When do you feel an online couple should meet in real life?

[*bratcat*]

 

[Angel]

When they feel comfortable doing so and it is physically possible.

 

[BlondeBeauty]

I could tell you, but then I'd...
I'm not even gonna finish that.

I think that they would know. For each couple, the answer would be different.

 

[Guest]

I think that they would know. For each couple, the answer would be different.

Bingo! For my Boyfriend and I, we had wanted to meet long before we did (Jan '01) but we both had trouble getting time off work. Save for a couple months of confusion and mistakes, we've been together 13 months now.

 

[Calamity Jane]

Obviously, it would depend on the people involved. I've met a guy and two women from the net.

All three people I had talked to for about a year before meeting. Two of the meetings went well... one was a camping trip, and one was a friend from Australia who stayed with my family for a week. The meeting with the guy was a huge disappointment. He was at least 10 years older than he had told me, and though he was nice, he wasn't at all what I was expecting.

I think once you KNOW that person. Have talked on the phone, etc. and are comfortable with the idea of meeting, you should go for it. Just be prepared for it not to be all that it was online.

 

[Mackdoggy_77]

I'm still hoping to have the chance of meeting Puddles in person. Where has that Wonder Poodle been lately?

 

[RisiaSkye]

Once they're comfortable with the idea, feel they know each other well, and are free from the entanglements of other, pre-existing relationships. Meeting *secretly* always leads to pain somewhere along the line, at least in every case I've witnessed.

 

[Simply Me]

Obviously, it would depend on the people involved. I've met a guy and two women from the net.

All three people I had talked to for about a year before meeting. Two of the meetings went well... one was a camping trip, and one was a friend from Australia who stayed with my family for a week. The meeting with the guy was a huge disappointment. He was at least 10 years older than he had told me, and though he was nice, he wasn't at all what I was expecting.

I think once you KNOW that person. Have talked on the phone, etc. and are comfortable with the idea of meeting, you should go for it. Just be prepared for it not to be all that it was online.

And then there is always the exception, and it is more than it was online.

 

[Guest]

 

[Simply Me]

Mine and Dragon's meeting went very well. So well in fact, that he will be here again in 10 days. For an indefinite time. But I agree that not all meetings will go as well as ours did. We just got very lucky and were the same people in RL as we are on here. No pretenses. Life is good.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

it really does depend on the people involved... i met my now boyfriend of almost 2 months (so long i know) online... we started talking one day, and that night we got together and watched a movie.. and things kinda happened that night, and we've been together (very happily) since.. and we have both been exactly what we said we were (except for our height... but that's not that big of a deal)


now, i've met other people from the internet... but its taken much longer to meet them..


so.. like i said.. it really just depends on the people involved and so on like that

 

[Harbinger]

Soon

Once you decide there is mutual interest, then as soon as possible, unless you never want to go beyond an online relationship. Less time to build up preconceived ideas, and less time wasted with someone dishonest.

 

[Saturn Return]

Ah well..

I think that if you go into meeting someone online..with the intent of finding someone to be in your *real life* then you should meet them as soon as possible so that you aren't getting emotionally involved with someone who isn't really being themselves...like in MistressHoney's case.

But..
If you never intend upon meeting them in person..go ahead and project the mutual fantasy you are building with each other...for one another.

Enjoy the erotic correspondence for what it is..until it runs its course, for however long that may be.

Personally I enjoy intense relationships that live only between these copper wires and our minds.

 

[Xander]

When they feel comfortable doing so and it is physically possible.

That, and when nothing else matters than that.

 

[batter]

the first time we met an on-line friend in real life was a year ago.
we, or at least the mrs, had chatted on-line and by phone with her friend for at least 2 yrs. both had the same feelings that the person on the screen had the same personality in person and they have developed a great friendship ever since.

just a little footnote...she was a southern girl from georgia.
she bought the mrs a t shirt that said G.R.I.T.S.
girls raised in the south.
when she visited us, she made us some southern food and it was great!!

 

[Thumper]

Rule of thumb

When the monthly phone bills exceed first class airfare...


and you have been using the "Five-line" plan.

 

[SweetCherry]

I've known Draco for a year and a half now, and been with him for the past year. Personally, I'd like to see a meeting ASAP, cuz I swear I'll go nuts if I don't get a little bit of real lovin' within the next few months.

 

[koalabear]

When your both single and not married to others.........

 

[Southern37]

I cant speak for everyone...but for Estevie and I....YESTERDAY!!!!

 

[celiaKitten]

umm, what about when you're so damned sex-starved for them that you can't stand it anymore??

(sounds like it went well Southern - HOORAY!!)

 

[Karmic]

Mmmm, I worry about am I the kind of guy online I am for real?, I dunno cause online I feel that I present a difrent side of myself than I do to 95% of my friends. Ive always been afriad that they would determin me not to be the person they like/love/lust after and never do it again ... and that would hurt *shrugs*

 

[LedAstray]

If you're single, as soon as possible.

If you're married, as soon as the divorce is final

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Mmmm, I worry about am I the kind of guy online I am for real?, I dunno cause online I feel that I present a difrent side of myself than I do to 95% of my friends. Ive always been afriad that they would determin me not to be the person they like/love/lust after and never do it again ... and that would hurt *shrugs*

I know where I am concerned some people would find me different in person than how I project myself online; for one thing I have a hell of a lot more time to edit my posts, to think about them, and so on to correctly say what I am trying to put across. Sure I am trying to project a certain image - and I do believe that is the true me.

That image may not come out in an initial person to person meeting just because I am rather shy in person, and because I can write better than I can speak. Timing is everything when speaking, and you can go back and edit out mistakes faux pas.

I would hope that if I ever do meet someone in person from online that they take this into account. Sure there are people out there that are nothing at all like their online persona, but many of us also show a side to ourselves here online that other people who think they know us intimately would be shocked to discover. Which is the true us? Both.

When should people meet in real life? No sooner than is safe, no sooner than they are comfortable meeting, no sooner than they are sure that they would like the person and have answered those questions that they feel are important. Probably not so long after they start having some kind of feelings for the person and probably before they start to have a lust, infatuation or even love for that person.

Why before? Because the expectations could be too much and be a let down, or they may find themselves doing something they would regret later after they calmed down. I think it would be easier to control oneself if I didn't have too much time and emotion invested in the relationship.

The rest is logistics.