what would YOU do?

[skitch]

ok....first off...i'm in a VERY committed relationship. I love her very much and she loves me...all's well in skitch's life, right? wrong.

Last week, my ex girlfriends mom came up to me and was talking to me. See, with all my relationships, i end up getting close enough to call the girls' moms 'Mom'...anyway, she really likes me....so i just figured she was making convo. Well anyway, it seems she has just gotten seperated with her husband...and after about an hour of talking with me, she asked me if i'd like to come over and have a drink...spend the night, yada yada. She tells me she just need some companionship and someone to hold her for a night. I'm assuming it's much more than that, but anyway....she also said that if we did end up doing stuff, that it would only be one time and she would make sure i am financially secure until i get out of college...she's a big time lawyer...Mucho Pesos.

I guess it's sorta like the movie Indecent Proposal...

so what would you do?

 

[Cheri]

If you love this girl, then I think you'd better turn it down. No matter what would happen with this woman or whether or not your girlfriend would find out, it will always be there between you. Is the promise of easy money really worth that kind of grief? I tend to think a woman who'd do stuff like that is not to be trusted anyway...

 

[Weird Harold]

Be as supportive of her mother as you can, but no more than you are comfortable with.

It sounds like she's having a hard time with the separation, and doesn't know how to handle things. If you turn her down, do it as gently as possible. If you know a single man (closer to) her age, try matchmaking.

You might consider talking things over with her daughter. A risky business, but I'm willing to bet her daughter knows her mother better than you do. This might be a devious attempt at breaking you and her daughter up.

 

[forgetunome]

WOW!

You must be a really nice person for an ex girlfriends mom to still like you! To be asked such a thing is quite an ego booster...but if you are in a committed relationship you have to ask yourself is it worth the risk? I am afraid that you will walk away from this "one time thing" with more baggage that could explode in your face not to mention hurt your current girlfriend to make it worth it. But...that's only my opinion for whatever it's worth....2 cents maybe.

On the lighter side this sounds like the making of a Jerry Springer show subject if carried out.


Good luck....I am with Weird Harold she is probably hurting right now so be gentle with the let down.

 

[Guest]

Mucho Pesos.

honesty is the best policy. Tell her you would have NO PROBLEM adhering to her request, if you were available, and that you are VERY flattered. Then let her know you are sincerely concerned for her. This is a desparate plea, and she is vulnerable. If she has any scruples, she will understand your stance if put up appropriately.

- Moon