When health conditions affect your sex life

[daughter]

Not talking long-term illness or injury, but the annoying health challenges that are serious enough to affect your sex life and body like taking sinus medication that dries you out in more than one way.

What health challenges have you encountered that have forced you to re-examine the balance between your health and sex?

For me, it's been chronic sinusitis. Not only do sinus headaches/infections kill the sex drive, but dependence on sinus medication causes other annoying problems like less vaginal lubrication.

I'm now doing things decrease the need for medication for a couple of reasons. The same medicine that clears my sinus constricts my ateries. African Americans have a higher risk of heart disease. I don't just have to make sure I have lube, I have to be concerned about my heart. Hate to have a heart attack while having sex.

Peace,

daughter

 

[Andreina]

Hate to have a heart attack while having sex.

...but what a stylish way to go it would be

Halo

 

[sch00lteacher]

Try getting a hip replaced. Puts a big damper on having any kind of sex. For a long time. Seems like the hips are involved in just about all of it.

Chronic conditions can cause depression, which can cause a loss of desire. Not that this is ture in this case, I understand the heart concern, believe me I do.

My heart attack never stopped me. In fact, it was like I'd better make sure she knows how much I love her before I die. It took awhile afterward to feel up to it. But then .

And speaking of depression. On of the classic signals is a lack of sexual desire.

Some drugs have an effect, both ways.

I hope it all works out dear friend. Only the best for you. Only the best for you.

Teach

 

[daughter]

I'm not stressing

Teach. I just thought it was a topic worth discussing. Another example is recurring yeast infections.

There are bacteria that can pass betwee partners that crimp their sex lives till they educate and change their behaviors. Some women are more susceptible than others. Simple changes in the diet could reduce infection rates and that affects a woman's sex life.

I didn't mean to imply that having a heart attack would impede desire. But obviously, there is a recuperating period and that does affect sexual activity.

I haven't ever suffered any serious depression and certainly none that killed my interest in sex.

Peace,

daughter

 

[weathered2]

Blood pressure medication has been a challenge. Been on it so long I don't know that it might not be just an age thing, with meds just a coincidence. Did seem to get more challenging though when they added a beta blocker for a heart rhythm thing. Things still work, but not like they used to, (again, age thing?).

 

[sch00lteacher]

Sorry Daughter, my fault, wasn't my intention to imply that you needed to consider all I posted. Just throwing in my 2 cents on the subject for everyone.

Still wishing you only the best.

 

[christophe]

Defintely, medical conditions affect sexual drive.
BP meds can cause fatigue and in some cases impotence.
Antibiotics, especially in women can cause secondary yeast infectionnns
Antidepressants can reduce desire and sometimes cause ejaculatory delay


the list goes on and on unfortunatley.

 

[Debbie]

Not talking long-term illness or injury, but the annoying health challenges that are serious enough to affect your sex life and body like taking sinus medication that dries you out in more than one way.

What health challenges have you encountered that have forced you to re-examine the balance between your health and sex?

For me, it's been chronic sinusitis. Not only do sinus headaches/infections kill the sex drive, but dependence on sinus medication causes other annoying problems like less vaginal lubrication.

I'm now doing things decrease the need for medication for a couple of reasons. The same medicine that clears my sinus constricts my ateries. African Americans have a higher risk of heart disease. I don't just have to make sure I have lube, I have to be concerned about my heart. Hate to have a heart attack while having sex.

Peace,

daughter

IMHO? I have sufferered sinus infections so severe that I have gone deaf. Developed abcesses in my mouth and having had to have all my wisdom teeth removed. (Turns out the teeth were so long that they were intruding into my sinus cavities.)
This is a side issue to the killing of one's sex drive.

I was constantly taking antibiotics that were eventually almost useless due to the immunity my body developed to them. After advice from my doctor I tried more natural remedies and was pleasantly surprised at the results.

No, I don't advocate NEVER taking antibiotics. I am just saying, in my case? The infections developed an immunity. I was constantly in pain. Now I almost never suffer.

Back to the sex drive issue?

What health challenges have you encountered that have forced you to re-examine the balance between your health and sex?

When my hubby, I was 30 he was 42 had heart problems that led up to an emergency heart by pass. Sex was non existent. He could not brush his teeth or walk to the bathroom without becoming breathless. Sex would definitely have been a near death experience. Just not all that pleasurable if he had ended up in intensive care or six feet under.

In the long run? For me? Sex was a smidgen of what our relationship was about. His medical condition outweighed the need for him to be well versus my sexual needs.

IMHO? Sex is important, pleasurable and exciting. Health is more important. I want to share my life with my partner. Sex is a very important part of my life but one you can work around. Giving pleasure is fun as well as receiving is rewarding.

When he was too sick? I whispered and talked to him. Giving and understanding. It's a two way street.

Get well soon, daughter.


PS weathered2 I hear you. Hubby is on blood pressure medication (two types) and was on beta blockers.

 

[lavender]

 

[kiwiwolf]

When my cancer was first diagnosed the docs put me on some really nasty meds. As a side effect I lost the ability to maintain a hard on. I could get it up but couldn't keep it up. This as you might well imagine is a little bit of a damper on your sex life.

I now give thanks to and praise the god Viagra. He helped me through the months that I was on the meds. I don't need his help now but still ocaissionally turn to him for recreation...

 

[LadyDarkFire]

Depression, migraines, insomnia, Chronic nightmares (yes it does effect your sex life, try explaining to a partner that you wake up several times a night screaming, but it's not the person's fault), excersize induced asthma, and stress related medical conditions.

The thing that kills most of the drive is the meds, and their side effects, but some things that you wouldn't expect to be a problem can be. Migraines, when bad enough, can knock out a whole day for me and knock me out, so I have to be carefull, and certain triggers can effect my sex life. Insomnia wears you out, and when coupled with chronic nightmares, it makes it worse, since sleep is not welcome when it does come.

 

[Cheyenne]

Prostate problems can cause impotence. I almost died when my mom told me my dad had to get "a pump" because he couldn't get/stay hard any more. That comes under the more info than necessary column in my book.

 

[Andreina]

I would faint if my mom EVER talks about things like that to me


Halo

 

[Cheyenne]

I would faint if my mom EVER talks about things like that to me


Halo

Oh, it got worse. Then she told me about their "schedule." Since he has to prepare for the act, and they are retired, they schedule sex something like 3 mornings a week. I mentally blocked that info from my head because I didn't want to remember which days!

Now it is kind of a family joke about the pump. My parents joke that my dad will offer to show up with his pump to "help" various widows from church if they want him, but mom won't let the pump out of the house.

Hmmmm...with my genes, I think I'm starting to see how I ended up at a porn site.

 

[Georgia Girl]

Seizure medication

I take Phenobarbital daily for a seizure disorder and the mood swings it brings on are a total witch to deal with.

The mood swings affect sex, its hard to convince someone you really do want them and are craving them 10 seconds after ripping their head off and arranging for a new asshole for them.

Dawn

 

[sabbathstorm]

I have had some health problems over the past year to eighteen months that have had an affect on my sex life. A little over a year ago, I had an irregular yearly test that scared the hell out of me. There are a lot of instances of cancer in my family and this possibility really upset my life. I had a lot of tests and procedures that left me feeling very unsexy and depressed. Thankfully, my partner was very understanding and put up with my mood swings and lack of interest in sex. I had so much on my mind that I couldn't relax most times to enjoy the act, no matter how patient he was.

I recently had some follow up tests and things look good. I still have another six months until I'm considered in the clear. I'm keeping my fingers crossed and trying to think positively.

 

[Samuari]

Hmmmm...with my genes, I think I'm starting to see how I ended up at a porn site.

I know what you mean. A couple of years ago my Dad was in the hospital on his 90th birthday with what turned out to be terminal lukemia. I went in to visit him late in the evening, and found the nursing staff cuckleing. It turned out that Mom and Dad were "celebrating" the day by making love, Mom got tangled up in the bed rails, and had to use the call button for help! When I walked into the room they tried to act normally, but then couldn't help themselves, and the whole story came out. It turned out to be one of the last times that I saw my Dad truly happy. He lost his last fight two weeks later.

So Chey, I guess I'm geneticly predisposed to be here as well.

 

[Tim1]

Yup

I haven't experienced anything like some who have written before me but, I'm still messing with this walking pneumonia, and I concur with others desire being down. I usually am ready 3-4 times a week. But with all the meds i'm taking right now, i don't even think about it, and if I try, its damn hard to get hard.

Meds can really fuck you up that way. I liked it better when i was was horny.

 

[Ladybird]

Hmmm... meds again. Antidepressants for bipolar disorder.

Antid's are notorious for their side effects. I've found a few that take away the ability to orgasm.

Tis very frustrating to have a healthy libido, and not be able to orgasm. It was almost like climbing a mountain, but not being able to reach the summit. I would come so close... but couldn't get there.

Still, for me, a change of meds was all that was needed. And if you could see me now... you'd see the smile on my face..

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Another slant on the issue

I suffer from migraines about once or twice a month. Years ago when trying to start a family it took us 4 years to conceive. Later we realised that I got my migraines when I was ovulating.....

Who wants to have sex when you have a migraine

 

[KillerMuffin]

I just got off of depakote the de-libido-izer of choice for epileptics and people with mood swings of any sort in this area. The also have the unfortunate affect of making some people fart. I've got dilantin now, I'm looking forward to the facial hair-- not!

I had a grand mal seizure once during sex. In addition to nearly ripping his dick out by the root, I scared the everlasting shit out of him. Even though, later, he knew that it wasn't his fault he was still terrified to touch me in case he did it again.

Of course, those are just my physical problems. We could fill a book with his physical ailments. Suffice it to say that couple with his degenerative disk disease, herniated disks, and other assorted spinal problems, all of the joints below his waist have been seriously fucked up. Like the Teach, he's looking at replacement for all of them except the toes.

Sex is a study in creative planning and darvocet. The upside is -- don't tell him I said this -- that he has a tongue to die for. *sighs blissfully*

 

[Georgia Girl]

KM, I have to admit that as someone in the same boat I laughed at this. I haven't had a grand mal during sex but I have had the absense ones then, when you look at the person you are with like "Who the hell are you?" cause you don't know. Later you laugh at it.

Once I leaned down to kiss my ex who was sleeping at the time and went into a full grand mal on the way down, busted my chin open on the night stand, cut my finger on some tweezers laying on the nightstand and hit my head. I don't remember that whole day but for 16 hours straight every 20 minutes I would wake up and ask my ex "Did I have a seizure, did you call work, how did I hurt myself?" then go to sleep, wake up 20 minutes later and do it all again. He was ready to go insane but he didn't, he just stayed with me and kept on answering those three questions until I got it straight in my head.

Its not really funny but when your choices are laugh or cry, I'll laugh.

Dawn

 

[KillerMuffin]

Seizures and sex can be so funny. We laugh about that now, we didn't at the time. Of course I wasn't there and he was curled into a fetal ball convinced he'd never have use of his penis again.

I get the abscense a lot during sex. I always forget who he is, too. He's gotten used to it, but it was enough to ruin the moment for the first year or so.