When is Over, Over?

[Bent]

I know, its been asked and answered, but I want to know if it's over when 'you' are over, or when 'you both feel' you are over?

AND!

If you could be alone, would you, and could you make it work for you?

 

[Guest]

When Yogi Berra says so.

 

[lobito]

it's over when it's over, and not until it's over...

 

[Bent]

So then realistically, 'over' can go on forever?!

 

[lobito]

yup

 

[Agent99]

I thought it was when the fat lady sings.

 

[enjoyingitall]

I think it's over if and when YOU bring closure to it. Until then, nothing can be over.

 

[Bent]

What if the guilt keeps you where you are?

 

[Lost Cause]

Usually...

It's over when you can no longer see their taillights in the distance. Living single after being married, is awkward, but soon becomes such a liberating condition, that you are very picky who you let in after that.

 

[Bent]

I have never been single since puberty...maybe therein lays the problem.

 

[Guest]

What if the guilt keeps you where you are?

You'll have to work past that.

Yogi says so.

 

[LukkyKnight]

What if the guilt keeps you where you are?

Then it's very not over.

 

[Bent]

What if he is the perfect guy, but not the perfect guy for you and if you let him go, it could possibly be the biggest mistake because MAYBE you never gave the bloke a chance to begin with?

What does Yogi say to that?

 

[red_rose]

You can't live your life by "maybe."

 

[erosman]

It's over when you turn your back on growth and improvement.










for some, yes, it's over before they start.

 

[Bent]

(Maybe) I just need a kick in the ass. Max's ass will do nicely

 

[Guest]

What if he is the perfect guy, but not the perfect guy for you and if you let him go, it could possibly be the biggest mistake because MAYBE you never gave the bloke a chance to begin with?

What does Yogi say to that?

Yogi would say that booze is the answer to that one. Don't listen to him.


How could you not give him a chance after this long? If you did, what would you do differently? What would need to be different? Is it possible?

 

[LukkyKnight]

(Maybe) I just need a kick in the ass. Max's ass will do nicely

If you need a kick in the ass the effect will be largely wasted by using some surrogate ass. On the other hand, we have a metric boatload of asses here, so it that's how you want it I think we can accomodate you.

 

[Calamity Jane]

I know, its been asked and answered, but I want to know if it's over when 'you' are over, or when 'you both feel' you are over?

AND!

If you could be alone, would you, and could you make it work for you?

'Over' and 'Done' are two completely different things. We can be done long before we end the relationship.

Alone? I have two kids, so alone isn't really an option. Without SO? I could definitely do that... sometimes I look forward to it so much I can taste it. But then, I'm generally more comfortable in my own company than that of anyone else.

 

[bknight2602]

I thought it was when the fat lady sings.

Exactly what I was going to say.

 

[Lasher]

MIKE: And what if I don't want to give up on her?
ROB: You don't call.
MIKE: But you said I shouldn't call if I wanted to give up on her.
ROB: Right.
MIKE: So I don't call either way.
ROB: Right.
MIKE: So what's the difference?
ROB: The only difference between giving up and not giving up is if you take her back when she wants to come back. See, you can't do anything to make her want to come back. You can only do things to make her not want to come back.
MIKE: So the only difference is if I forget about her or pretend to forget about her.
ROB: Right.
MIKE: Well that sucks.
ROB: It sucks.
MIKE: So it's almost a retroactive decision. So I could, like, let's say, forget about her and when she comes back make like I just pretended to forget about her.
ROB: Right...or more likely the opposite.
MIKE: Right... Wait, what do you mean?
ROB: I mean first you'll pretend not to care, not call - whatever, and then, eventually, you really won't care.
MIKE: Unless she comes back first.
ROB: Ah, see, that's the thing. Somehow they don't come back until you really don't care anymore.
MIKE: There's the rub.
ROB: There's the rub.

 

[LukkyKnight]

Aye

Somehow they don't come back until you really don't care anymore.

Ain't that the truth.

 

[Lasher]

Re: Aye

Ain't that the truth.

Yep, there's the rub.

 

[Gilly Bean]

It's over when either one of you calls for a restraining order.

 

[k¡tty]

When your able to look back on memories and smile without the tears of pain, want, regret and wishing.