What you didn't/won't do before marriage

[angela146]

Did/Do you have anything that you reserve(d) for marriage or for the man/woman you did/would marry?

For me, I wanted to save my (vaginal) virginity for my husband, so I didn't go all the way with Bill until I was sure he was "the one". Even then, I made him wait until we were married before I let him try to have anal sex with me.

What about you? I imagine that there are some who would "reserve" anal or oral or vaginal sex. In fact, I could imagine some who would do anal and oral but save vaginal sex for marriage but equally it could be the other way around.

So, did you "save" anything for your wife/husband/life partner?

 

[Pure]

i'm not sure there's anything to 'save.' if i did, it's purely by accident or ignorance.

 

[angela146]

oops, dup post

 

[rgraham666]

Nope. But when I got married I was pretty naive about sex. Raised in one of the whitest places on the face of the earth and sex was one of those things 'not talked about'.

Now a moot point as I've no intention of ever getting married or even shacked up again.

Might not be adverse to a fuck buddy though.

 

[shereads]

I saved the good stuff for after my divorce.

 

[jomar]

I saved access to my bank account.

 

[lisa123414]

I saved the good stuff for after my divorce.

BWAHAHA

I was married young - well, 24 was probably not in those days young. Did not save anything, although at that age, never did get around to the "good stuff". Like pure, did not save anything on purpose, just out of ignorance.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I saved access to my bank account.

You beat me to it!

 

[Noor]

I suppose I am saving going condomless but after so many years I am not sure I could, esp as statistics are that 60% of married men cheat.

 

[Pure]

actually 66%, to which we add 10% who don't admit it.

 

[MagicaPractica]

I'm definitely saving trying to get pregnant. I'm sure people have their reasons but I simply do not understand waiting to get married until after we find out whether we can have kids. I want someone who wants me, not a breeder.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I'm definitely saving trying to get pregnant. I'm sure people have their reasons but I simply do not understand waiting to get married until after we find out whether we can have kids. I want someone who wants me, not a breeder.

We lived together for ten years-- didn't get married until we decided we wanted kids. So I suppose there was one thing I waited on, after all

 

[Liar]

Wedding anniversaries.

 

[3113]

Didn't think I was gonna get married so I didn't save a thing. In fact, I was dying to get rid of it--especially my virginity!

I *honestly* don't know why ANYONE would want to save that given that keeping it usually makes that wedding night painful, awkward, and scary. I mean, come on! Sex isn't something that's best the very first time and then it's all downhill. Quite the opposite. The more you practice, the better it gets.

I shudder to think especially about women I've known who were painfully tight; think about them waiting till their wedding night only to discover that it's going to take a while before they can take full penetration, let alone enjoy it. My Gawd! There's the guy, whose been waiting, and waiting, and waiting. And there's the girl, and there's that moment of discovery, and the girl feels horrible and frightened and in pain, and the guy is feeling guilty and frustrated.....

Sex should be worked out like everything else that's important to a marriage...before the wedding! Nasty wedding night surprises are no fun.

Getting down off the soapbox now.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

I waited for sex until it was with the man I was going to marry, but we didn't wait for our wedding night. Looking back... I wish I had experienced sex with others before tying myself to a man I am not sexually compatible with. Then again for the first 6 years of our marriage we were compatible, now though we aren't and I'm in a place I never thought I would be.

I'd also never given head before either, so he was my first for that. He was my first for some things. Not all, though he thinks he is. He also won't be my first for other experiences I desire, but that's just the way things have played out in my life.

 

[elsol]

i'm not sure there's anything to 'save.' if i did, it's purely by accident or ignorance.

Or because, like me... you couldn't find someone who would let you.

"It's just a Wonder Woman outfit, dammit!"

 

[Boxlicker101]

I didn't get married until I was 40 years old, and saved nothing, at least nothing sexual. When I was a teenager, most guys were eager to lose their virginity and most girls wanted to keep theirs for the legendary "Mr. Right". What a waste for all concerned.

 

[Noor]

actually 66%, to which we add 10% who don't admit it.

Now, I am NEVER going to do it