what would you do if.....

[Willing and Unsure]

... one of your closest friends decided that they didnt want anything to do with you because of a lie that someone else told?


and i'll explain here... your friend and his girlfriend broke up, both good friends of yours. after the breakup, someone on the outside starts telling him that you told her to break up with him because you wanted him for yourself. but you never said or did such a thing. and now, your friend (the guy) has decided that he wants nothing to do with you because of what the other person said.


and btw... its the guy in this situation that wants nothing to do with you now in case you didnt get that

 

[bluntforcemama]

I'd say that if they believed that lie, then fuck them, they aren't worth it. Fair-weather friends aren't worth the stress.

 

[MysteryJKR]

well sweetie if its your friend who im thinkin of i know your not just gonna say heck with it..


you should talk to him and really let him know that you didnt do what he believes you did. talking things through always worked for me.. sometimes not right away... sometimes yes right away but talkings always good and you two are friends so just try and get him to listen to you..

 

[Svedish_Chef]

If they want to believe the bullshit and aren't listening to you.

Fuck em, they aren't worth it

 

[Willing and Unsure]

*bump*

just bumpin this up for some more input

 

[Always]

well if they believed it - and still distrust you after you've at least tried to explain - well then yeah, fuck them. if they're that easily turned against you then they're not someone you want at your back when you'll need them.

 

[morninggirl5]

It sounds like you're caught in the middle in a no-win situation. No matter what you say, someone is going to paint you as the bad guy. Step back and let everything calm down for a couple of days, then try to mend fences.

Just a thought--- does he believe this story because he senses that you might care for him more than mere friendship? While guys can be really dense sometimes, they are pretty good at figuring out how we feel if they're given enough clues (told point blank by someone). If you do care for him "in that way" be very very very careful how you approach him. He may see you as a "vulture" trying to capitalize on his pain even if he believes you didn't tell his girlfriend to dump him.

 

[scylis]

my answer depends on who told him that.

if it's another good friend of both of yours, then i'd tell you to try to talk to him and try to work it out. there may have been some misinformation given to the friend that told him.

if it's someone who doesn't like you one bit, then just say "fuck him" (and i know it would be hard to do so, i really do) and move on. if he doesn't see that that person might say that just to hurt you, then he's not worth it.

if it's a really good friend of his, but just an aquaintance of yours, then try to talk to him, but be ready to just say "fuck him" and move on. rarely does one expect a friend to lie to them or tell them wrong, but if he is really your best friend, then he wouldn't be so quick to dump on you.

if it's a non-friend of both of yours, then definently say "fuck him" and move on. if he would believe basically a stranger over his best friend, then he's not worth it.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

see... i dont look at him as anything but a friend... and i dont think i will ever see him as more than that just from everything we've been through...

and he didnt get this thought from me that i want him... day by day i'm getting closer to getting my own hunny that is not him

 

[Willing and Unsure]

*bump* push you back up again