What was ur biggest influence sexually??

[miss_kate]

When you were all innocent and virginal, what was it that affected you into thinking about your sexuality? It is really hard to pinpoint!

Did you have someone that prompted you?
Did you steal one of your dads pornos?
Did you fiddle with yourself one day and think... mmmm?
Did come home from school to find SEX books lying on your bed?

Spill the beans...

 

[Mr.L.J.M]

great thread!!! i hope it gets going good!!

ok mine is a bit of a story... i was about 6 and lived next door from 2 sisters, one was 11 and the other was about 7. i remeber one day after the older one had had a chat to her mum about periods and girls business... they came over and made me take my pants off ( they did the same ) then i had to lie between them in bed. my dad came downstairs and found us.. needless to say they where ban from coming over to play for a long time.
haha.

 

[Undomiel]

Well I'm still "virginal" but wouldn't say I'm innocent. I didn't find out until I was 11, which seems to be quite old compared to other people. It just popped into my head, why do you need a guy to make babies? So I went and asked my mother and was truely disgusted at the idea. Then a couple of years later I started discovering other things in my own time.....

 

[silverwhisper]

well, i was apparently always a precocious sort when i was young, but truth be told, i think my start was masturbating, w/out any real separate impetus.

as to the biggest influence (in my mind, a different thing than what's been asked), my first intimate relationship. she was a very experienced person and i learned a lot from her.

ed

 

[nycphoto]

I was at a friends house when he suggested that we make a club house out of the unused full attic. It was summer and there was nothing better to do and the attict offered tons of old dusty things that had sat there for who knows how long. Thing half apart and others that we could not figure out.
After a few days of moving stuff and setting up a club house we discoved and old milk crate full to the brim with playboy and some english porn mag, I think it was may field or something with the word "may" in it. This was prehaps the single most difining discovery in my adolesant life. Those magazines were studied and all sorts of things were learned reading all that extra information in Playboy. My age of wonder came to an end, by the end of that summer we knew the what a woman was and what she needed from us. Too bad we were 11 and we had no way to act on our newly found intelligance about the female spicies.
That was my start.

 

[sweetgirl666]

Ah, there is that German magazine called "Bravo" ...and in it is probably everythign explained an Adolescent could want to know...

 

[Halo_n_horns]

When I was 4yrs old a 6yr old girl that lived down the street from me wanted to try a french kiss because she saw her mom and her mom's boyfriend doing it. I was ruined from that day forward.

Yup. I was just 4 yrs old. Just imagine how much I've learned in the last 29 years since then

 

[hydrex]

I remember I was about six or seven, staying with my foster parents. I don't remember who the girl was but I remember waking up under the covers looking at her panties. MMMM the memory of the smell and site drove me nuts for years. When I was around twelve or thirteen I was staying with my Aunt in South Carolina and had just spoken to my family back home. I was all upset and crying form homesickness. She held me to her breast and comforted me. The softness of her bosom I shall never forget. Ahhhhh puberty.

 

[Munachi]

started for me quite late i think... hm, i knew what sex was from age 5 or 6, and i think i never really thought it is gross, but i never found it very interesting either...

remember that when i was 13 i had a crush on this singer and looking at his photos i imagine kissing him but i didn't want to think of sex i kind of couldn't imagine to want to do that yet... some months later though i had a crush on a real existing guy who was older than me and who had a girlfriend... we were staying in this church camp, and some of his friends were remarking about how he and his gf are staying in the room next to them and commented on how for sure they wouldn't get any sleep because of the noise... and when it dawned on me what they meant i did start imagine what it was like to have sex with him and did start to think i'd like that... well wasn't until a few years later and with someone completely different though...

 

[fathom7]

Tow answrs of equal importance here:

Got into sensuality through reading a sweries of "nasty" books at the age of 10 or so. these opened my eyes to what was happening between men and women. Just plodded along from there-- clumsily and never "lost it" if a guy can lose his virginity, til 17 -- maybe even 18 -- so long ago. An older woman (24) with whom I was involved through a CHURCH GROUP ook it from me as a favor.

The second story is more pertinent.

Age -- 29 -- experience -- enough and getting more all the time.
Technique -- jsut about what you'd expect from middle class guy looking for his own pleasure.
Situation -- life-changing that is -- the woman I was with and I had just done some things with one another sexually. Mostly it was me insuring that thigs went well for ME> She -- a very candid woman (thank god) says the six words that changed my life: "I'd like a little more please."

That set me off on the exploration of what women truly like. What works -- what doesn't and how to insure that their desires are fulfilled -- whatever they happen to be in the mood for at that time. Retaining all of that knowlege and appllying it is what I truly enjoy. Watching a woman react to different touches, pressures, approaches, manipulations etc until she is fulfilled is so much fun.

Anyway -- none of the information in the "nasty" books of my youth were terribly telling in terms of detail -- learning on my own after the "revelation" of wanting to learn hit me -- that's where I got what I got.

 

[Etaski]

I remember 3 big ones

I remember my first orgasm at 6 years old; I was rubbing my mound against the side of my bed and couldn't/wouldn't stop until this feeling ended. I remember being stunned at the intensity and was feeling pretty good, but still wondered if it was "normal" (though I knew even then that if it *wasn't*, I was still going to do it).
I asked my dear mother the very next morning as she was getting ready for work if it was alright what I did. She told me (and I'll always be grateful for this, because I have friends who had the exact opposite experience) that is was "supposed to feel good, it is perfectly normal. But it is something to be done in private, it's rude to do it in public." So I breathed a sigh of relief and went about my happy childhood masturbating in private. Never gave it a second thought.
My mother told me later (in my 20's) that as a toddler I'd rub myself against furniture like that and she'd have to get me to stop in public, but she never felt the need to stop me at home.
Secondly, at barely 18 and about to go off to college, my mother (as we talked some about sex) gave me two books from her collection to read. The author of both was Nancy Friday, one was on women's sexual fantasies ("My Secret Garden"), the other was on men's sexual fantasies ("Men in Love"). It was summer time, so with no school I literally stayed up ALL NIGHT reading those and jacking off. I couldn't believe the plethora of information: the lewdness, the explicity, and the no-holds-barred excitement! I reached my personal best, shortly before sunrise, at 8 orgasms in one night. (I was SO sore the next day....)
And lastly, a huge influence was meeting the man who would become my husband. I'm still discovering things with him and I feel so fortunate to have his love/lust. His first lesson he taught me was that, for him and for me even though I didn't know it yet, there were three major kinds of sex: fucking (anismalistic, grunting, "hot pig sex"), having sex (playtime, fun, laughing, relaxing), and making love (pouring emotion and heart into the act). From that, comes all of our adult play. And it continues to influence me sexually.

Great question! Thanks for asking!

 

[Mr.L.J.M]

I remember my first orgasm at 6 years old; I was rubbing my mound against the side of my bed and couldn't/wouldn't stop until this feeling ended. I remember being stunned at the intensity and was feeling pretty good, but still wondered if it was "normal" (though I knew even then that if it *wasn't*, I was still going to do it).
I asked my dear mother the very next morning as she was getting ready for work if it was alright what I did. She told me (and I'll always be grateful for this, because I have friends who had the exact opposite experience) that is was "supposed to feel good, it is perfectly normal. But it is something to be done in private, it's rude to do it in public." So I breathed a sigh of relief and went about my happy childhood masturbating in private. Never gave it a second thought.
My mother told me later (in my 20's) that as a toddler I'd rub myself against furniture like that and she'd have to get me to stop in public, but she never felt the need to stop me at home.
Secondly, at barely 18 and about to go off to college, my mother (as we talked some about sex) gave me two books from her collection to read. The author of both was Nancy Friday, one was on women's sexual fantasies ("My Secret Garden"), the other was on men's sexual fantasies ("Men in Love"). It was summer time, so with no school I literally stayed up ALL NIGHT reading those and jacking off. I couldn't believe the plethora of information: the lewdness, the explicity, and the no-holds-barred excitement! I reached my personal best, shortly before sunrise, at 8 orgasms in one night. (I was SO sore the next day....)
And lastly, a huge influence was meeting the man who would become my husband. I'm still discovering things with him and I feel so fortunate to have his love/lust. His first lesson he taught me was that, for him and for me even though I didn't know it yet, there were three major kinds of sex: fucking (anismalistic, grunting, "hot pig sex"), having sex (playtime, fun, laughing, relaxing), and making love (pouring emotion and heart into the act). From that, comes all of our adult play. And it continues to influence me sexually.

Great question! Thanks for asking!

you where very fortunate. your mum sounds like a super lady

 

[handlebars69]

When you were all innocent and virginal, what was it that affected you into thinking about your sexuality? It is really hard to pinpoint!

Did you have someone that prompted you?
Did you steal one of your dads pornos?
Did you fiddle with yourself one day and think... mmmm?
Did come home from school to find SEX books lying on your bed?

Spill the beans...

I fiddled with myself. I was 11 or 12 when I first came, I was scared. Didnt know what the fuck was going on, but after I got used to it it was cool. Basicly it was the feeling of a good orgasm while seeing sex on tv that got me so interested. I thought all sex would be soo good. I was sorely dissapointed.

 

[polyhymnia]

i feel i was really old after reading those... i was about 14 when i read a book with a really explicit sex scene in it and i felt all tingly and touched myself...

but im still exploring my sexuality and how to feel good

 

[Saucyminx]

old milk crate full to the brim with playboy and some english porn mag, I think it was may field or something with the word "may" in it.

Probably Mayfair--my husband used to have many of them.

I was 8. My best friend and I stumbled across her dad's stash of erotica. The man sure liked hookers. Boy, did I get my eyes opened! Haven't been the same since. (But in a good way. )

 

[College_geek]

I learned about the female body when I was 9 from puberty books. Learned about sex around 11 and 12 from sex ed. class. That doesn't make for an interesting story, so I'll talk about how I discovered orgasms.

Despite my general knowledge with the technical aspects of sex, I didn't really know abour orgasms and such.

I think I learned a good amount about the lust and pleasure aspect of sex from reading anime fanfiction around 15. I would read "yaois" (graphic m/m couplings) and straight erotic stories. At first I'd read them because it made me blush intensely and I loved the warm feeling. Also, it was naughty since my parents were around. Around 16 and a half (yes, I know it's late), I started thinking about masturbating. When I was younger, sometimes I would push what I would later learn to be my clit back and forth and it felt weird, but too intense to be enjoyable, so I'd stop.

I was really curious to know what an orgasm felt like, since it sounded like something wonderful. I'd put a few of the erotic stories on a floppy and go into my room to read them. I would try to get enough wetness to rub my clit without it hurting, but it didn't work so well. At the end of my junior year, I started dating Zerg. We didn't really do anything till 6 months in (and all that was was him fondling my breasts), but we would make out. When I'd get home, I'd realise I was wet and try to masturbate in bed. It would get really intense (too intense), but never a release. I'd always run out of wetness before anything happened. I was really frustrated.

The summer right before my 17th birthday, I would stay up late and talk to guys I met online about strategies for masturbation. They all had more experience with women than I had had with myself. One sent me a website that mentioned different methods of masturbation, and one was the shower head. We had a new detachable one, so I decided to give it a shot. It took me a really long time and I started singing to get my mind off the thought of orgasming. Not knowing what it would feel life, when I had one, it felt odd, but good. Looking back, it wasn't my most intense at all (I'd learn later what worked for me and have really intense ones), but it was nice enough to make me addicted. Everytime I'd take a shower, I'd lie down in the tub and go at it. It would make all the hot water run out, so my family would get upset.

I did the shower trick all my senior year, but I still couldn't manage to orgasm with my finger on my clit. When I first got to college, I was in a pickle. I couldn't use the showers, but I needed my orgasms. I bought some baby oil as a lube and tried it that way and it finally worked. Later on, I bought some toys, joined Lit, and here I am.

 

[Crucified]

Her name is Jennifer. I met her when we were both in the second grade and I watched her grow into a fine young hot piece of ass. We went to a small school in Texas. On an 8th grade class trip, we pleasered each other, late one night, in the back of the bus, on the floor. I didn't get any pussy that time, but about two week later, in school under the stage, she introduced me to the wonders of pussy. I hope she is having a good life and thinks of me once in a while.

 

[Lust Engine]

I discovered my dad's stash of Playboys and a german porn mag in his closet when I was about 10ish or so.

I was absolutely fascinated by the gorgeously hot ladies in the Playboys. They were so buxom and had me mesmerized. The german porn mag was much much more explicit; the two ladies in it weren't any glamor models byany stretch but within the first dozen or so black & white pages they were shown devouring one another's breasts, pussies and pretty much satisfying themselves every which way they could on that natty tweed couch. A few pages after their lesbian encounter came a tall lean guy; again no glamor model but he was hung.

It was then that I saw a cock being swallowed and pussy licked. I still remember to this day seeing this man's huge member entering this thick curly pussy mound. There was even a slight glisten of juice oozing from the woman's pussy. I was hypnotized by all of this! It was my first introduction into seeing two (and then three) people fucking. They were relatively expressionless which made it odd but boy, did it get a rise out of me!

It wasn't until later that I also discovered my dad had this tiny stash of video tapes and it wasn't until then that I saw moving pictures of people fucking, but that's another story altogether.

I've been fascinated ever since and have yet to regret it.

So I don't know if it's been an influence on me in the sense that it has helped reinforce my orientation but it was an eye opening experience.

 

[longtimerod]

Thanks for starting this, Miss Kate. And Etaski, that was lovely, what you wrote. I like the content and the way you express it.

I believe one of my biggest sexual influences is not an early one but a very recent one. I'm 44, and I married my second wife less than two years ago. We started dating almost four years ago. Certainly, I had had a few sexual partners by then, but my wife was -- and is -- best at expressing her pleasure. It's not so much in the noises but in her face.

Still, to this day, I am anxious about whether she and I are going to make love, right up to the moment I enter her. I mean, I wonder if we really will. I suppose I've been disappointed a few times. And she gives me a smile, which I don't believe means, "let's do it." Rather, it means she is receptive to whatever may come, and I realize we are going to do it.

Also, when we started dating, we spent about two or three nights together. For the first several months, we made love EVERY SINGLE NIGHT we were together.

It's that receptivity that turns me on so much.

A couple of times, I have remarked how I like how she likes it so much. Not surprisingly, she looks at me as if I'm weird and asks, "what's not to like?" Obviously, I'm still feeling guilt, because from each time to the next, I forget women like it as much as I do.

Sadly, for many reasons, we don't get a chance to do it often any more. She had breast cancer a year ago and has been through treatment. She's tired a lot, which is a libido killer for her. So are the responsibilities of married life. My kids from my first marriage live with us (i.e. not my ex-wife). So just about the only time we can do it is on Sunday mornings, when we are well slept and have nothing pressing on us. But it's still lovely, and we share a lot of smiles.

 

[redmage]

There was this girl who I knew since I was 8 and we would kiss in private.At 10 she saw her parents have sex without them knowing so she starts touching my cock and i was in puberty early but no orgasm. So at 15 I sneak over to her house and her parents are out so we have sex and leave no evidece . From then on we joke with each other about it andnever ever told our parents about it. Once in a while we still have sex though and we plan on getting married i less than a year.

I have more stories just pm me and ask and I'll tell.

and that is bull that he had an orgasm at 6 not possible intill puberty

 

[SlyKitten]

A Japanese cartoon. I have no idea of the title, but at some point, a man pours hot wax on that poor little woman’s huge breasts… so with my girlfriend we re-enacted the scene. I must have been 6, but I am not sure.

I don’t remember how it started, but I used to hump a pillow and say that I was ‘exercising’.

I also used to play ‘stripper’ with my cousin; I think we got the idea from Flashdance! We would either be two girls dancing or one of us would watch as the other danced.

And the first time I touched an erect penis was when I was about 9... it belonged to the son of one of my father’s friends. I remember poking it and asking, “Does it hurt?” I didn’t jerk him off or anything, I just touched, out of curiosity, his hard cock. He was older than me, but not that much; maybe he was 13.

But my greatest influence on my sexuality was my mother; she was really open minded and answered all of my questions clearly, from ‘where do babies come from’ to ‘what’s the best way to put on a condom?’

 

[Lust Engine]

But my greatest influence on my sexuality was my mother; she was really open minded and answered all of my questions clearly, from ‘where do babies come from’ to ‘what’s the best way to put on a condom?’

That must've been soooo cool.

 

[miss_kate]

My partner at the moment has had a profound effect effect on my sexuality. It is wonderful when you find someone that you trust enough to try ANYTHING with

 

[Daddy's Angel]

Just me

My influences are from everything and everyone around me. I can't remember when I started playing with myself, it seems like I've done it forever. I didn't know what I was doing , just knew that it felt good. Played with some friends when I was little. I am a work in progress in that I'm ready to try new things and I'm open minded, so I'm still being influenced now that I'm older. I guess I'm very lucky in that I'm a free thinker, because my mother was not open to talking about anything sexual. She even yelled at me once for my nipples being hard. I have large nipples, and they're very sensitive, and I was a little chilly. She made me go into the bathroom to put toilet paper in my bra to try to hide them. I've learned the most from my sexual partners. I love to know what turns people on, and to have partners tell me their preferences, (love to please) and so I take it from there and run with it.

 

[miss_kate]

Its all nice and rosy to talk about our positive sexual experiences. But it is true that some of is have has sexual hindrances. ie. a partner who lowers your self esteem, conservative parents etc.

Daddys Angel- im sorry to hear about your mum! What a dork. My parents were the opposite- very sexually liberal. I had to close me ears to block out the moans coming from down the hall (ewww... yuck).