what's the deal?

[rosebud5446]

 

[EJFan]

have you said something along the lines of, "ya know, i'm happier now than i've ever been but i feel like you're not seeing me or us that way... am i missing something" to him?

i know that there has been a time or two in the past where i've been in relationships with someone who was a little "stressier" than most and when they're at ease it's like something's wrong because it's so out of character. it could be that or it could be that he's trying to pick a fight to get at something else (is he passive-aggressive?) or any number of things.

for the most part, i wouldn't speculate too much or make too much of it until you can talk with him about it. guessing almost always leads to the self-fulfilling prophecy types of things you're thinking of.

 

[skizbees]

Maybe he's on his period? It's weird when one who is angry is wrongly insisting that the other person is the angry one, but strangely says "We don't argue that much." Eh...men don't make sense. Women don't either. Things even out. Have you housebroken the puppy yet?

 

[rosebud5446]

 

[skizbees]

Communicate with him. Or write down everything in "outline" style that you need to point out if talking doesn't work and let him read it. Just take a couple of hours away from each other and don't stay angry. That could lead to resentment. Make a time to resolve everything and move on. Just remember to point out that you're his girlfriend, not a replacement mother if necessary. Some men tend to forget that.

 

[rosebud5446]

 

[EJFan]

... he's saying. 'no, you don't feel like this, you feel like this .

can you ask him, in a non-confrontational way, to substantiate that claim? he may be inaccurate in his "proof" but then you'll know why he's thinking the way he's thinking and be able to discuss it. questions always work better than statement vs. statement discussions in these cases... when he makes a point, ask a question about it.

 

[rosebud5446]