What would you do if...

[DarlingBri]

It's too quiet here! This was the only topic I could come up with:

What would you do if in an otherwise happy, long-standing realtionship, you discovered a sexual need that your partner objected to and just would not fulfill?

It could be anything: anal sex, domination, call me Daddy, whatever; your partner is NOT having it, but you really feel a need for it.

Do you live your life feeling sexually unfulfilled, play outside the marriage, or... ?

 

[Ravenloft]

There are things that I don't feel fully comfortable indulging in, but if they give whatever woman I am with pleasure I would fulfill them to the best of my ability. To give less than what your partner needs seems selfish to me.

 

[Nicole]

Well lets see .... I don't have to worry about that right now.

The person that I'm in a relationship with at this time (and hopefully for the rest of my life), and I seem to have the same feelings, the same desires, and the same outlook on sex.

What can I say??? He is Perfect ... well he is perfect for ME

If you should see this babe ... I'm so in love with you, and you make me the happiest girl in the world and you have for the past year now ... Thank-you Gorgeous man

 

[Ravenloft]

*Rolling eyes* You go Nicole...

 

[DarlingBri]

There are things that I don't feel fully comfortable indulging in, but if they give whatever woman I am with pleasure I would fulfill them to the best of my ability. To give less than what your partner needs seems selfish to me.

Agreed, and I'd like to think I'd do the same and that my partner would also. But we're playing What If.

So what if, for example, your other half really wanted to try anal sex, and you found the idea so repugnant that you could not even maintain an erection when faced with the task.

What should Mrs Ravenloft do?

 

[BrainyBeauty]

I would call 1-900-COVERMEINHOTFUDGE and leave it to the professionals.


Err, doesn't everyone???

 

[Nicole]

*Rolling eyes* You go Nicole...

At least I'm Happy.

I do agree with you though, I may not be comfortable with all, but I try to accept the other person's "quirks", if you don't then your own selfishness is shining through, and that alone is enough to wreck a relationship.

You know I just recently found out my Ex likes to wear Women's underwear. Not sure how I would have coped with that during the relationship, BUT I'm not one to throw Stones at Glass Houses, so I didn't say anything, just sort of sat there with my mouth open (LOL).

To work at your relationship wouldn't it be worth trying something (Unless it completely Repulses you), at least once?

Isn't it all about working through something? How do you know you don't like it unless you try?

 

[Ravenloft]

Hopefully this phantom woman would realize that I had given the effort to try for her and at the very least not stray from me... I'd use my fingers, a toy, whatever was needed, if I found that I couldn't provide with flesh and blood...

 

[Mistress]

sighs
Welp, this topic depresses me....
Wonders off thinking of everything she cant do...

 

[Juspar Emvan]

lol, been here . . .


Anyway, your hypotheical situation - the sex is otherwise fulfulling and satsfying? The rest of the relationship is complete and stable? Deal with it, you can't have everything you want in life. And if you take that attitude, you just may find that she finds herself able to compromise too.

 

[Ally C]

... I sang out of tune? Would you stand up and walk out on me? Lend me your ear, and I'll sing you a song - and I'll try not to sing out of key ...


Just seemed so appropriate, especially if you suffer from a karaoke fetish.

 

[Mistress]

screams!!!

I love that song..damnit, now I"m gonna have to hunt it down and listen to it..

 

[DarlingBri]

Isn't it all about working through something? How do you know you don't like it unless you try?

Personally, there are just some things I'm not going to try with the man I am madly in love with. A ménage a trois is one of them. In my head, I dearly want to make every single one of his fantasies come true.

In reality, if he gets naked with, let alone fucks, someone else, I will kill him.

 

[Coggie]

It's too quiet here! This was the only topic I could come up with:

What would you do if in an otherwise happy, long-standing realtionship, you discovered a sexual need that your partner objected to and just would not fulfill?

It could be anything: anal sex, domination, call me Daddy, whatever; your partner is NOT having it, but you really feel a need for it.

Do you live your life feeling sexually unfulfilled, play outside the marriage, or... ?

Er, in such a relationship shoudn't you just discuss it? Pillow talk can slap down, tie up or generally resolve many back door issues I hear?

PS sooooooo this is what you folks over the pond refer to as the First Amendment......kewell.

 

[DarlingBri]

Er, in such a relationship shoudn't you just discuss it? Pillow talk can slap down, tie up or generally resolve many back door issues I hear?

Of *course* you should just discuss it. What I was curious about was how people reslove an unresolvable issue after they've discussed it.

Given the wide-ranging lifestyles at Lit, I was trying not to hold something up as an example and say, "Eww, that's gross." But personally, I think watersports are gross. If my partner wanted me to piss as a sexual activity, I really don't think I could do it.

My personal tastes range over the more widely acceptable, so I've never been in this position. I was curious as to how couples deal with the issues that talking can't resolve.

PS sooooooo this is what you folks over the pond refer to as the First Amendment......kewell.

Apparently, yes, this is Free Speech unless they want to read Huck Finn. I'm not sure I get that one, but never mind.

Welcome to Lit

 

[RudeNastyAssBitch]

... I sang out of tune? Would you stand up and walk out on me? Lend me your ear, and I'll sing you a song - and I'll try not to sing out of key ...


Just seemed so appropriate, especially if you suffer from a karaoke fetish.

La la La La! It Just So Happens, That I Suffer From This Disabling Fetish! I Can Do Nothing But Sing Out Loud, EVERYWHERE I Go. People Belive Me To Be Crazy. La, Doo Bee Da Da Da!

What The Fuck Is This Thread About? ~Looking At The Top Bar Of Browser~ AH Yes Well, I would Bend Over Backwards, Bark Like A Dog & Even Purchase The Gerbils!

Gotta Writhe With The Punches, Dontcha Think?


RNAB