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So, my marital partner isn't that interested in sex. We perform the act about twice a month; however, even when we do it's very tame and heaven forbid I make some special request, e.g. wear a special sexy outfit, or put on some heels. I've made countless attempts to engage, to talk about it, to try new things, and I'm at a point where I'm feeling very, very frustrated.

My question to all of you out there on the Lit Boards is: when is it permissible to simply throw in the towel, give up on having a sex life (cheating isn't an option), and rely on solely on erotic stories, and sexy images and videos from the Internet as my primary/main source of sexual release?

 

[southernsara]

I think it's important to find out why your partner isn't interested (doesn't feel good about herself, tired from job stress or responsibilities, kids, hormone issue, etc.)
I would try talking about it, counseling, romance, lots of foreplay, asking about fantasies, (or lots of liquor ) before throwing in the towel, especially if this is someone you love.

So, my marital partner isn't that interested in sex. We perform the act about twice a month; however, even when we do it's very tame and heaven forbid I make some special request, e.g. wear a special sexy outfit, or put on some heels. I've made countless attempts to engage, to talk about it, to try new things, and I'm at a point where I'm feeling very, very frustrated.

My question to all of you out there on the Lit Boards is: when is it permissible to simply throw in the towel, give up on having a sex life (cheating isn't an option), and rely on solely on erotic stories, and sexy images and videos from the Internet as my primary/main source of sexual release?

 

[knuckingfutz]

There is a happily married but sexually unfufilled. You may want to check that out. I hope you find some answers or solutions somewhere. It's a hard situtaion.

 

[frostyred]

So, my marital partner isn't that interested in sex. We perform the act about twice a month; however, even when we do it's very tame and heaven forbid I make some special request, e.g. wear a special sexy outfit, or put on some heels. I've made countless attempts to engage, to talk about it, to try new things, and I'm at a point where I'm feeling very, very frustrated.

My question to all of you out there on the Lit Boards is: when is it permissible to simply throw in the towel, give up on having a sex life (cheating isn't an option), and rely on solely on erotic stories, and sexy images and videos from the Internet as my primary/main source of sexual release?

Only you know the answer to that. I think it's different for everyone. I also think twice a month would have been too much for my soon to be ex husband. He would agree reluctantly to have sex about every 6 to 8 weeks, and hated my lingerie & (rather mild) kinks.

 

[newbiebabe]

I agree.. only you can answer this question for yourself. It must be something you can live with comfortably and not feel that you have to defend to anyone.

 

[Shadow Thief]

Life is simply too short to give up on sex. I know you said cheating isn't an option, but to me, neither is going without.

 

[koalabear]

My question to all of you out there on the Lit Boards is: when is it permissible to simply throw in the towel, give up on having a sex life (cheating isn't an option), and rely on solely on erotic stories, and sexy images and videos from the Internet as my primary/main source of sexual release?

apparently april 10 was when you made the personals post.

http://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=33826230&postcount=1