What's ❤️got to do with it?

[nice90sguy]

In the days when I was black-haired and polls were allowed here, I posted a poll about sex and love.


Ive noticed that my stories that have an element of romance (no matter how twisted) tend to score better than those of mine (the majority) that deal with sexual obsession or fetishes.

Do you prefer to read and write love stories? Or are you just after a good time?

 

[ElectricBlue]

Generally my stories have a lot of intimacy and love between the characters, which reflect my fantasies and desires, I guess.

 

[stickygirl]

Love for me please. There's mileage when for instance, one party anticipates love but the other's intentions are more casual, but anything that takes us beyond teenage wank fodder is good.

 

[GuiltyCowboy]

I’d spin it around a bit and say that even those that deal with sexual obsession or fetish require the characters to have some conception of the objects of their desire as people - and the more imaginative that conception, the better the sex will likely be.

If I can be a bit mushy: Trying to understand another person, even casually, is an act of love.

 

[Statius]

Most of my characters are looking for some kind of connection, one at least isn't sure what that is and is a bit cynical about relationships. On the other hand my stroker stories are just that, strokers and they tend to go heavy into absurdity, intentionally. I leave love and relationships out of those.

 

[ShelbyDawn57]

I am all over sappy, Harlequin-esque love stories with Pollyanna happy endings. Make me cry, I dare beg you.

 

[Rob_Royale]

I write both and enjoy both. Some characters are looking for love, others are just looking for amazing sex after years of neglect. I agree readers seem to enjoy the love stories the most.

 

[TheWritingGroup]

I am all over sappy, harlequinesque love stories with Pollyanna happy endings. Make me cry, I dare beg you.

I originally read that as saying you were "over sappy love stories". My blurry morning eyes reversed your meaning entirely.

"Harlequinesque"? The dictionary says that means "like a clown."

Personally, a tab A in slot B, by itself, is not the least bit interesting to me. There have to be characters in there. Love ... depends on the genre, but human emotion is most certainly required.

--Annie

 

[StillStunned]

Even the kinkiest, most perverted smut-reading wankers secretly just want to be loved.

 

[TheLobster]

"Harlequinesque"? The dictionary says that means "like a clown."

Harlequin is a well-known publisher of repetitive, formulaic, overly sentimental romance novels.

 

[BobbyBrandt]

I doesn't have to be romance or love, but I do prefer an emotional element between characters over simplistic physical actions without depth.

 

[iwatchus]

Most of my stories are about love as well as sex, often much more than the sex. My main series has lots of love, but there are some purely sexual relationships as well.

 

[ShelbyDawn57]

I originally read that as saying you were "over sappy love stories". My blurry morning eyes reversed your meaning entirely.

"Harlequinesque"? The dictionary says that means "like a clown."

Personally, a tab A in slot B, by itself, is not the least bit interesting to me. There have to be characters in there. Love ... depends on the genre, but human emotion is most certainly required.

--Annie

Updated it, adding a dash. That ands context should be enough.

 

[AwkwardlySet]

I like a romance riddled with obstacles, but not when it's the central point of a story, such as you see in the Romance category, or even in the most popular stories in the Lesbian category. I like a sprawling story where love is an important but not the central point of the plot. Say, 30% of romance in a story works well with me.

When it comes to erotic stories, romance does give extra flavor to sex, but it doesn't even have to be a proper romance. It's enough that there are strong feelings of some kind, whether it's jealousy, hate, passion, fetish, obsession, whatever.

 

[Kelliezgirl]

I doesn't have to be romance or love, but I do prefer an emotional element between characters over simplistic physical actions without depth.

Agreed, if there is no emotional connection between the characters then it just isn't interesting to me. Since we are talking about sex, the most common emotional attachment is love.

 

[THBGato]

Do you prefer to read and write love stories?

Yes. It's what brought me here, and what keeps me hanging around like that neighbourhood kid none of your kids is really friends with anymore but keeps turning up for the home baking.

 

[Erozetta]

In the days when I was black-haired and polls were allowed here, I posted a poll about sex and love.


I've noticed that my stories that have an element of romance (no matter how twisted) tend to score better than those of mine (the majority) that deal with sexual obsession or fetishes.

Do you prefer to read and write love stories? Or are you just after a good time?

The opening line in my profile sums it up pretty nicely.

"My writing can be summed up as a love of fear and a fear of love."

Do I like love stories? Sometimes. It depends on how they are written.

I do like to write love stories, but my love stories tend to be difficult ones.

Lust stories are much easier, and it's pretty common to mask lust as love. Any relationship where declarations of love happen before knowing someone a few months is most likely a lust story. If they haven't fought, they have no bearing on what it means to actually love the other person because love should last through fights.

Like, I've been mad at my husband, but my love for him never wavered. Being angry with someone and still loving them is a lasting type of love.

Many "love" stories here aren't actually love stories, they are lust stories with the glossy veneer of love because everything has gone smoothly for them and characters declaring their love for one another gives most readers a sense of goodness and happiness.

My favorite stories so far have been the ones that end at the start of a relationship. No declarations of love just a touch of hope for what could be. Only rarely has someone made the early declaration work, but even then it reads more as obsession or deep infatuation than love.

 

[pink_silk_glove]

In the days when I was black-haired and polls were allowed here, I posted a poll about sex and love.


Ive noticed that my stories that have an element of romance (no matter how twisted) tend to score better than those of mine (the majority) that deal with sexual obsession or fetishes.

Do you prefer to read and write love stories? Or are you just after a good time?

I always have emotion in my stories, not necessarily love.

My only story that scores anything decent is my most kinky, although it does have emotion, most of the sex is completely unemotional and detached and it's reaction os off the charts compared to everything else that I've written and all of the feedback that I've gotten (including people approaching me in chat) is hot hot HAWT!

The less emotion, the more kink, the more aggressive the female lead, the better the score.

 

[joy_of_cooking]

Agreed, if there is no emotional connection between the characters then it just isn't interesting to me. Since we are talking about sex, the most common emotional attachment is love.

Apropos of nothing, I really want to read a good hate fuck. I've heard about them but never experienced or even read one. Maybe my brain isn't wired up right for it.

 

[AchtungNight]

My characters that have sex are always at least friends with benefits. Love can deepen from that if the story goes that direction.

 

[Kelliezgirl]

Apropos of nothing, I really want to read a good hate fuck. I've heard about them but never experienced or even read one. Maybe my brain isn't wired up right for it.

I was working on a story that had one (IMHO) but it just got too dark so I shelved it.

 

[Britva415]

my stories that have an element of romance (no matter how twisted) tend to score better than those of mine (the majority) that deal with sexual obsession or fetishes.

I mean, I like spontaneous and casual sex. Not a love story and not a fetish/obsession one either.

What I like is the story about what brought them together and got them to break the ice, sexually.

Often, that's a seduction tale, and often, it does signal more to come - the start of a romance. But it's the seduction and the initial new-partner vibe which I like. It does not have to be kinky and it does not have to be motivated by an interest in more than just that first hookup.

 

[Statius]

Apropos of nothing, I really want to read a good hate fuck. I've heard about them but never experienced or even read one. Maybe my brain isn't wired up right for it.

I've thought long and hard about that, I have the perfect character for it even. But I can't come up with a fitting story for that particular character, especially since the other 2 stories I've written with her are, well, one is kinda over the top, so a third couldn't match it if that makes sense.

 

[dirk2024]

I prefer HEA's. But that doesn't necessarily mean romantic love.

 

[iwatchus]

I prefer HEA's. But that doesn't necessarily mean romantic love.

For me, the two go together hand in hand. Personally, I don't think there is anything better in life than a love that works.