When I grow up
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Sex & Diamonds said:
Gee. Thanks.
well your quite welcome I'm sure.
if you were looking for me to tell you that everything is going to be alright for ever and ever your in the wrong fucking place.
that is what this world is about babe...pain and suffering
YogiBare
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Sounds like you enjoy him a lot. That's how it is for me with my daughter, too. She's an incredible kid. I've tried to stay real involved on the day to day stuff, like soccer, school events, doctor appointments. My ex and I get along well, and she is supportive of my co-parenting, and I think that that has benifited all of us.
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IA951 said:
I only answered the question posted. I was not looking for a knight on a white horse to come and wisk me away to some fairy tale castle. But thanks for not being him.
YogiBare said:
Hasn't been as easy for me, though lately all has been smooth.
Early on I had to fight for normal visitations. I had to go to court to get overnight visitations, ex refused. Court appointed an evaluator (more time) and I won out in the end. I went Pro Se as I didn't want to go bankrupt with lawyer fees, and write/read reasonably well. No point in breaking the bank to get visitations and then be penny-less, I thought.
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It's so tough when you have to do the court thing. And to have to battle to be with your own kid. I'm glad that the court saw it your way. I'm sure that you're a really good dad.
I was at a lecture for parents at my daughter's school a couple of weeks ago. First, the lecture was sponsored by the PTA and held during the work day, and so I was one of only four or five fathers in the audience. The expert speaker (female) started talking about having her husband "babysit" for their child. I raised my hand and said, "Excuse me, but fathers aren't babysitting their children when they spend time with them and attend to their needs. We're parenting." I could tell that a lot of women in the room never thought of it that way. It winds up really hurting the men and the children when divorces happen.
I was at a lecture for parents at my daughter's school a couple of weeks ago. First, the lecture was sponsored by the PTA and held during the work day, and so I was one of only four or five fathers in the audience. The expert speaker (female) started talking about having her husband "babysit" for their child. I raised my hand and said, "Excuse me, but fathers aren't babysitting their children when they spend time with them and attend to their needs. We're parenting." I could tell that a lot of women in the room never thought of it that way. It winds up really hurting the men and the children when divorces happen.
