When is the Right Time to Meet your Online Lover in R/L?

[juicylips]

How do you know that you should meet?

Aren't some online relationships just meant to stay that way??

How long should you have been together before a decision is made?

Where do you meet? How do you decide?

How do you deal with someone who wants to meet, and you really don't want to?

Yea, I know...lots of questions....lol This has been discussed on this board before in many different ways. But it seems that someone is always debating this somewhere on the inside of them. So, tell me what worked for you and what was a disaster. I am always curious.

Cassidy

 

[BlkPnthr]

I think you answered your own questions juicy There is no set standard....it's just a matter of both persons involved to feel that the time has cum

 

[plasticman33]

Interesting question, Juicy!

I had an on-line relationship going for a long time, before meeting in RL. In retrospect it probably wasn't the best decision, we ever made. We were fine together, but there were just to many other complications, which precluded us from having a successful relationship.

 

[LordMagicMan]

It depends on what you both want from the relationship... If its sex you are after... then going for it isnt that big of a deal... If its true love you seek, you should take it slower, really get to know a person in and out through and through, before meeting..

Just my suggestions

 

[JennyOmanHill]

I have only been involved with one "online" relationship, and although I had tried to find what other's have done with their LDRs, we more or less "winged" it according to our feelings.

How do you know that you should meet?

After chatting through LIT, then realizing we wanted to move on to hearing each other, we realized that eventually we would need to meet face-to-face. Our relationship just graduated one level at a time, almost automatically! (Chat, cybering, instant messaging, phone calls, AIM "miking.)

Aren't some online relationships just meant to stay that way??

I suppose so. I would expect this would have been decided very early on in the relationship so that expectations would be kept within preset "boundaries".

How long should you have been together before a decision is made?

This would likely be different in each situation. For me it took a few weeks before I realized I wanted him IN my life!! (I think he realized this before me!)

Where do you meet? How do you decide?

After we decided we needed to meet, HE was the one with the means and vacation time, and he worked on his schedule to allow a week visiting me in NYC. Initially he was to book himself into a hotel (all our concerns over "real life meeting" and "safety" kicking in for a bit!).

As the time grew closer I suggested he stay WITH me in my apartment (I certainly have a network of close friends, and by this time I knew I wanted to be with him every second he would be in town!).

Our "meeting" occurred in my hallway, outside my apartment, as soon as the elevator door opened! (It was the longest minute in my life!) After an incredible hug, I escorted him into my apartment, introduced him to my best girlfriend, then we continued loving, laughing and being with each other the rest of the week. (BTW: My friend took her leave shortly after; we met up with a handful of my friends a few hours later!)

How do you deal with someone who wants to meet, and you really don't want to?

I never experienced this, and do not intend to have to in the future!

 

[juicylips]

It depends on what you both want from the relationship... If its sex you are after... then going for it isnt that big of a deal... If its true love you seek, you should take it slower, really get to know a person in and out through and through, before meeting..

Just my suggestions

Aren't you the clever one, L??? I agree with you, but then again, you know me and my views well.

Do you think two people should meet just for sex only?

Or just meet if they are in love and want it to be a r/l relationship?


Cassidy

 

[BlkPnthr]

Aren't you the clever one, L??? I agree with you, but then again, you know me and my views well.

Do you think two people should meet just for sex only?

Or just meet if they are in love and want it to be a r/l relationship?


Cassidy

Just cause it was done in the 60's doesn't mean it can't hapen now.....why juicy? Thinking of coming to Canada to fuck me? Muahahahaha

 

[The Nitelight]

I'm free tonight.....

 

[juicylips]

BUSTED!!

Ok, guys....you caught me.

Was I that painfully obvious that I was coming to visit??

Geesh.....what gave it away?? huh??

Cassidy

 

[BlkPnthr]

Re: BUSTED!!

Ok, guys....you caught me.

Was I that painfully obvious that I was coming to visit??

Geesh.....what gave it away?? huh??

Cassidy

I'll be sure the fiance is out of town for the weekend and the coffee is fresh. LOL

 

[juicylips]

Re: Re: BUSTED!!

I'll be sure the fiance is out of town for the weekend and the coffee is fresh. LOL

I am glad you will have fresh coffee.....cuz you're gonna need it


Cassidy

 

[BlkPnthr]

Re: Re: Re: BUSTED!!

I am glad you will have fresh coffee.....cuz you're gonna need it


Cassidy

Are you sure it'll be me who will need it?

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

How do you know that you should meet?
My loins are bursting for her

Aren't some online relationships just meant to stay that way??
yes

How long should you have been together before a decision is made?
Long enough to know they car

Where do you meet? How do you decide?
Somewhere my girlfreind won't find out lol

How do you deal with someone who wants to meet, and you really don't want to?
tell them no

 

[lovetoread]

How do you know that you should meet?

Its a mutual want kind of thing. I wanted and needed to see my online love and he felt the same way.

Aren't some online relationships just meant to stay that way??

Yes

How long should you have been together before a decision is made?

Its an iffy thing. I knew that I loved him,but wasnt sure about meeting him,ya know? I mean,getting out of one relationship, and getting into another wasnt in my mind when I met him online. I had to think long and hard before we actually met in person.

Where do you meet? How do you decide?

I met him at the door of a hotel room. I fell into his arms and it was like coming home. He decided,as he was the one who had to fly down here.

How do you deal with someone who wants to meet, and you really don't want to?

You just say no. If they are your "friend" they will understand.

 

[juicylips]

How do you know that you should meet?

Its a mutual want kind of thing. I wanted and needed to see my online love and he felt the same way.

Aren't some online relationships just meant to stay that way??

Yes

How long should you have been together before a decision is made?

Its an iffy thing. I knew that I loved him,but wasnt sure about meeting him,ya know? I mean,getting out of one relationship, and getting into another wasnt in my mind when I met him online. I had to think long and hard before we actually met in person.

Where do you meet? How do you decide?

I met him at the door of a hotel room. I fell into his arms and it was like coming home. He decided,as he was the one who had to fly down here.

How do you deal with someone who wants to meet, and you really don't want to?

You just say no. If they are your "friend" they will understand.

I don't have to tell you, how much you inspire us here at lit. I enjoyed watching yours and Tiger's romance blossom and become what it has today.

You two crazy kids....sigh...I always wish you both just the best and worlds of happiness

JL