When a guy asks you out
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EJFan
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i assume you're directing this at women... which i'm not... but i'll answer anyway.
no. it's not always sexual. but just about every guy who interacts with just about any woman is, somewhere in the back of his subconscious mind, thinking it may lead to sex at some point... be it in 10 minutes or 10 months or whatever.
no. it's not always sexual. but just about every guy who interacts with just about any woman is, somewhere in the back of his subconscious mind, thinking it may lead to sex at some point... be it in 10 minutes or 10 months or whatever.
EJFan said:
Subconscious mind? Are you high!? It is on every guy's mind from the moment they ask a chick out. How much they are willing to wait and invest in the relationship differs from guy to guy but make no mistake if it was just about enjoying the other person's company it would be guy's night every night.
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No, not necessarily. Some guys do just enjoy hanging out with a girl, without sex ever becoming an issue. I've went out with a few guys like that and always had a great time.
No way is it always all about sex. I actuially just asked one of my friends, whom is female, if they want to catch a movie tomorrow night. I have no interest in having sex with her, no interest in persuing a relationship with her, and no alterier (sp?) motives behind me asking her. I just honestly enjoy her company. We have many similier interests, get along quite well, she's one of my best friends, she just happens to be of the opposite sex.
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I think a guy could ask a girl out for just friendship but, if you call it a date I think he has thought about sleeping with you at least once.
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i would assume that sex is part of the equation unless you have reason to think that isn't the case.
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sosexy said:
about 95% of the time. The other 5% is he wants you to hook him up with one of your friends.
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It depends on how old you are I think. If you are younger than I think it is sexual definitely. But if you are older then who knows?
Without doing a lengthy post, motives will change as you get older. If he is younger pretty much anything is sexual, but YOU need to make your intentions clear, what you expect of the date.willingtotry
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yes. that is all.sosexy said:
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I consider a date to be two friends going out to see if there is more there or not. Sex part is up to the person. If the guy you are with wants sex, he will probably be upfront about it, and not just spring it on you. Of course the women has to be into that.
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It's always amusing to see how many women think that they have male "friends" who are not interested in sex.
Unless your guy friend has already done you, or is an "ex", no guy hangs out with women as purely "friends". The only exception to this is guys without self-esteem who simply can't close the deal. These guys always end up in the friends zone, due in part to the fact that their women friends know that they're pussies.
If a guy asks you out, or just "hang's out" with you, even for a seemly casual outting, he is thinking about the possibility of sex. This also applies to guys who currently have girlfiends or even wives. They're keeping you in the bullpen just in case.
If any of you women think you have guy friends who have absolutely no interest in sex with you, here's the test: offer sex and see what happens!
Unless your guy friend has already done you, or is an "ex", no guy hangs out with women as purely "friends". The only exception to this is guys without self-esteem who simply can't close the deal. These guys always end up in the friends zone, due in part to the fact that their women friends know that they're pussies.
If a guy asks you out, or just "hang's out" with you, even for a seemly casual outting, he is thinking about the possibility of sex. This also applies to guys who currently have girlfiends or even wives. They're keeping you in the bullpen just in case.
If any of you women think you have guy friends who have absolutely no interest in sex with you, here's the test: offer sex and see what happens!
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He may be asking you out on a date, in that he wants to have a romantic relation to you but doesn't just want to fuck you right away. But he'd probably like to somewhere down the track. If a guy who's not a buddy asks you out then assume it's a date and not just a friend's outing.
There's an interesting phenomenon here in New Zealand and I always wondered if it was just that women here are so fucking thick (when it comes to men) or if it's a world wide issue. When a guy asks a woman out here, for some odd reason she assumes he just wants to be friends, and will often show up on the "date" WITH HER BOYFRIEND! I mean, can you believe that! You ask her out, she says yes and you arrange to meet, and you're all stoked because the girl you like has agreed to go out with you, but you get there and she's like "Hi, this is my boyfriend Mike." I've known more than a few guys who have had that happend to them. Women. *rolls eyes*
There's an interesting phenomenon here in New Zealand and I always wondered if it was just that women here are so fucking thick (when it comes to men) or if it's a world wide issue. When a guy asks a woman out here, for some odd reason she assumes he just wants to be friends, and will often show up on the "date" WITH HER BOYFRIEND! I mean, can you believe that! You ask her out, she says yes and you arrange to meet, and you're all stoked because the girl you like has agreed to go out with you, but you get there and she's like "Hi, this is my boyfriend Mike." I've known more than a few guys who have had that happend to them. Women. *rolls eyes*
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Thatr's not reality, that's just a fairly nasty generalisation that all men want sex all the time. Read back a few posts and you will find some guys well under 30 who totally disagree with that idea. Yes I know testosterone and hormones and all that stuff, but there are also a few little things called self control and respect. Going by the theory that all men want is sex then all men are sluts amd himbos.Rueben80 said:
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I don't ask a woman out expecting sex, sure sex is at the back of the mind but that's not the importain thing to me. I ask someone out to have a good time if it leads to sex then hey, great. If it doesn't then cool, we've had a good night, again great. it doesn't really matter.
