by being in close proximity to young men who are perspiring. It never happens with women, so it's a pheremonal thing not just a sweat fetish. That smell of clean sweat just triggers me to get aroused, and I have to force myself to act as if nothing is amiss. If someone asked and I were somehow forced to answer honestly, I'd say, "Yes, being around him has made me want to fuck. I can't do it for professional reasons, of course, but my body is ready for it. I'll probably masturbate when the opportunity arises."

 

[pete]

i've played coed sports with a few girls who felt the same way, it was the 'fresh sweat' that did it for them, not the lingering b.o. sweat

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I've found myself getting very turned on by being in close proximity to young men who are perspiring. It never happens with women, so it's a pheremonal thing not just a sweat fetish. That smell of clean sweat just triggers me to get aroused, and I have to force myself to act as if nothing is amiss. If someone asked and I were somehow forced to answer honestly, I'd say, "Yes, being around him has made me want to fuck. I can't do it for professional reasons, of course, but my body is ready for it. I'll probably masturbate when the opportunity arises."

*giggles*

Well said!

 

[gabriel16]

Great idea for a thread

And love petal dew's comments a lot

 

[yandere]

I've found myself getting very turned on by being in close proximity to young men who are perspiring. It never happens with women, so it's a pheremonal thing not just a sweat fetish. That smell of clean sweat just triggers me to get aroused, and I have to force myself to act as if nothing is amiss. If someone asked and I were somehow forced to answer honestly, I'd say, "Yes, being around him has made me want to fuck. I can't do it for professional reasons, of course, but my body is ready for it. I'll probably masturbate when the opportunity arises."

oh yes, i love when a man works hard and sweats from it. i've worked a handful of physical jobs in my life (nothing crazy) and have had to work alongside men at the same time. i would never know what to do with myself when i'd start to see sweat run down a temple or neck.

something else that always gets me is if a man gets frustrated or annoyed and you see the muscles/joints move in his jaw. drives me crazy! i will get wet right there.

 

[greystardust]

it's a sign of a subtler kind of sensuality, like picking up the very real but invisible energy that lives unspoken between two people - very powerful, especially when you both know it, but don't utter a word. the confirmation can come in just one glance, when the eyes meet

 

[yandere]

it's a sign of a subtler kind of sensuality, like picking up the very real but invisible energy that lives unspoken between two people - very powerful, especially when you both know it, but don't utter a word. the confirmation can come in just one glance, when the eyes meet

so perfect. sexual tension can be as exciting or more so than a sexual encounter.

 

[pedal_dew]

something else i like: watching men as they are doing something like cleaning, or building something, fixing things, etc.

i just love watching the muscles in their arms move, or watching them touch things with their hands (especially if they have sexy hands). i just instantly thing about their hands touching me and can't stop!

I know this very well. I love to watch men's hands. The rough, callused ones. It started when I was a kid, watching my dad on his projects. Also, my dad has a leather apron and shoulder covers in his workshop, which I love to sniff. I'm on break from college right now, and I've been out in the garage a few times, secretly sniffing. It's a combination of leather, male sweat, and burnt steel from welding.

 

[Ilovemymilf]

Our creator, who ever you believe it was, knew what they were doing when they made us, sexual arousal and tension between a male and female has been happening forever and is one of the greatest feelings ever. Unfortunately, it is those very feelings of arousal and tension that leads to more than being tempted and causes so many relationship problems, but damn it is a great feeling. Being married 20 years I miss it.

 

[Mindfondler]

I find this a fascinating topic, with many subtleties and nuances.

I do enjoy it when a woman with whom I'm being friendly gives me a gentle touch (usually on my upper arm or shoulder) as part of the flow of our interaction. I don't generally interpret it as a sexual move, but I find it very pleasing as it indicates that: (a) she likes me; (b) she feels comfortable about expressing it to me that way; (c) she trusts me not to take it outside its intended context. Having said that, there's often a playful edge to the touch that hints at respectful flirting, which I'm happy to embrace.

There's an asymmetry to this behaviour, though. I wouldn't do the same in reverse unless I know the lady well or I'm explicitly invited to do so (e.g. for a hug -- apparently I give good hugs!).

Hmm... I haven't been able to define clearly whether this behaviour is non-sexual or sexual, have I? Perhaps that's all part of the mind game!
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[yandere]

I find this a fascinating topic, with many subtleties and nuances.

I do enjoy it when a woman with whom I'm being friendly gives me a gentle touch (usually on my upper arm or shoulder) as part of the flow of our interaction. I don't generally interpret it as a sexual move, but I find it very pleasing as it indicates that: (a) she likes me; (b) she feels comfortable about expressing it to me that way; (c) she trusts me not to take it outside its intended context. Having said that, there's often a playful edge to the touch that hints at respectful flirting, which I'm happy to embrace.

There's an asymmetry to this behaviour, though. I wouldn't do the same in reverse unless I know the lady well or I'm explicitly invited to do so (e.g. for a hug -- apparently I give good hugs!).

Hmm... I haven't been able to define clearly whether this behaviour is non-sexual or sexual, have I? Perhaps that's all part of the mind game!
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maybe not overtly sexual, but stuff like you described i find really emotionally arousing which can lead to physical!

that tingly rush of happiness if someone you like compliments you, or touches you or whatever. so nice!

 

[Mindfondler]

maybe not overtly sexual, but stuff like you described i find really emotionally arousing which can lead to physical!

Steady on, there!

that tingly rush of happiness if someone you like compliments you, or touches you or whatever. so nice!

Yes -- it feels great! I'm lucky enough to have quite a few female friends and acquaintances who do this, as well as a wife who doesn't feel at all threatened by it (indeed, she giggles to herself when she witnesses it). Contrary to expectations, my wife and I have become more playful with other people since getting married -- and consciously so, as we've talked about this and realise that we both enjoy seeing each other having the freedom to do so.
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