What's on his mind?

[NaomiWiz]

Its not that we don't love each other but just that i'm having hard time understand him. He loves having his own fantasies by reading sex blogs, I'm ok with that. But he just loves to keep it personal. Is he normal?
He is not an expressive type.
When he read sex thread or stories secretly kinda turn me on sometimes.
I love doing it both ways that is on the top and back, but if i were to say it out in the middle of making love session, it will definately turn him off.
He's pretty much simple but with a wild mind of imagination though i prefered
him to say it out, you know what i mean? I've talked to him but he has nothing to say.
Again, is he normal? too conservative?or shy?
I mean Hey? shy with me for 8 yrs? Doesn't make any sense right?

Anyway i can't hang around long, you guys can give oppinions but ermm.. i will try to reply when i've got time.

Ciao

~Naomi~

 

[sacrificedangel]

Sometimes guys are just shy about saying things out loud. Ive been with my man for about 8 years now and known him for much longer. I was his first, and even 8 years down the line, he is still shy about telling me what he wants. In the first few years it was difficult, he would get shy if I asked him to do something new, and it would be a turn off for him...but as we have gone on, he is getting better and occassionally surprises the hell out of me by actually doing something new and very unexpected (I do believe there have been a few times Ive nearly cum on the spot from that). I think perhaps you need to sit down and have another conversation with him Naomi, the fact he "has nothing to say" makes me think its more than just simple shyness and that perhaps he is embaressed or feels that he is perhaps doing something he shouldnt be.

 

[PoppingTom]

...He is not an expressive type....When he read sex thread or stories secretly kinda turn me on sometimes.

I love doing it both ways that is on the top and back, but if i were to say it out in the middle of making love session, it will definately turn him off.

I mean Hey? shy with me for 8 yrs? Doesn't make any sense right?

There are people being shy their whole life, if they're "not the expressive type". Sex is for feeling and exploring with your hands, so saying nothing but showing him what you like is that what turns on, talking about that turns this off, as the magic is going phut by this. That's what even I feel, though I write sex stories.

If you want him to talk about sex, you have to bring magic in your talking. Sex is a cult. Talking about sex the wrong way destroys the cult. So begin slowly. Teach him to talk about your body parts. Even this is hard enough for somebody. If he can say that he likes your ass, you can teach him to say this loud and dirty. Now you have to square words for action. "I'm such a slut" is so much better than "fuck me doggystyle!"

 

[Primalex]

Its not that we don't love each other but just that i'm having hard time understand him. He loves having his own fantasies by reading sex blogs, I'm ok with that. But he just loves to keep it personal. Is he normal?

He has fantasies about your sister and everyone here told him to not tell you.

 

[PoppingTom]

He has fantasies about your sister and everyone here told him to not tell you.

Not me!

And her sister is into blacks 10 inches up

 

[NaomiWiz]

Sometimes guys are just shy about saying things out loud. Ive been with my man for about 8 years now and known him for much longer. I was his first, and even 8 years down the line, he is still shy about telling me what he wants. In the first few years it was difficult, he would get shy if I asked him to do something new, and it would be a turn off for him...but as we have gone on, he is getting better and occassionally surprises the hell out of me by actually doing something new and very unexpected (I do believe there have been a few times Ive nearly cum on the spot from that). I think perhaps you need to sit down and have another conversation with him Naomi, the fact he "has nothing to say" makes me think its more than just simple shyness and that perhaps he is embaressed or feels that he is perhaps doing something he shouldnt be.

Tks for your reply Sacrificeangel,
Never thought it would be so difficult. Knowing him too well that if I brought up this subject up again, he would gone all mad at me. He mentioned before few years back that he don't want me to think he's a pervy or anything like that.
Sacrificedangel, do you think he will make changes if I just give him a little more time like, say 5 years?
He knows what I want and think because we've been talking about this same subject over and over.

~Naomi~

 

[NaomiWiz]

There are people being shy their whole life, if they're "not the expressive type". Sex is for feeling and exploring with your hands, so saying nothing but showing him what you like is that what turns on, talking about that turns this off, as the magic is going phut by this. That's what even I feel, though I write sex stories.

If you want him to talk about sex, you have to bring magic in your talking. Sex is a cult. Talking about sex the wrong way destroys the cult. So begin slowly. Teach him to talk about your body parts. Even this is hard enough for somebody. If he can say that he likes your ass, you can teach him to say this loud and dirty. Now you have to square words for action. "I'm such a slut" is so much better than "fuck me doggystyle!"

PoppingTom thanks for your useful information. I guess you simply meant that I should go indirectly instead. Erm.. I did that (i think so :s). There were times when ML I kinda whispering out 'oh..baby im so horny' he replied me 'god, I can't hold any longer baby'. Then he came.

Let me try some of the example that you mentioned lol. Maybe I did it the wrong way all this while

~Naomi~

 

[NaomiWiz]

He has fantasies about your sister and everyone here told him to not tell you.

(Raising an eyebrow @ Primalex)
Hmm I wonder...

~Naomi ~