What turns men on...?

[firegoddess]

Hey all,
I really enjoy teasing my boyfriend and turning him on. I lick his earlobes, his neck and suck his fingers. I also suck his tounge deep into my mouth when we kiss, like I am giving him a BJ. That really turns him on. But, I would like a few more pointers on how to make him horny as hell!
Also, I need a couple of blow-job pointers, from the ladies as well as the fellas. I love sucking cock, but it seems to take my boyfriend a very long time to cum. He usually has to jack himself off to get to his orgasam. Why is that? I had previously been told that I am a master with the penis, so I am at a bit of a loss here...What can I do to make it sexier when I suck him off? I've heard it that men enjoy it when women moan, or look at them with the dick in their mouths. Any advice would be appreciated!

 

[LukkyKnight]

There's good news and bad news

First the bad news (everybody prefers happy endings, right?)

There is no simple answer, males are a diverse group (except for that burping thing) of individuals, and as such they have a myriad of different things which excite them. One man's delight is another man's boredom. If there was any definitive answer it would be published, there have been plenty of years devoted to the research.

Now, the good news.

You can read a collection of reflections in another thread here which may give you some insights. Click me. Good luck.

For me the biggest turn on is watching my partner's mounting arousal...http://www.soccercrew.com/forum/Smilies/79.gif

 

[Vanyel_Ashke]

friction

For guys, (well most of us anyway) we need friction to cum. Think about how a man "speeds up" his thrusting when making love right before he cums.

A lot of women have told me that they can not keep their heads moving fast enough without suffering from whiplash trying to get a man to cum only by sucking him off. I love it when a woman uses her hand on me. As well as lips and tongue.

Without having experienced it first hand, from your description I can not see anything you are not doing to pleasure him.

 

[Andreina]

be yourself

be wild
be gentle
be merciless
be powerful
be submissive
be everything you want to be
be your own dream

 

[MidnightAngel]

What turns a man on? Breathing? I haven't found too many things that *don't* turn my man on at some time or other!

 

[HarlemBlade]

Let's see...first of all, very strong YESSES to the moaning and to the eye contact. That visual and audial stimulation usually does wonders for me and alone can send me over the edge.

Also, something you might want to ask your boyfriend to do (which you'll enjoy as well ) is to touch you while you are going down on him. If you are on your knees in front of him and he's sitting on the edge of the bed, on a chair, or whatnot, have him touch you--wherever he likes. When a girl is going down on me, my preferred place to touch are her breasts. Just the sensation on my fingertips and palm of her breasts in my hand while she's going down on me is incredibly pleasurable. Plus it would get her moaning.

btw, your boyfriend's a lucky guy. I hope we can give him some advice on the board sometime, too, to help you out.

 

[Ice Cold]

Try wrapping some silk or satin clother around him, sometimes the friction of the frabric helps to stimulate him!

 

[Cutie Lillie]

Two things I've read to add to the above...and agreeing too...

To use both your hand and mouth at the same time. Use your lips and mouth around the head while stroking hard and fast the shaft with your hand. Its a fallacy that we can do it all with only our mouths and why get so tired when in tandem we can give and get at the same time?

Also.. pressing or tickling under the head, right where it meets the shaft is a sensitive spot. Our lips, tongues and mouths can be so every expressive.. I think as in all things variety is the spice of life.

Love him every second and be creative...

 

[Pechorin]

To use both your hand and mouth at the same time. Use your lips and mouth around the head while stroking hard and fast the shaft with your hand. under the head, right where it meets the shaft is a sensitive

The above works for me. Or try a little gentle ball play, before or during the mouth play.

Sucking an ice cube then sucking his cock should get a positive reaction. For an enjoyable variation for you, pour something chilled and alcoholic onto his cock and then concentrate on sucking every last drop up. That's one he can try on you too. Sheidans or Baileys works really well.

 

[Tungwagger]

All of the above....plus....tell him something sexy(in a very erotic voice) while jacking his cock.....Like.... "I love sucking your hard cock", or...."Your cock tastes so good"...

For me...(and this happens very rarely)...is when my woman says "I want your come all over my face....yeah baby shoot it!!"


Yep, that's the one that works for me......

 

[davekoko]

what turns men on?

What turns me on? A hot, horny articulate, intelligent, sweet, sexy, gal. A gal who loves what I do to her to turn her on and to make her cum. Who loves to be tortured (by withholding having her cum) for long periods of time! A gal who will whimper and beg, sometimes showing "anger" .. "damm you Dave, FUCK ME! MAKE ME CUM!". Sometimes, a fast hard furious "quickie".

A gal with the ability to have multiple orgasms doesnt hurt either !

A gal who loves all three stages of "love making" (as opposed fo "fucking") 1) the "before": the preliminaries (which include the teasing and flirting) and foreplay; 2) the "during" 3) the "after". The whispers, the cooing; whispering of sweet nothings. The discussions of what was good, what was not so good; Spooning. I love to remain inside of her, in semi firm state. And to (as I have mentioned to her) cool down together, and when she giggles, let the vibrations of her pussy be transmitted to my cock. My cock answers with a throb. My cock and her pussy are having their own conversation.

And sometimes, this "after' becomes the next "before"

 

[BodyBuilderNH]

Use your tongue..swirl it around the head of the cock...paying particular attention to the underside of the head of the cock. Also use your hands...one to fondle the balls and the other to stroke the cock. You don't have to move your mouth quickly...just keep it moving..avoiding teeth..and use your tongue to stroke the head and underside of the cock. Eye-Contact...HELL YES!!! and Moaning...YESSS

If you think he is close..pull the cock outta your mouth..and look him in the eyes and say something like "I want you to cum all over my face!" or "Shoot your cum into my mouth". Then put your hot mouth right back on his cock and keep sucking and licking!

These are the things I enjoy from women...so it is worth a shot Good Luck!!!

 

[Rowdygirl]

Get some clues as to what he might like from other things he does during sex.
Does he want to see you touch yourself while you're going down on him? Maybe he'd like you to play with his balls or suck his balls.

When he's getting close, try slipping a finger in his ass. Or if he's not into that (or should I say, THINKS he's not into that), try pressing on the spot right behind his balls. You should also spped up as he's getting close.

Maybe he wants YOU to run your hand/hands up and down his cock WHILE you're sucking it. Or grab/caress his ass. It also doesn't hurt to show that YOU are enjoying it (assuming you are). Let out a little Mmmm! (As in, this tastes good!)

You know what might be the best way to find out what makes him hot? Ask him! Say "What could I do to make this better for you?" If he's shy about telling you, grab his hand as whisper "Show me."

 

[Tungwagger]

Get some clues as to what he might like from other things he does during sex.
Does he want to see you touch yourself while you're going down on him? Maybe he'd like you to play with his balls or suck his balls.

When he's getting close, try slipping a finger in his ass. Or if he's not into that (or should I say, THINKS he's not into that), try pressing on the spot right behind his balls. You should also spped up as he's getting close.

Maybe he wants YOU to run your hand/hands up and down his cock WHILE you're sucking it. Or grab/caress his ass. It also doesn't hurt to show that YOU are enjoying it (assuming you are). Let out a little Mmmm! (As in, this tastes good!)

You know what might be the best way to find out what makes him hot? Ask him! Say "What could I do to make this better for you?" If he's shy about telling you, grab his hand as whisper "Show me."

Ohhhh Ohhhhh,, umpppppffff, oooo ughhhh,,,,

Wow Rowdygirl....that was good for me....

I'm feeling kinda tired now.......LOL

 

[NoRegrets]

Too long to cum!

Hi Firegodess,

"...it seems to take my boyfriend a very long time to cum. He usually has to jack himself off to get to his orgasm. Why is that?..."

Many women do not know that the base of the penis is below the scrotum and that this is very close to the prostate. (male g spot) Gentle action there can be very stimulating and take him over the edge. The scrotum itself is very sensitive (analogous to outer lips?) Stimulation here needs to be VERY gentle but everyone is different.

Being a great lover has more to do with communicating, getting your partner to communicate, paying attention to subtle signs, and generally being very involved.

Try something, perhaps tentatively at first and if not obvious, ask... more, less, harder, higher, lower, etc. I think it's fun and it's the way I learn the most and have the most fun.

Best of luck,

NR

 

[Gray Beard]

Turn ons

Mostly for me she must be alive and breathing to be a turn on.

 

[zantac666]

A sexy grin will get me going but also anything will get me going

 

[davekoko]

what turns me on?

It is still: a hot horny gal, with a hot horny mind, a hot horny body and who can comunicate that horniness, whether it be in person, via email, on the phone. Multiorgasmic gals is a bonus! Well developed g-spot helps too. Ejaculators? OMG. _

 

[jezebella]

being a lover

i think that your boyfriend is very fortunate to have a lover that takes the time to explore new avenues of pleasing him...
my mother told me a looong time ago that the secret to having a good lover is being a good lover...
wanting to please your partner...
i have found this to be very true.
your eagerness is a certain sign that you care and therefore many obstacles are overcome that might hinder another...
something i have learned... with men being so visually stimulated,it doesn't hurt to give him a show while you suck him...you can put in a movie (this can also help determine things that reaaaallly turn him on from his responses) or you can lay over him...almost a 69 position,but you tell him to lay still and just...watch how wet it makes you to suck him...*g*

 

[redroze]

I call em Love Jobs

Well this is my first time really giving anyone advice on this thing so bare with me ( I tend to ramble)

Any man will enjoy a love job, but its the "fun" ones that make them cum hard. Depending on thier mood, entice them a little before hand, or a nice surprise love job for no reason is exciting.

Some of my favorite things are licking right under the tip of the head, encircling it and flicking my tounge...and may I add that using your hands is a must..but remember to change pace and firmness of your grip so it changes the sensation. sometimes I like to also do a lolipop..start from that spot underneath the scrotum by the anus and put a little pressure on it with your tongue and slowly liker your way all the way up to the head and take a nice little suck at the top..while you are licking up look him in the eyes...tell him you want to taste his yummy pre-cum etc etc. yess moaning breathing are great...playing with yourself,...or having both of you play with your pussy is great.

My personal favorite is the strong suction action, like you have a mcdonalds frosttee that is way frozen and they gave you a coffee stirrer instead of a straw. this works really well in the begining when you are working on getting him hard..i only do this a few times so it does not become oversensitive..he abolutely loves it..and is a nice change of pace from going full force to slow soft heavy suction.
annddddd for all of you who have stayed this long into the post hehe the latest I have tried and aboluteyly love is sucking his cock, then getting on for a little joyride for a few minutes..pay attention to his neck and nipples for a few minutes and then get back to sucking him off..i do this a couple of times and it really shocks him and gives my mouth break!! well thanks for reading this long hope some of it helps

 

[Guest]

I'd like to add something to all the physical suggestions here.

Guys love to think girls like sucking their cock. Tell them how good it tastes, how long it is, how much you love sucking on it, if you swallow tell them you want to taste their cum down your throat.. just don't take your mouth off their cock too long or too often. Moaning while you suck is good too. If you have a hard time enjoying it this much, I would suggest masturbating or fantasizing about something that you do enjoy more while you do it. Hope that helps..

 

[luluxlulu]

How to turn on your man

Hi There...

Have you ever tried masterbatiing for him? I find that guys get very turned on by watching a woman make herself cum.

Think about getting some toys or watching porno together.

Always try to come up with something new and exciting.:

 

[acer2x]

Some men,myself included, like nipple play while rec'g oral. Try it, he may like it too.

 

[jezebella]

hmm

acer,
not to be dim~
but by nipple play
do you mean giving or receiving?
are men as stimulated as women when touched on their nipples? i have heard some guys say it doesn't do anything for them one way or the other...just curious...