What would you do if

[KillerMuffin]

every time you and your lover had sex he or she ended up doubled over on the floor almost crying with pain due to some physical condition that makes the movements painful?

Would you stay with him or her?
Would you still have sex when s/he wanted to?
Would you develop a complex?
What would you do?



Curiosity piqued the Muffin.

 

[April]

I would haul their back end to the doctor right quick.
Don't think I would be having sex with them either. I'm a softie. Can't stand to see people in pain. Definitely develop a complex too.

 

[Sillyman]

Well now, that's a horrific image. It depends on how long we had been together when the condition developed. I have a high sex drive and would have problems being intimately involved with someone who couldn't have sex without pain.

If it was someone I had been with a while, I would probably stay with them, although I might try to see if their were other routes to physical pleasure we could explore besides whatever was causing them pain.

And yes, the situation might be a tad scarring. Women crying and in pain are certainly not a turn-on.

 

[Liontamr]

I'd still stay with her.. Get her to see a doctor about her condition.. If it was one that couldn't be fixed though I'd still stay with her. If she wanted sex.. I don't know, that would be tough since sex to me is all about making sure she very much enjoys it.

I am assuming that it's just the act of sex we are talking about though right? Foreplay is still fair game?

 

[MechaBlade]

No, assuming she wasn't a masochist who really enjoyed it. I mean that's just selfish. How could you hurt the one you love?

Women crying and in pain are certainly not a turn-on.

Uh, heh. Well... still. I wouldn't do it. That's bad.

 

[Weird Harold]

...pain due to some physical condition that makes the movements painful?

Tie her up so she couldn't move?

If it isn't the sex that hurts, but the movement, then I'd find a position that didn't require movement on her part.

 

[Liontamr]

Well I wasn't thinking so much doing different positions... But if it's just the movements in the act of sex that hurt, then foreplay like stroking and petting and oral should be ok right?

If it's a case of any sex act causing harm then the answer is no, not a chance of doing anything in bed until treatment is found.

 

[Sillyman]

Uh, heh. Well... still. I wouldn't do it. That's bad.

Alright, maybe I could modify that statement somewhat, but really, there is a difference between consensual games and a medical condition.

 

[riff]

I'd wonder what was wrong. Someone said something about a doctor.

 

[Anais Dahl]

After consulting a doctor, if everything was the same, I would certainly stay with him. If it is the movements, not the sex, I can think of at least five things off the top of my head that I could do to pleasure him that would not require movement on his part. If that still hurt him, I would find another way, and if he could not be touched sexually at all, then we just wouldn't.

If he still wanted to have sex, even with the pain, I think I would find the way that causes the least pain and go with that, simply because it would still be hell to go through life without being touched.

As for me, my husband and I have a sexually open marriage, so bringing home a man or woman to take care of me would not be a problem.

Basically, it is the love that matters. Sex is important and hard to live without, but it is still secondary for me.

 

[Jim_Henson]

Basically, it is the love that matters. Sex is important and hard to live without, but it is still secondary for me.

I'd stay.

 

[floridaguy64]

Had that experience once..... I stayed, she went to the doctor.... turned out to be a bladder infection from hell....

A little medicene and a whole lot of patience....all went well afterwards.

 

[Hotred911]

My husband and I do have this problem, and it's me that's doubled over in pain afterwards. I have been to the doctor, the pain is from my uterus being tilted, but we've found ways to work around it. I love alot of foreplay, and I love to pleasure him. And when we have sex, the pain usually goes away after about five minutes or so. The pleasure we get from sex is worth five minutes of pain for me.

 

[SamEyeAm]

If it was someone I was already in a relationship with, I'd definately stay.

 

[Guest]

Never had the oppurtunity. But, my question, what would you do if a guy wasn't able to have intercourse? My life fucking sucks.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

Would you stay with him or her?
Would you still have sex when s/he wanted to?
Would you develop a complex?
What would you do?

1) yes cause sex isn't life to me
2) yes if they wanted to and knew the price
3) complex how? I think I'd get frustrated at times. but i'd still love them none the less.
4) I would life each day Normaly. I'd do special things with them.
I'd live life with them. I"d develop a relationship wiht my hand
wait wait.... have that relationship already.

there are other things you can do then have sex. Love is love

 

[Guest]

Re: Re: What would you do if

Originally posted by Fly_On_Wall there are other things you can do then have sex. Love is love [/B]

I've heard that a # of times. I WISH I could believe it.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

Re: Re: Re: What would you do if

I've heard that a # of times. I WISH I could believe it.

I'm 23 and I was virgin untill 6 weeks ago.

Everything I say. I mean.

 

[Rubyfruit]

I used to get a blinding headache at the moment of orgasm when I was pregnant. It didn't stop me.

 

[Carl East]

I would stay with her, because sex wouldn't have been the key reason I fell in love. I for one like a lot of things about women, sex is just one of them.

Carl

 

[Guest]

Re: Re: Re: Re: What would you do if

I'm 23 and I was virgin untill 6 weeks ago.

Everything I say. I mean.

I'm 23, and, I'm positive I'll stay a virgin for the next 23,(and beyond.) I HATE having small testicals and penis. I have a HUGE inferior complex. Bigger than my damned apartment. I read somewhere that you lost your virginity. EXCELLENT!

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: What would you do if

I'm 23, and, I'm positive I'll stay a virgin for the next 23,(and beyond.) I HATE having small testicals and penis. I have a HUGE inferior complex. Bigger than my damned apartment. I read somewhere that you lost your virginity. EXCELLENT!

lol man talking proudly of his little dick...
is this nasty?

and my point was. Sex isn't an important part of my life
being with someone I love is the most important
doing what I want with my life is the next.

so everything I said about staying with a person that cna't have sex is true

Actualy when I met my Girlfreind
she had told me she would never have sex with any man cause of her past.

6 Months later when she asked me out I said yes, knowing the chances of sex in the relationship were slim.
I didn't care because I thought she had a beautiful mind and soul.

 

[nasty1]

Yes, this is Nastyman. So, are you basically telling me it was overrated? Not that saying that would make me feel better. I'd have to see it for myself, which, I more than likely will NEVER know what it's like.