Shelly2inme
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- Apr 18, 2019
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Recently several guys have sent me PM asking me what I find attractive in men. I thought that was an interesting question and I am going to outline what I think is hot and what I think is not. I am not attempting to say that what turns me on or off somehow represents what all women find attractive. But I am curious about what other women would say on this topic.
So I gave this some thought and I realized that there are some basic similarities regarding men with whom I have a sexual relationship.
What I think makes a man hot…
1. They have above average intelligence. I don’t give guys an I.Q test before I have sex with them and it has not been a ‘punch-list’ item that I have used as a criteria. But since the men that I have sex with are all very smart I would say that intelligence must be part of the formula of what is hot to me.
2. They have a good sense of humor but are not clownish or goofy.
3. They treat me and other people with respect and they have self-respect.
4. They have a strong libido and view sex as natural and not taboo.
5. They all have a strong work ethic.
6. They have good personal hygiene.
7. They are health conscious and in reasonably good shape.
What’s not hot…
In the above list I hope that guys will take notice of the fact that penis-size is not number one or any number at all. I don’t care how big a guy’s penis is. I say this because I get lots of PM from guys that want me to know that they have a monster penis. They claim it is about 12 inches long and extremely thick. First, I don’t believe that most men on Literotica have giant penises. The average penis is about 5-6 inches long not 12 inches long. But size does not make sex better. A well-used tongue can give a wonderful orgasm and the tongue doesn’t need to be 12 inches long.
Also, please notice that race is not what makes a guy hot nor is age. Physical appearance is clearly a factor in sexual attraction but if the 7 points I listed are in place then a man with average looks can still be very sexy to me.
I am also very turned off by the concept of dominance or submission, humiliation or inflicting pain. I am not being critical of those that are turned on by these concepts. I am just saying that I have no desire to dominate anyone in connection with anything in life including sex. I have no interest in being in submission or humiliated. It would make me sick to humiliate anyone even if I thought they were disgusting. So the idea of being turned on by humiliating anyone or inflicting pain is incomprehensible to me. If that sort of thing floats your boat that is fine with me. Go ahead and pull you fingers off with a pliers if that gives you a thrill. But for me sex is about giving pleasure and receiving pleasure. And I get a greater thrill out of giving pleasure than getting it.
So, that’s what’s hot and what’s not for me. How about you? (I am directing the question to women but would love to hear what guys have to say about this too.)
So I gave this some thought and I realized that there are some basic similarities regarding men with whom I have a sexual relationship.
What I think makes a man hot…
1. They have above average intelligence. I don’t give guys an I.Q test before I have sex with them and it has not been a ‘punch-list’ item that I have used as a criteria. But since the men that I have sex with are all very smart I would say that intelligence must be part of the formula of what is hot to me.
2. They have a good sense of humor but are not clownish or goofy.
3. They treat me and other people with respect and they have self-respect.
4. They have a strong libido and view sex as natural and not taboo.
5. They all have a strong work ethic.
6. They have good personal hygiene.
7. They are health conscious and in reasonably good shape.
What’s not hot…
In the above list I hope that guys will take notice of the fact that penis-size is not number one or any number at all. I don’t care how big a guy’s penis is. I say this because I get lots of PM from guys that want me to know that they have a monster penis. They claim it is about 12 inches long and extremely thick. First, I don’t believe that most men on Literotica have giant penises. The average penis is about 5-6 inches long not 12 inches long. But size does not make sex better. A well-used tongue can give a wonderful orgasm and the tongue doesn’t need to be 12 inches long.
Also, please notice that race is not what makes a guy hot nor is age. Physical appearance is clearly a factor in sexual attraction but if the 7 points I listed are in place then a man with average looks can still be very sexy to me.
I am also very turned off by the concept of dominance or submission, humiliation or inflicting pain. I am not being critical of those that are turned on by these concepts. I am just saying that I have no desire to dominate anyone in connection with anything in life including sex. I have no interest in being in submission or humiliated. It would make me sick to humiliate anyone even if I thought they were disgusting. So the idea of being turned on by humiliating anyone or inflicting pain is incomprehensible to me. If that sort of thing floats your boat that is fine with me. Go ahead and pull you fingers off with a pliers if that gives you a thrill. But for me sex is about giving pleasure and receiving pleasure. And I get a greater thrill out of giving pleasure than getting it.
So, that’s what’s hot and what’s not for me. How about you? (I am directing the question to women but would love to hear what guys have to say about this too.)
