whats the best way to figure out if you're bi or not?

[donniedarko1986]

ok, i like the idea of having sex with men. it turns me on quite a bit. but i'm wondering if its just the taboo side of it that makes me want it (like, i know my parents would disown me ). so anyway, whats a good way to figure out your preference, and then whats a good way to take the next step. thanx for any help in advance

 

[Shankara20]

ok, ...
...whats a good way to figure out your preference, and then whats a good way to take the next step. thanx for any help in advance

from my experiance, I was over 40 before I had sex with my first man and know I am bi with a male preferance, I suggest letting your cock tell you. Do you get hard looking at naked men? Get some men only porn and look at the photos - do they turn you on? Do you want more male porn? Do you get hard looking at naked women and men together? If so, think about doing what the woman is doing - is that a turn on, does it make you hard, make your cock drip?

Your body knows long before your mind.

At some point you might start to feel strong desire to touch/suck/fuck/whatever a real live cock. That is a whole other bunch of questions.

Do you want to see a photo of my cock? How did you just answer that question?

Hope this helps, good luck - be brave and be safe.

 

[Mari J]

...i'm wondering if its just the taboo side of it that makes me want it...

Whatever it is, if it makes you want it, then you want it. Sounds bi or gay to me. Congrats!

 

[Aceofspades777]

try watching bi sex. finger ur ass..if it feels good go for it

 

[CuriousRed]

I have the desire but I don't seem to have the options. My wife's very turned on by the fact and she'd love to see it, but we can't work out a scenerio. That being said, she's done just about everything to me anally that can be done so I'm guessing a live cock couldn't be worse! In fact, I'm sure it's better. I guess if you do it and like it and wanna do it somemore then you might just be bi!

 

[Shankara20]

...she's done just about everything to me anally that can be done so I'm guessing a live cock couldn't be worse!

How your ass hungers for something nice and firm can be a good indicator, however I know several self identified "hets" that love anal play. For some reason, to my mind, the label tends to change from "het" to "bi" with the desire to take a cock in your mouth. I may be way off base because I also beleave the only person able to label someone is the person him/her self. I'm confused a bit, think I'll go to sleep and revisit question later.

All I know for sure is I like pussy, I like cock. I call myself bi, but right now I'd prefer a willing cock to a willing pussy.

 

[donniedarko1986]

yeah.... i think i'm bi. woot! now i get rejected by both sexes partay! oh wait.... no.... no thats not good at all lol

 

[none2_none2]

from my experiance, I was over 40 before I had sex with my first man and know I am bi with a male preferance, I suggest letting your cock tell you. Do you get hard looking at naked men? Get some men only porn and look at the photos - do they turn you on? Do you want more male porn? Do you get hard looking at naked women and men together? If so, think about doing what the woman is doing - is that a turn on, does it make you hard, make your cock drip?

Your body knows long before your mind.

At some point you might start to feel strong desire to touch/suck/fuck/whatever a real live cock. That is a whole other bunch of questions.

Do you want to see a photo of my cock? How did you just answer that question?

Hope this helps, good luck - be brave and be safe.

I don't think sexuality is always that simple because sexuality really is more varied than most would have you believe... In my case, when I started sex in my 20's, my mind told me I wanted a guy, but my body told me other penises did little for me. For two years I was in limbo -- doing lots of gay sex, but it did so very little for me. One day, a guy let me fuck him. Finally, firecrackers went off. Physically, if male/male sex for me consisted only of j/o, mutual oral, or bottoming, I'd just assume go straight because it is so unnatural/incomplete for me. On the other hand, fucking a guy puts me on cloud nine. Visually, I like body hair, muscles, not too thin/not to obease guys. I also like a white ass -- something virginal about a guy who doesn't tan his ass... Its been about 25 years since I started gay sex, my frequency of needing sex has change as i don't need it every day. However, the kind of man that turns me on, and the kind of sex I crave has not.

I would say that I suspected I would like to fuck a guy even when I was a teen, but I was so afraid that if I approached what turned me on (hairy, adult males) and asked if I could fuck them, they would have beat the shit out of me. (Yes, I suppose I should write a book and title it the "Retrospect: Frustrations of a closeted teen top...)

Perhaps if you really look into yourself, you to may know your the answer already. Otherwise, just take your time, and know that sexuality is very personal. Labels like gay/bi/str8 or craving cock vs vagina really don't do justice to the wide variation on what turns a person on.

 

[Clairebutterfly]

I know that I am attracted to women, but I have never acted on it because I'm married.

 

[misspatiant]

I know that I am attracted to women, but I have never acted on it because I'm married.

I feel the same as you but now im not married and its hard to know where and how to start looking!

 

[chrk1]

experience is the best teacher. just do it. if it's not for you, then don't do it again.